I VOWED I WOULD NOT POST AGAINE.BUT I JUST HAVE TO SAY I WAS OFFENDED BY A POST I RECIEVED .I MEANT NO HARM I ASKED A QUESTION AND I TOLD OFF. BUT THE LADY APOLIGIZED TO ME .I APOLIGIZE TO HER ALSO I DID NOT MEAN ANY HARM I WAS JUST CONCERNED ABOUT A CERTIAN PERSON..IAM A VERY COMPASNIATE PERSON AND WONTED TO UNDERSTAND WHAT HAD HAPPEND TO HER..SORRY AGAINE I WILL NOT POST MY CONSERNES AGAIN.. BY WILL MISS YOU ALL LUCY

Lucy, my dear, please do yourself a favour and stay with your cute family. We all make mistakes, and somtimes say things which come out different to what we meant by it, so, if that lady has forgiven you and you have made your peace with her, please don't stop posting here. Lovies, from one of your cute family.***

Sometimes typing in all caps can be considered yelling in the cyber world. There are many variables to all situations and forgiveness is always the best.

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by asterixsew 01 Mar 2012

I have always understood that Lucy prefers caps as it is easier on her eyes

by barba 01 Mar 2012

I was not aware of that. No offense intended. Sorry.

by marjialexa 04 Apr 2012

Yes, Lucy has very bad eyesight, probably what you might call "legally blind" and the caps are so much easier for her to be able to read. Some may know this, some may not. Barba, you're new, so you didn't know. I know you meant no offense, but I think maybe this is a good lesson for all of us about jumping to conclusions about something. Before we decide to take something as hurtful, maybe we could take a deep breath, calm down, read it aloud, and remember that American English is not everyone's first language, and some of us have better typing and language skills than others. Give the benefit of the doubt before you take that arrow in the heart, ok? Maybe it's my experience in dealing with foreign-language speakers and a variety of accents, but honestly when I read that post I just heard Lucy asking a question: what's up with Shirlene that I missed because I wasn't here for a long time. I was rather surprised when all this furor erupted. Be kind to one another, Marji

DEAR LUCY...
ALL THE WAY FROM LONDON I LOVE TO READ YOUR POSTS
SO SENDING YOU A BIG BIG HUG
MARIA XX

Sounds like everyone wants you to stay. I don't know what it is all about, but sounds like you have more friends here than enemies. Love Shirley P

DEAR LUCY, WE LOVE YOU, AND I LOVE TO READ YOUR POSTS. I HOPE YOU STAY MY FRIEND. LOVE AND HUGS,YORIKO

Hi Lucy, please do post and feel free to voice your concerns. Misunderstandings do happen, don't allow yourself to get upset :) Have a great day and let us know how Lenox is doing

Lucy, I don't want you to leave the posting boards, just be a little more thoughtful when doing it. The way you made it sound just didn't sound like concern. I have no war with you and certainly don't want to see you leave the site. It is the best site for us who embroider that there is. Stay around, we get over things pretty quickly around here.
Hugs, Debra

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by leenova54 01 Mar 2012

I also enjoy the story of Lenox and how you are writing it. Stick around, hang out, as far as I am concerned it is over and done with.

by ansalu 01 Mar 2012

I agree absolutly with you about the "sound" of that post...
Hugs to you my dear
Bettina

by meganne 01 Mar 2012

Debra, not everyone can put their thoughts into words that we all understand, some of us need a much higher level of understanding when we write something.
Even your post, above, comes across harshly (to me) because of the way you have chosen to put your words, although I know you would never deliberately be hurtful to another Cutie, it is just your abrupt way of speaking that comes out in your writing. I just wish you hadn't posted this message, which COULD add salt into a wound that is still far too fresh. And please understand I am not rousing on you, but I had hoped to smooth this out without adding fuel to the embers. with the best of intentions, hugs and love, Meg

