My MIL gifted me back gift I gave her several years ago. I do not know what to do? Do I tell her or hold it against her the rest of her life! I have not spoken with her really since, not last but the year before. What would you do? Thanks PS

I return thing to my daughter and daughter my son picked for me when I no longer use something. They always say they buy me the best because they know they will get them back. But I would never do it in a way that would hurt their feelings.

It's surely not worth holding a grudge the rest of her life. Maybe she gave it back to you because she knows how thoughtful you were in choosing it, and knows you will be thoughtful again to give it to someone else. At any rate, if you can find it funny rather than hurtful, it will be easier to make peace with it.

I have had my mother and my MIL return gifts I had given them, but they did it in such a kind manner, saying they would never use them, so perhaps I could find a use for them. I KNEW they both loved me, so I made allowances for what many would consider ungrateful and rude. These two ladies were the most loving people on earth and never would intentionally hurt a soul. They passed away many years ago, and I miss them so very much! Life is too short for hard feelings; they deplete your joy in living!! So, let it go; be happy!
Angel

Well the gift was 3 clear stem ruby glass candle holders. 1 is broken so I think I will pull out the torch and lampwork some beads and gift them back as home made! That is probably why she didn't remember. cuz I think I made some fab gifts in the past. At least I hope that is why!

We all receive gifts that we can't use or do not like. After a several years she may have forgotten where it came from.
I would just say "Thank you" and try to remember "It is the thought that counts."
I would be greatful for any gift.

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by cfidl 02 Apr 2012

She does do the after Christmas sales. This past year I sent some FSL and hubby brought home a nice Christmas piece. She does not remember! That is for sure.

Well you could say you must have enjoyed xxx as you have given me one just like it. I had really wanted one. From my personal point of view my mil stopped giving gifts to us (2 granddaughters, 1 greatgs, and her son). I was dropped fron her gift list over 10 years ago but she is quite happy to have presents from us... My response is thank goodness I can choose my friends. Lastly do I worry about it - NO

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by cfidl 02 Apr 2012

Yep! That is the way it is! thanks!

Hi Cuties, this happened to me once but instead of letting it bother me, I regifted to a sister who then regifted to my sister in law and so on. We have a family tradition now that we all laugh at when someone opens it.

Hugs,
mj

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by cfidl 02 Apr 2012

It is called the white elephant gift exchange here. we did at her house every Christmas Eve!

I do not know what to say. I have never had anything happen to me like that. I would just ignore it. At the end of the day, does it really matter? Poor Christine you are having a time of it. Hugs Sarah.

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by cfidl 02 Apr 2012

I had always given her the 2nd best(my auntie got the best) of what I had. That was one year I did not hand make gifts. Of course I like it or I would never have given it in the first place.