by zoefzoef 19 Sep 2012

Update on my cat: thank you all for your kind words, tips and confort,..but this evening we have put Toika to sleep. It was not ment to be that se would recover from the strike on sunday. When my daughter came home she found our cat stuck behind our television system. completely stuck in all those wires. God knows how long she was behind there. She phone me to come home, but meanwhile managed to move the television. Toika was completely 'out of this world", just kept walking around in circles and bumping against legs of chairs, the walls, the windows,..I have held here in my arms where she slept a bit, but then again walking in circles and bumping against things. My husband phoned the vet and so we decided to end her sufering..she is now sleeping in our garden.. but now our sufering is starting..I know this is the best..for her..but I'm loosing a friend of 19 years...we all were at her side when she left us...I hope she noticed that ...I'm a bit lost now...last week my MIL now my cat .. life is hard ...

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by meganne 23 Sep 2012

Oh dear Linda I am so very sad to hear your terrible news. I know there are no words that can comfort you when you lose any beloved furry friend, and it is even more difficult when they have been part of your life for so long. They share so much love and happines and so many of their special funny little ways, we wonder if we will ever be able to stop hurting over their passing.
I feel your pain dear friend as Tidge has outlived her death sentence by four months and every day I love her all the more because I know her life has an expiry date and I dread that day more than I can say.
I will send the Angel of the Animals to help guide Toika to the rainbow bridge. Oh how it hurts to love our babies so very much.

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 23 Sep 2012

thank you Meganne

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by marjialexa Moderator 22 Sep 2012

Dear, dear Linda, I'm so sorry about Toika!! After 19 years it's more like losing a child than a fur kid. I know, I've lost too many, and it hurts unbearably when there's just nothing more to be done. Our doctors and our vets do their best, but not everything can be cured. I cried so hard when I read your first message about Toika, and I feared it wouldn't be good. You will think I'm silly, perhaps, but I asked my dear departed husband Richard to take our kitties that are with him, Dancer and Minou, and stay close to Toika to lead her to the Rainbow Bridge, so she would not be alone. I really know this is silly, but you said how confused she was, and I didn't want her to be lost or afraid. My Richard took her in his arms, rest assured; if Toika knows no one else in heaven, he'll be her friend. And she'll be waiting for you, young and happy, when you come to meet her. I'm just so very sorry for the pain you're going through right now. Life is indeed very hard sometimes. Big big hugs, Marji

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snowbird42 by snowbird42 23 Sep 2012

she will always be with you in your heart but i am sending you love light to help heal your heart

zoefzoef by zoefzoef 23 Sep 2012

Marji, thank you for your kind words. They mean a lot to me. Thank you for asking you husband and kitties to wait for Toika and pick her up.

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by almag 21 Sep 2012

My thoughts are with you right now in your sad time.
Alma.

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by almag 21 Sep 2012

My thoughts are with you right now in your sad time.
Alma.

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by susiesembroidery 21 Sep 2012

I am so sad for your big loss over the last week and hope that the memories of you dear MIL and your loving Kitty will bring a touch of hapiness to your life.**

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 21 Sep 2012

thank you susie

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by nannynorfolk 21 Sep 2012

Oh bless- my eyes are full of tears reading this- so sad and so sorry for your loss :( Big Hugs for you xx

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 21 Sep 2012

thank you

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by chenille 20 Sep 2012

I am so so sorry!
Hugs, Nadyne

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 21 Sep 2012

thank you

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by lbrow 20 Sep 2012

Linda I am so sorry about Toika. I am a cat lover but my Henry has been gone now for 15 yrs and I have never gotten another.. Henry was a beautiful white persian of 25 lbs and was 13 yrs. old. He died of a heart attack. He was such a comfort to me after my husband passed away, sleeping with me every night. I know of the empty place in your heart you have now. I know it was hard but you did the right thing.. When my aunt lost her companion he was buried in her garden and she put a small 3 ft statue of St. Francis of Assissi by the grave along with a small concrete bench where she often sits among the flowers../Lillian

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 21 Sep 2012

Henry, what a lovely name. Yes Lillian I will put something by the grave.Don't know yet what. Placed a flower, but my 2 rabbits ate it today. Need something of stone I guess

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by airyfairy 20 Sep 2012

So sorry that you have had your dear cat put down. Linda, you have been through so much lately. I hope that things start to get better for you. Hugs Sarah

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

thank you Sarah; yes lately lots of things happened. It always seems to come together isn't it ?