by meganne 01 Mar 2012

you have chosen to put your words, although I know you would never deliberately be hurtful to another Cutie, it is just your abrupt way of speaking that comes out in your writing. I just wish you hadn't posted this message, which COULD add salt into a wound that is still far too fresh. And please understand I am not rousing on you, but I had hoped to smooth this out without adding fuel to the embers. with the best of intentions, hugs and love, Meg

by meganne 01 Mar 2012

wound that is still far too fresh. And please understand I am not rousing on you, but I had hoped to smooth this out without adding fuel to the embers. with the best of intentions, hugs and love, Meg

by mooie24 01 Mar 2012

Beautiful Meg :-)
May I also add that sometimes English is also not a first language for many of our cuties friends.. Im born and bred in London
and possibly the worst offender to the english language lol
big hugs from London - Maria xx

by airyfairy 01 Mar 2012

Hi Maria - I am also born and bred just outside London (now living in SA) and my use of the 'Queen's English' is sometimes terrible. Often my German husband has to correct me!!!

by mooie24 02 Mar 2012

I believe it's because anybody learning English as a second language learn it correctly.. but of course we change it to our own variants with out realizing lol
big hugs - Maria xx

Lucy - I do not know what was said but if you both have apologised then it is over. Please stay and I am sure I am not the only one who is waiting for a picture of Lenox. Hugs Sarah.

This is a wonderful place with wonderful people and we all want you to stay!! As a sewing site, wouldn't it be great if sometimes we could just stitch up our lips before saying something that may inadvertantly hurt somebody else. Just let the ripples float away and settle. Huga Cjristine Johannesburg

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LUCY, DON'T YOU DARE LEAVE OVER SOMETHING SO UNIMPORTANT AS SOMEONE ELSE'S COMMENT.
REMEMBER THE SAYING WE USED TO SING WHEN WE WERE KIDS?
"STICKS AND STONES MAY BREAK MY BONES BUT WORDS WILL NEVER HURT ME"

WELL AT TIMES LIKE THIS YOU SHOULD REMEMBER THAT RHYME AND TRY TO UNDERSTAND THAT THE OTHER PERSON MAY NOT HAVE MEANT TO SAY IT, THE WAY YOU TOOK IT.

THE WRITTEN WORD CANNOT SHOW **HOW** A PERSON HAS SAID SOMETHING AND IT IS MUCH EASIER FOR MISUNDERSTANDINGS TO OCCUR.

SO IF YOU HAVE BOTH APOLOGISED TO EACH OTHER IT IS TIME TO KISS AND MAKE UP AND ACCEPT THAT THERE WAS ONLY A MISUNDERSTANDING OF WORDS.

AND IF YOU DARE LEAVE OVER THIS THEN I WILL GET ON THE NEXT PLANE, COME OVER THERE AND SLAP YOU SILLY WITH A WET NOODLE UNTIL YOU GIVE IN AND PROMISE TO COME BACK, OK???
HUGS AND LOVE, MEGANNE

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by airyfairy 01 Mar 2012

You have such a wonderful way with words Meganne. LOL. Hugs

by nonna57 01 Mar 2012

WELL SAID MEG HOPE LUCY COMES BACK TO SEE YOUR RESPONSE. COME ON LUCY LOOKIE SEE WE LOVE YOU ")

by mooie24 01 Mar 2012

FANTASTIC LOL XX
AT LAST A GOOD USE FOR A WET NOODLE LOL

by sadp 01 Mar 2012

Oh I can picture the wet noodle episode, hehehe hugs S*

Not sure what this issue is, sorry you got your feelings hurt dear. I hope you stay, we enjoy reading about the kitten Lenex you rescured and adopted. And I enjoy the questions you ask.
Sometimes its hard to not react to what is written by another when the person who wrote it meant no offense.
Hugs and flowers to you and I hope you come back to this site.
Diane

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Please do not leave over one person's over-reaction or misreading of your post concerning the well-being of another cutie. I have seen many, many posts asking how another cutie is doing with no such negativity. We all make posts in haste and I will assume that is what happened here. You are more than welcome to stay and we look forward to getting to know you better through your posts! Hugs and flowers to you!

