This is kind of a hard question to ask :( I belong to a site with a 6 month membership...this designer hasn't been well for most of my membership. Lovely designs, and a lovely designer (they shall go un-named). I have downloaded all the past designs and a few of the limited new ones. But my membership will be up soon and I feel a little cheated that I have almost no new designs because of this illness...I'm not mad or blaming them for this happening because of not being well. That would make me a real mean, selfish person!! But if this designer doesn't chose to extend memberships to kind of make up for this, would it be wrong if I asked them to????

I don't think it would be wrong to ask the designer if she would extend your membership so you could take advantage of some of her new designs. If she was ill and not putting up any new designs for 6 months, that does seem like a kind of bum deal. Of course, you can't blame someone for being ill, and you're not; and she couldn't forsee being ill either. If I were the designer, I think I'd offer to extend people's memberships who are in a position like yours. But, I don't know how sites keep track of these things, if she would even know how many people joined 6 months ago, and who they are to get hold of them. So I think a nicely worded inquiry, as nice as you are in this post, would not be a problem. She shouldn't take offence, surely. And you might get your membership extended. Or maybe not. But it definitely won't happen if you don't mention it to the site owner. If you don't ask the question, the answer is always "No". Tell her how much you like her designs & were looking forward to getting them, too. Sometimes it's nice to hear that our work is appreciated, along with people purchasing it. I purchase from designers I really like, as do we all, I think. But sometimes, just out of the blue, I'll write to the digitizer & thank them for their wonderful work. Really disappointing not to get all the lovely designs you expected, and not just because of the money spent. Must be like opening a birthday present and finding an empty box, sort of. Thanks, also, for not bringing this up in the Public forum, and not mentioning the designer. You know what the problem is, you're just asking a question about 'etiquette' kind of. This is probably the better place for that kind of question. Good luck, let us know how it turns out. Hugs, Marji

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by muffy 03 Aug 2012

Thank you so much for the kind words, I felt bad even asking :(
Muffy

by marjialexa 03 Aug 2012

You're welcome, glad you asked. I was raised to speak up, speak out; not take advantage, nor be taken advantage of. I don't see asking for your money's worth as mean & selfish, just fair, as long as you do it kindly, with understanding. There's never any sense in being mean & confrontational, with anybody.

by marjialexa 03 Aug 2012

a reason to be nasty & confrontational with anyone, & it doesn't pay anyway. But I've never understood why pointing out a problem & asking for a solution is seen to be so awful, so 'unladylike'.

I think I would let it go. If the designer is ill what would make you think they would be adding more designs. But if it makes you feel better express your feelings one on one with this designer. Maybe something could be worked out to make you happy

No and I think you are being very diplomatic not naming the site. If you put your comments to them as you have to us you will sound fine. Let us know what happens