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by gerryvb 20 Sep 2012

I'm sorry you lost a dear friend, But it's better for here. Prayers for you and family to help you in this difficult time ( first you MIL and now Toika). hugs.

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

dank je Gerry. ik weet dat dit het beste is, maar dat maakt je gevoel niet beter

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by sissibrode 20 Sep 2012

I'm really so sorry for your loss....

Fortunately, you have lots of memories with her !!!

Hugs

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

thanks Sissi, yes we have plenty of memories

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by sadp 20 Sep 2012

So sorry for your loss, I had to go through the same last year and know how it feels. My eyes are leaking for you, hugs S*

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

thank you

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by jrob Moderator 19 Sep 2012

What wonderful memories you must have over 19 years. She was a much loved member of your family and of course you are just crushed. I wish I could give you a hug in person, but I will send you one over the internet and hope you feel it with the sincerity that I send it.

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

thanks for your comfort

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by kathyjt 19 Sep 2012

So sorry for your loss. I know this feeling. I had to have my dog put to sleep in April he was 18n yrs old.

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

thank you Kathy

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by drro 19 Sep 2012

Oh dear, my heart aches for you and your family over the loss of your sweet pet. May your hearts be comforted and may you find peace in the days ahead as you fondly remember the wonderful times you spent with your precious Toika. May our dear Lord bring you peace and serenity now and always! Hugs and God bless, ro

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

thank you

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by cfidl 19 Sep 2012

So sorry you lost her.

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

yes, it is hard

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by moyed 19 Sep 2012

So sad for you. Your decision to put your furry baby to sleep shows how strong your love is for her. Now your memories of her will be forever in your heart.
hugs Helen

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

it was a hard decision, made by mind, certainly not with the heart

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by momhome 19 Sep 2012

I am sorry for all the suffering that you are having to go through. Remember that God does not give us more then we can handle - but I know there are times we wonder about that. I'm glad that Toika is sleeping s o peacefully in your backyard. That will bring you comfort knowing he is near by and no longer suffering.

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

yes I know, thank you for your kind words !

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by pldc 19 Sep 2012

oh Linda I am sew very sorry. I'm sure that after loving toika for sew many yrs she was more than a cat to you & your family........she was a part of your family. My deepest sympathies to you & yours. Hugs Loralye

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pldc by pldc 19 Sep 2012

I believe that when the time comes I too will be there for my Bruiizer I think they know its time & don't want to be alone either.

zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

thank you Loralye !

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by loosie 19 Sep 2012

I'm sorry for you loss. We have a saying in our family, when we lose a loved one, that he or she is now a kid starting a new life. You did the right thing and now she is ready to start her new life without pain. Hugs :)

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

if this is the case, I'm hoping she has entered a nice family

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by barba 19 Sep 2012

Sorry for the loss of your fur baby. She was blessed to have had such a loving family and is now at rest in your garden. Hugs, Barba

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

thank you barb

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by barba 19 Sep 2012

Sorry for the loss of your fur baby. She was blessed to have had such a loving family and is now at rest in your garden. Hugs, Barba

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by crafter2243 Moderator 19 Sep 2012

I am so sorry. It is never easy to say good bye to our 4 legged friends. You made the right decisions but it is so hard. Sending you a hug.
Angie

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

thank you Angie

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by asterixsew Moderator 19 Sep 2012

Thinking of you at this time. Our furry friends are part of out families and like any family member the loss of them is great. Remember the good times as there will have been many over 19 years

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

thank you

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by bumblebee 19 Sep 2012

Hugs for you, I know its hard but maybe in a wee bit of time a new friend can come into your family and start new memories.

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

I hope so

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by ansalu 19 Sep 2012

Oh Linda I'm feeling so much with you. This is such a hard decision and it nearly breaks the heart (had so many cats and most of them from the animal shelter in bad condition).
Wish you strength and peace in the thought that she had a wonderful life with so much love from you and your family :o)
Hugs to you, Bettina

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

thank you Bettina

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by capoodle 19 Sep 2012

So sorry to hear about your loss. It is a tough decision many of us has had to do but never an easy one.

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

thank you

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by lindaavolio 19 Sep 2012

We are suffering with you my friend...
BIG Hugs

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

thanks for the comfort

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by sdrise 19 Sep 2012

My sympathies..It is tough to lose a part of the family for 19 years. souded like she had another stroke. God had different plans for her. Just cherish the 19 years you had with her. She had a wonderful life with Love. Suzanne.

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zoefzoef by zoefzoef 20 Sep 2012

yes Suzanne, my husband also thinks about the second stroke

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