I can finally now find the strength to say that my darling husband of 26 wonderfull years has passed on after struggling to breath over the last 12 months.

Annie, we will be praying for you tomorrow as you say goodbye to your dear husband, Stan. We love you and we are praying for you, for peace of mind and for your strength. He knew you loved him so much! Hugs, Jan

I'm really sorry to hear of your loss. There's an organization just for women RVers. See link below.

God bless you, may you heal and find joy in your life again.

Dear Annie, I will pray that you have many many days of dancing! Hugs and blessings. Deb

I have bought this back to the top to say a massive thank you for all your suport. And yes the hurt is easing but it just seems so strange that now i can eat when and if i want to, I can go to the shops and not worry about the time, I can shut a door without fear of waking him and i can listen to the country western music i love
In just a few days i have started to adapt. My daughter came down this morning and we took the dogs for a walk along the canal as usual and then went shopping, no items appeared in my trolly that I did not know about. and the list was almost stuck to with the exception of some yogurt that i can have as a snack meal mid day or breakfast as a change to the normal toast and i have not cried all day or sat shivering, so your prayers and love have worked to help me over the hard part. Now i just need to get past friday morning and i will let life begin again
Even cooking now is easy as i still cook for two but half will go in the freezer for another day like the Lasagne i did today and the rest of the sauce has been bottled for when i want a quick meal I will have no need to buy much food other than basics as we have two freezers full plus a shed with shelves of dried and tinned items not to mention all the sauces and such i will have to use up. plus one very large Christmas cake that just the smell of makes you woozy that my daughter made for us It will keep and be eaten bit at a time and should be finished by mid summer.
So Uk cuties watch out for a tiny Bambi motor home with the letters BCWENCH on the front and back and all i need is a place to park in and I will be happy to make a cuppa and have a chat and share some Christmas cake with you.
Oh yes I have decided to have a parrot for company and my daughters friend does rescue work for birds and hopefully there will be one out there that needs a home and that does not get travel sick
Once more thank you all so much for your understanding and love I have just made my Daughters eyes roll by telling her that i am going to learn line dancing, Her comment was " Mom you can hardly walk sometimes".
My reply- "Well. when I can'y walk i will just have to dance"
ONCE AGAIN MANY THANKS. TO YOU ALL.

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by michemb 17 Jan 2014

Annie it is so nice to know you are doing better. There will be days when things are peachy but as time moves ahead, it will get easier and your routines will change.
take care
hugs
Michelle

OH dear Annie, I am so very sorry for your loss and please do not apologise for writing and sharing your pain, if you can't do that here, amongst your Cute family, then where.
Our husbands/wives/partners are in our lives by choice and we wouldn't choose to share our life with them unless there was the most sublime feelings of love, friendship, mateship, trust and devotion to name but a few of the things we share with our life partner, and there are many of us here at Cute who have been through this and know exactly what you are going through.
It is not without good reason they call us women the stronger sex, I believe it isn't just for all the amazing things we do in our lives but more for the strength we manage to find to cope, when we lose the ones we love most.

I, and many others, will tell you the pain will ease in time but that sounds so trite right now.
I can tell you that, for now, the memories will bring you tears and heartache and a gaping great hole in your chest for months to come and that anger will also play a part in the coming months, but this too will pass in time.
Then, one day you will find yourself laughing at a memory of a moment shared and you will be surprised that the pain is not so bad any more and you will be able to relive your precious memories without it hurting quite so much.
My prayer for you is that you will feel your hubby's presence and know that he has not left you. I truly believe our loved ones never leave us and that every time we dream of them it means they have come to us to let us know the truth of this.
Hugs and sincere sympathy, Meganne

Dear Annie, I'm so sorry for your loss! I know how you feel, my husband passed away after a heart attack. I remarried but I still remember the good days I spent with my first husband, father of my 3 sons. I pray for you in this difficult time. Love and big hugs, Yoriko

So sorry for your loss, hugs, and a listening ear, any time.

