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by missqueenbee47 ( edited 24 Nov 2016 ) 23 Nov 2016

My sweet husband was laid to rest today. He took an unexpected turn for the worst and was gone in 5 days. Please pray for my sons, precious granddaughters, and me that I can learn to live without him.

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by abl789 30 Nov 2016

I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family that God will wrap you in his loving arms and give you peace and encouragement during the days ahead.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 03 Dec 2016

thank you - I think the reality is just now setting in - will have been 2 wks. tonight - so sad most of the time

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by devon 29 Nov 2016

Sending you my love and prayers and lots of hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 03 Dec 2016

Devon, thank you - you have been on the receiving end of a lot of my emails - thank you for being there for me these past months - love you

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by katydid 27 Nov 2016

I am so sorry and I know you will have the strength to get through the pain and sorrow. I pray for you and your family. Love, Kay

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 03 Dec 2016

thank you - for all your prayers

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by grannycowpuncher 27 Nov 2016

I am so very sorry for your tremendous loss and also for your entire family. I will keep you all in my prayers for strength & comfort.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 03 Dec 2016

thank you so much - there are times I go to speak to him - in the living room and suddenly realize he isn't there -

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by gerryvb 27 Nov 2016

Oh my dear I'm so sorry, prayers for you and family.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 27 Nov 2016

thank you so much for your prayers

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by AllRaggedy 27 Nov 2016

I am so sorry for your loss of your wonderful husband. I pray that God will heal your broken hearts and give you peace. God bless you.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 27 Nov 2016

It gives me comfort to know he is in Heaven.

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by twee 26 Nov 2016

So sorry for your loss, hugs and prayers.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 27 Nov 2016

Thank you so much.

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by lbrow 26 Nov 2016

Only those those of us that have been down this same road can know how you are feeling right now,and only God can give you the consolation you need. It is so hard to lose your mate. You are in my prayers and God Bless/Lillian

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 27 Nov 2016

I appreciate all the prayers and thoughts from all the Cuties.

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by claudenicolas 24 Nov 2016

It is a very sad news
Now, your sons and your granddaughters need your love.All my thoughts are for you.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you - we were together for lunch and it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be without him - we talked about happy things about him.

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by greytgirl 24 Nov 2016

Sending prayers of comfort and healing to you and your family! So sorry for your loss. Hugs, Donna

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you so very much, Donna.

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by gerryb 24 Nov 2016

Praying for your family. So sorry to hear this.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you for all the prayers.

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by pacmp 24 Nov 2016

Please grieve the loss of your sweet husband in any way you are needing too. If you want to not wash all his clothes, that is OK, or not remove the last of his socks from the missing sock pile, some may have even framed that final sock, it is totally fine. We each need to do things in our own time and our own unique way. I would not remove all things that make you cry because in reality likely Everything is going to be making you cry at this point. Later those simple little things will bring the floods of all the happy and treasured memories you had together. I like jrobs idea of putting some of his things into a ziplock bags so that you can help preserve his smell, and the one from rescuer about sleeping with his pillows. I know his spirit is on the other side now watching over his loved ones, so please continue to talk and share with him and try to feel of his spirit as he is likely right there, hugging you and listening as you are going through this most difficult time. Having his things around the house as if he was still there, will bring comfort as well as tears for awhile, until eventually they just bring you the comfort of sweet memories. I truly know without a doubt that death is not the end of what the Lord had in his plan for us. Your sweet husband has just gone on to start work for his family there. Time seems to be going faster and faster. There were loved ones on the other side to greet and guide your husband as he passed from this life and when future family members or you yourself pass, your sweet husband will be there to help lead and guide you each into that next phase, that we all must pass through. Please know that there will be Cuties here whenever you need to talk or just need the virtual hugs. Putting on one of your husbands coats or wrapping one of his favorite blankets around you can help you feel as if he himself is still there to wrap his arms around you. If on Friday when your granddaughter leaves it is OK for you to not want to be alone, and need to get out of the house and be around others or to have friends or family invited over. It is definitely not you being a scaredy cat. Every widow remembers those first times of truly feeling alone and likely also the first time she herself was called a widow. Some will immerse themselves into favorite hobbies, service to others, traveling to spend time with family members, whatever and how ever you wish. Staying busy in doing things that were important to your husband may give you a sense of comfort. In the months or years ahead, as you learn what comforted you, even in a small measure, you will then possibly be able to help someone else, that may be going through a similar life experience, your wisdom would then be used to help others in times of sorrow or suffering. Helping others as they go through a life trial to help ease their pain ends up also working at helping to heal the heart aches we ourselves are living with. The more we help others to heal the holes in their hearts it somehow fills in the holes in our own hearts at the same time. Huge Hugs, Pam

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 edited 27 Nov 2016

Thank you very much- you had a lot of good advice - I will try to remember it. I did leave off washing his last sweat shirt & pillowcase.

