I've just been deflated- I was so pleased with the finished result of a piece of sewing that I had to show it to a workmate. She didn't even look at it but turned it to the back & pointed out where I had made a mistake(I didn't think it was mistake as I'm very neat, front& back, when making anything.) I would never do this- if anyone shows off their work I always look for a positive for them.

She was jealous.. or thought less.. If you are proud of your work..don't let one person dampen that.

did you tell her your only mistake was calling her a friend?!?! your other post with the quilt show what wonderful work you did on it!!!

How miserable that person must be with herself.

I was told every quilt should have one mistake - so I always put one in - just to be sure - LOL
Your quilt is outstanding - can I buy some tickets??

You didn't say what your work was, but if you make a piece of clothing wear it to work and tell her you made it. Then offer to take it off so she can critique the inside...

Usually it is the person who is incapable of doing anything nearly as nice who will criticize. Enjoy your work and don't let her bother you. She isn't worth the time to worry. Some people are insensitive. Many, Many Hugs. Joyce

My husband says I have great hindsight. My hindsight comment to her would have been; "Oh, that is to bad I was going to give it to you but, it isn't perfect enough". I bet you anything she would have said it is alright just to get it. Some women are like that just critical and sometimes down right mean. If you like it and the recipient likes it that is what really counts.
But if the back bothers you coverit with that cloud fabric which cleans everything up. It is an iron on that a Cutie recommended to me.

Don't let her bother you! As the old saying goes "with friends like that, you don't need any enemies". She was very rude. She didn't look at the front which is the main thing - how the back looks is not important - and you were satisfied with it - that's all that counts. I've made things for friends or family and mentioned there was a mistake and got told "can't be - I don't see anything wrong with it "! So from now on, show us your work and if you want to show it to a workmate, show someone else. Her loss!

she is just jelous that she couldnt do it......you get people like that all the time....they have miserable lives and try and make yours misrable as well....chin up im sure it is lovely...

If it will help your feelings, I made a dress for one of my daughters many years ago, when she was in her twenties. She said she loved it. When I pointed out a couple of mistakes I had made, that someone may notice, she smiled and said, "Mom, the flaws only make it a special work of "heart"!
Angel

Gee I hope you were inflated again here. Just don't let one negative person discourage you. Look at all the answers here. I always feel is someone drags you down it is because they do not like themselves. THey have to make you feel small to make themselves feel better and superior. Just ignore her and think of all the wonderful people here... Suzanne

Too bad you couldn't think to say, "I always hide a little "mistake" on the back to see just how much people look at the design. It's my trademark." Forget about her, she obviously needs to feel superior! I remove people like that from my life.

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by zoefzoef 21 Mar 2012

I like you saying "I hide a little mistake to check how good you look at the design" :-) This is true, people sometimes just don't really LOOK anymore

This world is full of negativity and it can be contagious, just don't let it rub off on you. Don't let anyone shut you down, keep it moving and try to put the hurt behind.We do enough damage to ourselves without help from anyone else.

How rude! I would never check the back for mistakes, especially with out asking "Do you mind if I look at how your machine stitches out on back? Mine often makes a mess." I wonder if others have the same issues sometimes, but to imediastely turn it over, and THEN TO point it out is RUDE. Shes not much of a friend and probablly jealous if she doesn't have an embroidery machine herself. Hugs to you!!
Diane

I say just ignore her. If you are happy with your work. It's a pity though that you and your mom cannot join forces and sell your things together at the craft shows. I have 4 daughters, adults and married and I would never critisize anything they did unless they specifically askied " how would you have done this/" LOL They are usually better than me anyway. I long ago found a pat on the back makes you try even harder to please/Lillian

Our Club meetings are a bit like this!
We take it with a gain of salt.
We learn a lot from every comment Good or Bad.
Mostly we laugh and joke.
Hugs Bev

I Never let it bother me My Step dad told me when I was growing up I would never amount to any thing because I loved to draw and Paint .I said I will show you one day.well I did I digitized over a hundres frogs and had a web site for a while and when the econemy dropped I dropped my web site then a few years ago I took a painting course and did pretty good painting .of course He had passed away but I got the satifaction of saying I did do something.also my sewing I have sewed sence I was a little girl/and do pretty good at it.
SO don't let that person hurt you.
I bet you did a wonderful job.
Love hugs Lena mae

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by lbrow 21 Mar 2012

The world would be a better place if we all had this up beat attitude lena./Lillian

by lenamae 23 Mar 2012

Thank you lillian

Ha .... there is one in every crowd isn't there....Some people just have to be negative!

I just wouldn't show her anything ever again.