Dear Annie, I am SO sorry for your loss!! I know how you feel, because I lost my husband as well, it hurts worse than almost anything. I'm glad you posted here and told us, so we can listen, pray, or just be here for you. That's what makes the Cute Community so special, we have this Personal section where we can share things like this, and get the support of our friends. I do wish you were closer, I'd be over with a great big hug for you!! Cyber hugs, anyway, Marji

Annie I am so sorry to hear about your loss. So glad that you found something to pass the time

Dear Annie - I am so sorry to hear about your husband and my thoughts are with you as you adjust to a new way of life, missing him but knowing that you gave him the chance to have more time together.
I am so glad that you took the opportunity to pass on your knowledge when you did. You helped me understand the salt issue and I am forever grateful that you took the time to pass on that information.
As has been proven many, many times this is a very special List and while we share our love of machine stitching with enthusiasm we also follow the lives of our members with their joys and sorrows. I think it is a wonderful attribute for members to be able to let us know when they are happy or sad so that we, too, can, in some small measure, be with you at those times.
Thoughts of comfort, understanding and acceptance are winging their way around the world right now and I hope that you are able to think of the good times you've had with your husband and that these happy memories will sustain you in this very sad time.
Much love -
AlmaG.

Dear Annie, I am so sorry for your loss. Stay strong darling. Telling us is fine, and I hope we can be of some comfort to you when you need it...My hugs thoughts and prayers are with you...

I am sorry to read this, but knowing the LORD has your dear one with HIM is a blessing...I hope you listen to him and do travel...Meet up with other Cuties and enjoy your life as he wanted you to....Its not easy watching someone decline and sometimes we have mixed feelings about it..You always have us here when you feel lost or needing to tal...HUGS deanna

Annie, Deeply sorry to here your very sad news. Only time can comfort you and many happy memories will live on in your heart. Cyber hugs Sally

I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I know you feel you've lost your shadow but he's still there. You'll find him in your heart. He sounds like a lovely man so I know it has to hurt deeply. No matter how prepared we are for something like this it's still very painful. All your Cutie friends are here and I know any one of us will help you any way we can. If it helps to talk about him or tell stories about him then I'd love to hear them. You can always PM me. Just know you aren't alone. Even though we can't physically be there, we're there in spirit. Hugs, Dana

I have been sick and haven't been on Cute for a few days. I am so sorry for the loss of your dear Hubby! And, I am happy you told us - we are all related here - or we wouldn't be here. I pray you find all the strength that you need. Please let us know how you are doing - we all care, please believe that! Lots of love and prayers your way, and tons of hugs, Laura*

Annie, I am so sorry for your loss and we here at Cute give our support to you. Praying that time will pass and this will become easier for you to bear.

Annie, so sorry to hear of your struggles and pain. That is, I'm sorry you have been through this, I am not sorry you have posted. This is an embroidery support site and sometimes that support is for more than just embroidery. No need to apologize for this post. We are here for you and each other.

I sincerely sympathize with your loss. Mine has been gone 5 months, and while it has been a little while, having a hobby helps tremendously. As I am sure you have heard, it gets better with time; but don't let anyone tell you how much time. Family support means SO much, as does someone else to talk with. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Also enjoy the motorhome. It will do you good to get away from everything from home. God be with you.
Maureen

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious husband. I pray for strength for you to continue on with his wishes. I am probably where you were a year ago. My husband has stage IV lung cancer in both lungs. He is in the hospital now for the third time in five months. I understand the struggle and loss you have experienced. My emotions are hard to control at times. I go from sympathy for his pain and weakness, to angry that this is happening to him, to scared to be without him. I am so glad you found comfort and warmth here and know you will continue to. I pray God continues help you through this difficult time. Hugs, Barba

I'm so sorry.

My prayers are with you and your family in your time of lost. My the Lord uphold you all on ever leaning side. I pray that each day makes you stronger and stronger. May you cherish the memories of your late husband. Be encouraged Annie for you are NEVER alone!!! May the goodness of the Lord shine upon you abundantly!!!

Annie, so sorry for your loss, know that he will always be with you in spirit. May the Sorrow past quickly; May the Sweet Memories last forever. Chris, Ky, USA

Annie, Stay strong. It does get easier with time. I lost my husband 7 years ago on the 15th Feb. There are still moments but with my craft and a circle of friends helps you through those sad moments. I am only a PM away.

Sending you bunches of sympathy in this sad time. It's good that you can talk about your dear one now and remember fondly all the time you had together.

I am so sorry for your loss, it is always hard to lose a loved one. When I lost my mother I found it helped to talk about her, people were probably tired hearing about her but it helped me deal with her loss. My prayers are with you.

My sincere sympathy Annie.