Lucy,no one meant to hurt you or your feelings. I think she was being overprotective of her friend and was just telling you how she felt. You have both apologized to each other so let it go and come back to the site. No one here wants to see you leave. I look forward to your posts and i know all of the others do as well. Please rethink your decision.
Bev

Lucy,please stay. You're part of the Cute family. We can't let you go because of a misunderstanding.
Meri

I don't want to stir up a hornets nest either-but I had to look back to see what all the hubbub was about-I don't see where you were told off-bit of an over reaction to the answer to your question-just my opinion though. Oh well, life goes on.

2 comments

by ansalu 29 Feb 2012

I agree with you :o)

by kitty2011 01 Mar 2012

Ditto... I think you over re-acted ♥

I want to add my voice to all of the others. I don't know what was said and its best not to know. I am new here and don't want to see anyone go away. Many people say things they shouldn't without even giving it any thought of who they might hurt. Wrong as that is it is human nature. It is their problem not yours. Please Stay! Hugs Liz

Lucy, Please reconsider. There are a lot of good people here. And I love reading your posts. I don't know what happened. But I do know from reading you are a compassionate person. Hugs Peggy

Lucy I have no idea what happened but whatever it was don't let it stop you from posting in the future!

Please reconsider. We are all only human and are going to sometimes let each other down. It's how we accept and work through those let-downs that make us better people. Please give the site another chance.

Lucy, when comments are posted, we don't have the visual cues that we have when we speak to other people in person, so it's easy to misunderstand and to be misunderstood. Please don't let this deter you from posting and asking questions, many of us quite like you and your posts.
Joann

Sometime in are haste we can miss read things. That has been point out to me and maybe the person who hurt you made that mistake. There are a lot of cute on this site that are very helpful. Don't give up on them.

LUCY, I WENT BACK SEVERAL PAGES TO FIND WHAT YOU WERE REFERRING TO. I THINK YOUR QUESTION WAS MISUNDERSTOOD. YOU HAVE NOT POSTED ANYTHING WRONG. I SO ENJOY YOUR POSTS AND YOU CAN NOT LEAVE US HANGING, YOU MUST CONTINUE THE ADVENTURES OF LENOX! AND HOW WILL WE KNOW IF YOU AND WALTER FIND A HOUSE? DON'T LET THIS GET YOU DOWN. HUGS..CAROL

LUCY PLEASE RECONSIDER, I DID NOT FIND YOUR QUESTION RUDE OR OFFENCIVE. IF WE ALL DONT POP IN EVERYDAY WE DO MISS HOW WE ALL ARE. WE MIGHT NOT COMMENT BUT JUST CHECK UP ON THINGS. I JUST SAID TO MEGANNE YESTERDAY HOW LOVELY IT WAS TO SEE YOU MORE REGULAR AND HEAR HOW YOU AND WALTER ARE DOING. ALSO LITTLE LENEX, PLEASE HAVE SECOND THOUGHTS AND STAY WITH YOUR FAMILY . PAULINE, SYDNEY AUSTRALIA

LUCY I LOVE READING YOUR POSTS. PLEASE DONT GO, I WANT TO KEEP HEARING HOW YOUR KITTY IS. HOW HAS WALTER TAKEN TO HER?

One bad experience with one person on a site that has hundreds of wonderful people. You have both apologized so don't punish yourself by leaving. That only hurts you. Forgive and forget.

Don't let one person ruin this site for you. Sometimes I feel the same as you, but then I think, there are so many really nice people here, I'm staying and you should too.!

Lucy, sorry to hear that you are wanting to leave.
I have not been on lately, so don't know what happened. But as Marg has said don't let one bad experience keep you away. I have also had a bad experience, but does not keep me from all the wonderful people on this site.

Hugs Yvonne

Please think again before you go as I have said before there are some wonderful cuties here and you will be missed

Do not let one bad experience keep you from this Cute site. There is a lot to be learned from the other Cuties. Hugs Marg