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by mary51 24 Nov 2016

So sorry I know how is felt like. I lost my dear husband 5 years ago

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 edited 27 Nov 2016

I am sorry for your loss.

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by henalsh 24 Nov 2016

May God be with you. And give you comfort.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you so much.

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by meganne 24 Nov 2016

Sending Angels to watch over you and your family.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you - I need them.

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by bielie 24 Nov 2016

So very sorry to hear . Will remember you and your family in my prayers. My you find comfort in God's love. Lynette

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Lynette, thank you.

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by queenofhearts 24 Nov 2016

May God be with you to ease your pain.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you.

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by harleysville 24 Nov 2016

God be with you and your family. It will get better. It will not be easy but it will get better.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you - I have heard that - it's so hard now.

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by lucypiwow 23 Nov 2016

SOO SOO SORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR HUSBAND..I WILL PRAY FOR ALL OF YOU...LUCY

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

thank you lucy - we will be facing Thanksgiving tomorrow.

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by asterixsew Moderator 23 Nov 2016

Sorry to hear your news and condolences to you and your famiy

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

thank you -we appreciate all the prayers

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by irenewayne 23 Nov 2016

So sorry for your loss. I know there will be sad times ahead but try to think of the good times. Irene

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Irene thank you - it's the good time memories that make me cry - Pat

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by cfidl 23 Nov 2016

God Bless you all.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

thank you -God is good

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by 02kar Moderator 23 Nov 2016

I know words can never lessen the pain or heal the huge hole in your heart. But remember that you have hundreds of arms wrapped around you and hundreds of prayers going up for you and your loved ones. Please talk to us any time. There will always be someone listening.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

thank you - my granddaughter, that lives with us, is home for Thanksgiving, so that has been a big help. But when she leaves Friday, it will be my first day alone. Just hope I won't be a big scardy cat to stay alone.

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by zoefzoef 23 Nov 2016

Sorry to read this sad news. I'm wishing you all the strength to pass these days for you, family and friends Prayers send.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

thank you so much - I need all the prayers

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by toogie 23 Nov 2016

I am deeply saddened for your loss of your spouse and your children for their dad. May God help you all through these difficult times.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you - my sons have really been there for their dad- so this has been hard for them.

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by liliana1 23 Nov 2016

I am very sorry to hear of your loss my prayers go to you and all your family.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you - everyone on "Cute" has been so supportive.

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by mops Moderator 23 Nov 2016

I am so sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and your family.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you so much - I appreciate it.

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by parkermom 23 Nov 2016

I am so very sorry for your loss. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you for praying for my children & granddaughters & me..

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by anitapatch 23 Nov 2016

It is hard to loose persons you love. Thinking of you.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

This is so true. He was the love of my life. Thank you for thinking of me.

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by stork 23 Nov 2016

Praying for you and your family. May you all feel our prayers lifting you up and feel God's arms wrapped around you. Blessings!

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you for your sweet prayer.

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by sewdoctor 23 Nov 2016

I am so sorry...prayers will be said. Hugs!

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you so much - I am amazed at all the support that has ben offered on "Cute".

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by Smokey12 edited 23 Nov 2016

I offer you prayers and the comfort that comes from knowing how much he loved you.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you - he was my Sweetie since I was 16 yrs old.