I am sorry for your loss, my prayers are with you and your daughter...may the LORD give peace.

Sorry for your loss. You have many friends here and they are all concerned about you - so it is right that you tell us about your loss - definitely not morbid!
I lost my first husband just over 25 years ago - even tho I am now remarried, I still think of him often. Time heals but we don't forget - they are forever in our hearts.
Take care of yourself.

Oh Annie, My heart breaks for your loss. I do not know if I could handle lossing my husband either. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you struggle to deal with this. I am sending lots of love, prayers and hugs your way!
Hugs
Diane

Thank you all for your wonderful support And yes the hurt is easing but it just seems so strange that now i can eat when and if i want to, I can go to the shops and not worry about the time, I can shut a door without fear of waking him and i can listen to the country western music i love
In just a few days i have started to adapt. My daughter came down this morning and we took the dogs for a walk along the canal as usual and then went shopping, no items appeared in my trolly that I did not know about. and the list was almost stuck to with the exception of some yogurt that i can have as a snack meal mid day or breakfast as a change to the normal toast and i have not cried all day or sat shivering, so your prayers and love have worked to help me over the hard part. Now i just need to get past friday morning and i will let life begin again
Even cooking now is easy as i still cook for two but half will go in the freezer for another day like the Lasagne i did today and the rest of the sauce has been bottled for when i want a quick meal I will have no need to buy much food other than basics as we have two freezers full plus a shed with shelves of dried and tinned items not to mention all the sauces and such i will have to use up. plus one very large Christmas cake that just the smell of makes you woozy that my daughter made for us It will keep and be eaten bit at a time and should be finished by mid summer.
So Uk cuties watch out for a tiny Bambi motor home with the letters BCWENCH on the front and back and all i need is a place to park in and I will be happy to make a cuppa and have a chat and share some Christmas cake with you.
Oh yes I have decided to have a parrot for company and my daughters friend does rescue work for birds and hopefully there will be one out there that needs a home and that does not get travel sick
Once more thank you all so much for your understanding and love
Annie the Black Country Wench in the uk.

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by asterixsew 12 Jan 2014

Oh Annie you really are a remarkable woman

by crafter2243 12 Jan 2014

I agree. You are a strong women. You have the right attitude. Yes there are huge adjustments and I cooked and bought for a long time too much food. Crazy as it may sound there are some situations where it is better to be on your own. Should you find your way to my part of the world. You are more than welcome. Unfortunately your Bambi motor home would have to stay home.
Angie

I am so sorry for your loss. I can feel your pain. I do not know how I could cope without my husband. You have been through a lot and it is so good to have a place like this with cyber friends and be able to talk through things. Take care of yourself.
Love & Hugs, Nadyne (in Canada)

Annie, so sorry to hear about this huge loss.Morbid?No, at one time or another we all need ahugs and prayers.May you find strength to get through this difficult time.My thoughts are with you.Stella

Praying for peace and love for you Annie.

Oh, Annie, my heart is breaking for you. I understand that saying it outloud makes it definite and you wanted so badly for it not to be so. Please know that we are here for you to pray for you, to talk to, and hopefully to lighten your load. I am praying right now that you will feel the comfort of God as He soothes your broken heart. I hope the sun shines on you very soon, again.

I am so sorry that you went through this alone, you are such a brave soul. Now that you have told your daughter and shared the news with your Cutie family you have now been able to spread the load. Go well, dear Annie, peace be with you. Heartfelt Hugs, Debbie

I'm so sorry for your struggle and loss. I've been widowed, although now happily remarried. The best explanation came from a fellow widow. She said it's like you've lost a limb and everybody is staring where it used to be and trying to pretend they don't notice, while you are in all this pain and nobody wants to talk about it or let you talk about it because it makes them uncomfortable. I will pray for the day that your loss begins to fade and the joy of the memories takes over. He will come to you in small ways so that you know he is looking out for you still. And the Holy spirit will be with you to care and to protect. someday you will feel like traveling and visiting and establishing yourself in your new, different life. PM me if you want to whine or rant about it all! And lean on your daughter - you two can help each other heal.

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by blueeyedblonde 12 Jan 2014

well said!

Sending you thoughts of comfort and prayers during this difficult time.

Annie I am sorry to hear about your loss and hope that your memories of your beloved husband will be staying with you for ever. When travelling your little motorhome and coming in the surroundings of Norwich know that you will be welcome to visit here and have some crafty talk time. I wish you much strength to get through this difficult time and my thoughts are with you.