MJDG

SHE HAS 'GREEN EYES' SHE CANNOT SEE ANYTHING THAT IS GOOD, THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE WHO WILL NOT WANT TO SAY NICE THINGS ABOUT OTHERS. JUST IGNORE HER, SHE IS NOT WORTH IT.

Hm.. It was on the back...and if you didn't concider it as a mistake.. then for sure she is jealous that you can create such nice things.
I wouldn't even bother anymore showing her other things, as she will probably always will find something which -in her eyes- is not ok. Is she even a "sewer" ? Does she knows what she is talking about ? Workmate ?...I don't think so.. Show it to us, and you will get honest answers.

It's called JEALOUSY...people like that just say they are your friends and when it comes to down to it they cannot handle that you are more talented than they are..I would not worry..I am sure you did a great job, be positive and don't show her anymore of your works..she'll soon realize what she did..hang in there and smile!

I wouldn't worry about what your workmate says. She is probably the type of person that can't see good in anything except herself. She obviously isn't the type that cares to make and keep friends. Next time just don't show her anything, but show it to other people you work with. She may (but I doubt it) get the message that her rudeness isn't acceptable to you. hugs & flowers.

I would tell her that it was supposed to be that way and that nothing is perfect except Jesus Christ.

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by minicow 20 Mar 2012

love this

i love to sew & craft & quilt & everything else that has yarn, fabric or needle! if i am ok with a project then it is OK. i tell my kids that thread is like having a BIG box of crayons & i can clolr as i please..the old batwoman probably just missed out on a nice gift in the future anyway. lol **

Jealously makes people say & do some hurtful things!

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by pldc 20 Mar 2012

you could always say that it's agood thing you didn't make it for her! This may make her think twice next time & who knows she may become a nicer person for it & I might even go sew far as to add that you may end up making something for her if this happens

by pldc 20 Mar 2012

happens! HEY there are stranger things that happen right?

Your workmate must have been a frog or lizard in her first life, there sure is a lot of the green still showing through! Lot's of people are green with envy when someone they know outdoes them. Just keep showing and let her keep telling and she will eventually get tired of it. I am sure the positive surpasses the one green negative!
hugs,
mj

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by tilde01 20 Mar 2012

This kind of person looks for ways to put other people down and they NEVER get tired of doing so.

by nama2 20 Mar 2012

Love this take on the subject-great comment!

It is very hurtful this happens to a person. I think there is a lot of jealousy from this person, because she might have been very impressed with your work, but would not admit it. So, in future, rather show it to us, your cutie friends. We will appreciate it for sure!!! Love and hugs.*****

poor baby I sure know how this feels. when my neighbor was teaching me to do plastic canvas she would always look at the back first - drove me crazy but her theory was if the back is perfect the front will lay better. Didn't make much sense to me but eventually I did it her way. I also never did anything right for my mother, to fast, to slow, to loose, to tight so I learned to enjoy what I was doing and learn a little from each project and enjoy my own achievments and everybody else can kiss my saggy butt! *giggle* enjoy your projects and let them make you smile and when you have a question just come we'll all hold you up.

For me that sounds like jealousy and bad manners in a very nasty combination :o(
Reminds me on my mom: When I worked hard at school and get a better school grade she said: well nice but a X would be better...
You cannot change those people. Better not try and vaste your energy. Use them for your craft ;o)
Greetings, Bettina

That is just bad manners.

Dear Denise, first of all don't let other people's comments affect you. Secondly you know how hard you have worked to make something of beauty and your work is sewn from the heart and no-one can take that away from you. Keep your spirits up. Love and blessings Chris

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Think someone might be jealous.

I think sometimes people just have really bab manners and a little rude. It is so easy to find fault and hurt someone's feelings, it would probably be a little jealousy bbecause of your talents just think positive and I bet she wouldn't,t be able to make anything so nice chin up you have a great talent and well done. Suelyn

Don't let anyone let you down. This is your work, nobody else can do it the way you do, so keep on to be positive. There is enough negative people in this world.
to be positive rub off. Hugs Marie

Time to re-inflate. Try not to let this get you down. She's probably just jealous...I've been worried about a few things but my friends just say no one else would probably ever notice it & not to worry. I have had a friend who did the same sort of thing...instead of saying well done on your attempt she had to say I should have done.....

thankyou for your support - have given you all flowers-I love what & how I do it so I'll be just me & Live Laugh Love
hugs & sparkles from minicow

This kind of behaviour really upsets me and it has happened to me so many times. I think she is jealous of your amazing creativity. Do not let it upset you. I know that is so easy to say. Big hugs Sarah.