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by rescuer Moderator 23 Nov 2016

Prayers for you and yours to be cradled in God's perfect love. I am so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. May you feel the comfort you all need now and in the future.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you - every thing reminds me of him. I hate to wash his last clothes - sounds nuts doesn't it?

jrob by jrob 24 Nov 2016

It doesn't sound nuts at all. I kept one of my mother's gowns and put it in a zip lock bag. Her sweet scent remained for a long long time and it was a comfort to me.

rescuer by rescuer 24 Nov 2016

Don't let people rush you to remove every thing that reminds you of him. Sleep with his pillow near you as that may be the only time you sleep for now. Take life one moment at a time until you can take it a day at a time. Don't rush your grieving. Allow yourself time.
You will remain in my prayers.

missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

I have heard that you shouldn't make big decisions for a yr. I dread starting the process of settling his estate. I did hold back his last shirt and pillow & case when I changed the sheets.

jrob by jrob 25 Nov 2016

This is your grief. Only yours. No one can tell you how to get through it. You will have to navigate that yourself in your own time~however much time that takes. Give yourself permission to do what you need to do.

missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 27 Nov 2016

Thank you for your advice. I had to do that Saturday - I had to tell someone I just wasn't ready to go out shopping and lunch. I guess as you said - I gave my self permission to do what I felt I could handle - and shopping wasn't it. Thanks for everything.

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by crafter2243 Moderator 23 Nov 2016

I am so sorry. It is so tough to loose a loved one. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May God give you strength to get through these rough times.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

thank you - if I didn't have God - I don't know how I could make it as well as I have - and it's only been a few days

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by theduchess 23 Nov 2016

My prayers go to you and your family. Stella

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Stella, thank you so much.

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by sdrise 23 Nov 2016

My sympathies on your loss. Prayers are with you and the family...

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

I know he isn't suffering anymore - that gives me comfort - thank you for your prayers

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by jrob Moderator 23 Nov 2016

No one can know what you are going through. I just wish I could hug you and hold on for a long time. You and your family are in my prayers.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you for your kindness - I know I never realized what it meant when my acquaintances lost a mate - I think I will be much more compassionate now too.

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by dragonflyer 23 Nov 2016

So very sad for your loss...condolences to you and your family...

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you from my family and myself.

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by gdsteliga 23 Nov 2016

I am so very sorry for your loss. The road ahead will be hard as you pick up the pieces and start new. Let your family and friends help you through all.
Know that others are praying for you.

May God comfort you.
Doreen

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Doreen, thank you - I have had lots of offers of help - but prayers will help a lot - only God will get me through this. I keep telling my boys - we will get through this.

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by maleah 23 Nov 2016

My prayers go to you and your family for you loss.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you so much.

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by momac 23 Nov 2016

Prayers and thoughts going out to all of you, hugs from Maureen in South Africa

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Maureen, Thank you so much from our family in America.

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by basketkase 23 Nov 2016

Prayers and angels headed your way......I am so very sorry to hear of your loss........

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

I thank you - I feel he may have seen an angel before he passed. His eyes had been shut for 4 days - he opened them - looked up - for a few seconds - breathed 3 breaths - and was gone. I believe he saw an angel coming for him.

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by michemb 23 Nov 2016

My sympathies, so sorry for your loss, praying for you
hugs

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you so much - I appreciate you praying for us.

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by sandralane 23 Nov 2016

So sorry to hear this sad news, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May you find the strength to get through this, knowing that others care and are there for you in your time of sorrow. Cherish your many happy memories of times spent together, only time will ease your pain. Sandra.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Sandra, thank you. His funeral was a beautiful tribute to a good Christian. I am so glad I don't have to worry about where he is now - I know he is safe with Jesus.

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by airyfairy 23 Nov 2016

I am so very sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family at this time.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you so much for thinking of us.

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by shirley124 23 Nov 2016

My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. Hugs Shirley

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Shirley, thank you so much - I think I need a hug about now.

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by graceandham 23 Nov 2016

Bless your heart. May God surround you with love and loving people as you grieve his loss. I will continue in prayer for you and for your family.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you so much. He was a good humble man. God was so good to give him to me for 52 yrs and for that I am grateful.

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by Sewmum1 23 Nov 2016

Sorry for yours and your family's loss. Praying for the strength you need to carry you through the next few days and beyond

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you so much - prayers will help more than anything - God is our only hope.

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by marianb 23 Nov 2016

So sorry for your loss. Marian

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Marian, thank you for your message.

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by pennifold 23 Nov 2016

Dear Patricia, I am so sorry to read this. My prayers are definitely with you, your family and friends. May our Lord give you the strength and courage in the coming days, weeks, months etc. Love Chris

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Chris, thank you for your beautiful message. Everyone on Cute is so special. I love you all - though we have never met.

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by vkggal 23 Nov 2016

So very sorry for your loss! Prayers for you and your family.

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missqueenbee47 by missqueenbee47 24 Nov 2016

Thank you so much.

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