Dear Annie, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sorry we weren't able to all be there to hold you, cry with you & just be there. But know that now there's a whole host of friends around the world praying for you in the coming days and years! Morbid? No, death is a fact of life that we will all face & I'm glad you have shared the walk with your cutie friends. Hugs to you from East Tennessee.

So sorry! May God be with you, as you deal with this loss

Annie, all Cuties are thinking of you, my heart calls out to help you in your loss.to try to help you to be positive as your loving Husband would have wanted you to be. we are here to help each other, please feel free to speak to us as many times as you feel the need. as I send you love and please have thoughts of the happy times you spent together please get strength from them to carry you through this rough time.
your UK friend Pam.

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by eggyannie 12 Jan 2014

Pam I will now be free to tour the country in my little motor home so who knows where i will end up once the weather warms up a bit and the sun shines once more in my heart

O sweet dear! Your words are deep from the heart.I'm so sorry for your difficulties and sadness.Your message is full of love and hope and I pray for more love and continued hope and comfort. I have started my day with your message here and feel blessed to feel the love you are sharing. Joan

So sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and the family. Suzanne

Dear Annie, my heart is just so heavy with this sad, sad news, and how you must be feeling. He sounds like he was a wonderful man, looking forward to what you would do without him in the future. May our God give you peace and gentle healing so you can enjoy life. Hugs from far away, and prayers too. Jan

Annie, I am so very, very sorry for your tremendous loss, I can only imagine the grief you are experiencing. Please know that prayers are sent for you to have strength, and find comfort in knowing that your "shadow" is free from pain & discomfort. Your memories of the wonderful 26 years you were together will be your constant companion until you both are together again.

With deepest sympathy to you and your family

Praying that you will find comfort and peace in your sorrow through our Lord and Savior Jesus Chrst..He will heal your sadness..God bless and strengthen you..

I am so sorry....please feel the hug I am sending. ((eggyannie))

Annie, I know your grief, I lost my husband 8 years ago and I lost my Aunt last month. You're are not morbid and we need to help "share" your grieving, as it helps with our own. Just remember it isn't forever, we shall be with them again. debbie

I can't truly imagine the pain of loss that you are going through. There are tears in my eyes just thinking about it but I am just "thinking" and yours is reality. I am so sorry.

Annie,I am so sorry you've lost your husband and friend. It does leave a large hole in your life. I lost mine 11 years ago this April. Stay strong, you're not alone. Jo

I am so sorry to hear of your dear ones passing. Knowing that he is with our Lord & no longer suffering will bring you comfort in these coming weeks. We are here to help & support you as we are for all of us we are a family here. Hugs & Blessings Loralye PS if you ever come to Canada you can come to visit me!

I am sorry for your loss, Annie, but I'm sure you will find that your shadow is still there with you, you just won't be able to see him. Love and prayers are sent to you. Cymblene

Annie, I'm sorry for your loss. I know it will take a while before you feel better. But know that we are there for you, to listen en to help in anyway. You know that your friends are here, and it does help just writing about it. I know. I just lost my Dad last month and the words and help I got from cuties gave me strenght. This is a great group and we all take care of each other. Hugss Linda

Annie, so sorry for your loss, it is perfectly all right to post, that is why this site is so different from other embroidery sites.
Time will heal, it is not an easy journey but I know you will be okay. I lost my DH due to a blood clock his sudden death let me in shock but little by little I am feeling better than 3years ago, I found a site this ladies have helped me tremendously it is Corinne Edwards sorry I do not have a link I understand you very well when you said you lost your shadow, God will give you comfort.

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by mary51 12 Jan 2014

http://www.personal-growth-with-c... This is the link You will find out that those feeling you have now are the same in all of us. Hope this help.

by eggyannie 12 Jan 2014

thank you for this link

So very sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathy. love…karen

So sorry to read of your great loss. Hope that you are alright and coping from day to day, will keep you in my thoughts. Keep strong my friend !

Sharing with friends makes the hurt become a little easier and there was nothing morbid about your post. I am so so sorry for you having to learn how to go through life without your shadow. I know you are strong. God saw your husband struggle with breath and reached out and said "Come" and he will give you the strength to continue. Give yourself permission to grief and share it with us anytime.
Big hug for you
Angie

So Sorry for your loss. I love how you got to work on quilt sharing time with your hubby. I pray you will have peace and comfort within your heart and be uplifted with love of your family and friends.