Don't be deflated... I've had several that will say to me, "if that had been me, I'd do it this way/or that"... My answer is: "Well, that's good, you just do it that way." Most of the time they don't know the first thing about sewing,or embroidery, so I have learned to do two things, speak up, and take it with a grain of salt. Usually if you speak up they will shut up. ( Personally I think that is an adult way of bullying!!!) You keep doing what you do best, and share with us. We know how to appreciate good workmanship in all things made. Hugs, and * Terre

What a shame that your workmate can't appreciate your talent. She must not be a very happy person. She needs to learn to find joy-- and embroidery is joyful!

Your answer? Well, I like it and besides only God's perfect! Don't worry about it; be yourself, give positive feedback; and just laugh. Better than fretting!

Don't fret! I was working on a wall hanging(my first),and I was quite pleased considering...I showed it to a friend (who was just taking a quilting course), and she said.."ooh I don't like the way the letters are made (I had done them myself,and was happy with them).....go figure. I have never shown anything to anyone since! However, I still perservere and enjoy the process!!
Hugs, Nadyne

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by airyfairy 20 Mar 2012

Please show to the Cute family.

by ansalu 20 Mar 2012

Don't do those people the favor and go back in your sewingroom all alone and never show your handmade work again. Jealousy has sometimes a ugly face (even when it is a "friend's" face ;o).
Greetings, Bettina

Do you think maybe she was jealous that you could do such great work?

I'd not share with that person again..or let them handle my work! Beauty is in the ~^eye^~ of the beholder...not in the hands! Keep on the bright side of this...you did a good job, and your way of giving feedback to others is the right way. God Bless you and you handiwork!

Lesson learnt.

It is very hurtful when someone critisizes our accomplishments but I have learned to brush them off and carry on. My own Mother constantly picks any of my works apart and always has to say "well I would have done thsi or i would have done that" .I just say "well that's you and this is me""You do it your way and I'll do it mine since my way seems to satisfy plenty of people;least wise i am getting plenty of sales". It used to really bother me when she did this in front of other people at craft shows;now i just ignore her. I know she is jealous;she also sews and sometimes i out sell her at these shows.That is when she is at her most critical;then she goes home and starts making the same items that i sold for her next show.I am sure this woman was jusy envious of your work;sad really.

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by ansalu 20 Mar 2012

Sorry to hear that you and your mother have such a rivalry in craftshows. Just do your own thing and the customers make their own decision what they like/ sell or not ;o)
Greetings, Bettina

by bevgrift 21 Mar 2012

It is a pity cos she is your Mom, Give her a hug, Maybe she needs praise too.
We were all shown how to do things because our Moms cared enough.
hugs for you and Mom

Oh., that's just plain nasty... maybe she's jealous of what you can do.
Anyway, I'm sending you (((hugs))) & flowers to cheer you up.
... and yes, I'd love you to post pics of your work here too :)

I know the type. Let it go, there is nothing to change anything. We would love to see your work and tell you exactly how it is! Live Laugh Download Stitch!

I agree with everyones comments they couldn't have said it better. You are doing something most people don't and wish they did. Hugs & Stitches, Liz

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by eteaff 19 Mar 2012

Just keep making stuff.

My mom was very negative and it was difficult for her to give praise. It was kind of a shock when she said something nice. Some people are just like that. The back side isn't always going to look that great. It's just the way things stitches out. Hug

Some people dont know how to admire beauty . Just dont think about it you go girl keep on doing what you do best .....Love Brenda

Some people have to look for the negative in others to make themselves feel better. Don't give it another thought. Envy is a terrible thing.

Don't worry, what she thinks is nothing. You know and we know that you did a great job. Big hugs. DeVon

Well don't show her anything ever again lol***unless your ready for more ****hurt hugs

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by honni 19 Mar 2012

I agree

by drro 19 Mar 2012

Me2;>)

by ansalu 20 Mar 2012

well said Carolyn ;o)

by designgirl 20 Mar 2012

I agree.

by hightechgrammy 21 Mar 2012

Don't waste your energy on her :-)

I can't imagine that co-worker has many friends! What a terrible way to live, to need to criticize others like that. I'm glad you didn't seem to take it too much to heart. Her problem, not yours, how she behaves. I'll bet it was terrific. Do we get to see it?

please take no notice. Sometimes criticism is unnecessary and does no good at all.

Take it with a grain of salt, She was probably a little jealous that your work was so nice that she looked for something wrong to make her feel better. Do not let it get to you and reinflate, you deserve to be proud of all you do. Hugs & flowers for you. I also chose to compliment.

Denise Lesson learnt , dont show and tell to this "friend" again. From here in Cyber space...in Sydney it looks fantastic. :)

Good for you. I feel we should always encourage others too. Even when pointing out a mistake do it by showing how to do it better or easier next time. Hugs, Susan

I can understand how you felt. It has not happened to me but did to my S-I-L and she was quite upset.
Shirley