Dear Annie,I too,am sorry for your loss, and pray for your comfort,while you come to terms with a different life,now that you have lost 'your shadow'.I have heard, and you too I'm sure, that God never closes one door,without opening another.I am glad He 'opened' your talent for a new hobby.Take care and when you are ready,do get out and YOU try to live again.Know that you are not alone-Toogie

very sorry for you loss take care yourself.Maria

Good you decided to find your way back to us, good you are gently looking forward to all the good things life brings...visit us often, always enjoy reading your posts. We are all here to help in any small way we can.

I am very sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you.

Well my friend he is breathing very good now in a much better place.
Please take care of yourself now ,and know that your cute friends care hugs Noah:):)xoxo

Dear Annie, I am so sorry for your loss and pain. Thank you for letting us know and I am happy your daughter understood and supported you. Love, Martine

I am sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my prayers. Know that your love still remains, because you keep him in your heart. Please pass my prayers on to your daughter. God bless you both

I am so very sorry about your loss I hope with time you will feel better am thinking of you

Annie...so, so very sorry...after the "dust" settles I hope the sun will shine back in your heart...my deepest sympathies and prayers...Kim

Sorry for your loss. Sending out prayers and Hugs to help. DeVon

So sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Take care of yourself.
Hugs, Lidia

Annie..I was once told after a loss that After the rain the sun does Shine" I hope this helps in some small way...soozie

I am so sorry for your loss Annie. Sending prayers. Sharon

my deepest sympathies, be comforted in knowing that your dear husband is no longer suffering and is now in a good place. I can't imagine what you are going through but pray that you get support and comfort from your loved ones.
bless you
Michelle

My dear Annie - words just cannot express the sadness I feel for you. I do not think anyone here will find your post morbid - we are all here for each other. I am so pleased that your daughter is by your side, I am sure she will continue to be there for you. My thoughts are with you all. Love and hugs Sarah.

My deepest sympathy.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Hugs Bev

Annie thinking of you. I met Stan once at the NEC and he was lovely. I was out yesterday and passed a Bambi parked at the side of the road and instantly thought of you and also thought it was a cold time of year to camp. Cyber hugs to you. Look forwards to meeting you sometime in 2014. Seeing a loved one struggle for breath and attached to oxygen is not nice. Look after yourself

Sorry is such a small word at this time but I do feel your pain while reading this and hope that you will find peace.

Annie, sending you our love at this sad time. Pauline Sydney Australia

Hi Annie, I am so sorry to hear of your husband passing. You were an amazing wife and took great care.

Dear Annie, I am sorry for your loss of your husband and want to extend my sincere condolences to you and your family. May God provide you with comfort and give you peace with all your fond memories. I hope your new hobby will help ease your pain. Feel free to talk to any of us at any time. Remember the cuties are here for you. Hugs, Mary

Dear Annie, I'm sorry for the loss of your husband, your shadow. hope all prayers give you comfort . It's good to read you have friends that are close, and you can talk to . I hope you can have comfort in your new hobby too. And I hope when the weather comes warmer you go indeed see the country. But for now, give everything a place, talk if you want with friends and family or here on Cute, and cherish the memories , Stan will always be in your heart. Hugs and prayers for you.

Dear Annie, thank you for sharing your lovely story of your wonderful husband. It's times and places like this that you can share this information. We all feel your pain and I pray that you will get to do what your husband wanted you to do. So glad you got to share your passion of the quilting with him before he died. And I'm so pleased to read that our wonderful Cutie Carolyn was there for you. It's lovely to have these friendships on this forum. Love and blessings Chris, Newcastle, Australia.

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So sorry for your loss Annie ,its still early days ,and you must be feeling a great sadness, make sure you take care of yourself .
Love
Monika

Dear Annie, So sorry for your loss. I'm sure you have family and friends very willing to listen in your time of need. The more you talk about it, the more it will help dealing with your grief. love and hugs.

Dear Annie,
I am so sorry for your loss and pain. Thank you for letting us know and I am thankful you have friends to help you through it all. I will pray for your comfort and peace in your heart. Hugs!

Dear Annie, my thoughts and prayers are with you, Love Stella