by marjialexa Moderator 17 Jul 2011

into over so many other losses. He was loving, protective, entertaining, full of mischief, and never minded sharing his mice with me, giving me the best parts, the heads and green guts, hee hee hee. I'm crying my eyes out as I write, so this will be short. He was my child, and I feel like I failed him. But I did everything I could, blew my whole August house payment on the vet, nursed him every minute, tried every medicine available, prayed my heart out. Just wish I didn't feel like I'm on God's s--t list when it comes to these cats, first Minou's cancer and now Dancer. How much can you lose in one lifetime and still retain a semblance of sanity, let alone faith? Sorry, just hurting more than I can bear, and being alone alone alone surely doesn't help. Thanks to those of you who took time to pray for a little cat, maybe it helped ease his passing, anyway. Hugs, Marji

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by jrob Moderator 24 Jul 2011

My dear, dear Marji. God gave you an oversized heart because he wanted you to have this great capacity to love. You have given your babies the best life that they could possibly have.....I feel sorry for many pets who didn't have you as a mommy. I cry with you over your loss. Just keep taking care of the rest of your brood and they will keep loving you. Sending you many hugs and wishing I could wipe your tears away. Love, Jerrilyn

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by noah 23 Jul 2011

Marg,Please know that one day you will see all the ones you have lost (in heaven)We are all praying for you hugs carolyn

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by rmj8939 23 Jul 2011

I do not come to personal very much and when I read this it made me cry for you and your sweet cat. It is so hard to lose a loved animal. They are like our children.

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by meganne 23 Jul 2011

Oh Marji, I am sorry I only just found this post and my tears are flowing freely as I know how painful this must be for you. I'm afraid that we, who love our four legged friends as our own dear babies, will always suffer greatly each time we are made to outlive yet another one of them. I pray Dancer's passing was pain free for him and I believe he will return to you again in the form of another, and you will recognise him instantly, take him in and love him all over again.
I am so terribly sorry you are hurting and I wish, with all my heart that I could be give you comfort but all I can do is send you my love and virtual hugs and hope you can get through this sad time.
Sending you the Angel of life and the Angel of all God's Creatures, they will be watching over Dancer just as they watch over Minou and I hope they will help ease your suffering.

Hugs and much love, Meg

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by cherylgauteng 23 Jul 2011

So sorry. You are not alone - we are all here !

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by mi30kaja 23 Jul 2011

My heart goes out to you. My girl is 13 - deaf and going blind but other than that well and has taken me over. Not looking forward to THAT day.

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by adavisx3 23 Jul 2011

For everything there is a season under heaven. I am very sorry to hear about your beloved Dancer but your loss is our gain. We finally realized that 2 of our neighbor's young cats were pregnant. One of them came into our house and had her 5 kittens in our bedroom. They are now in my guest bathroom The other one had already had her kittens but we were not sure where, how many or if they were still alive. Well, this past weekend she brought us 3 of them and then we found a 4th. They are now living in my kitchen. 2 mommies, 9 kittens we have a house full with our own 2 cats. I believe that the reason she brought us her kittens is that we would feed them as she is trying to ween them. They are probably about a month old and just as cute as can be. The other 5 are about 3 weeks old. Not sure what we are going to do with them as they truly belong to the neighbor but since he didn't find it necessary to have the mommies fixed before they were able to have more he will probably not take care of these young ones. We are not in a financial position to have them fixed but maybe I can find a vet who can help. The babies certainly are cute and as funny as can be and I will take care of them as long as they need us.

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marjialexa by marjialexa 25 Jul 2011

You are so sweet! I have sent you a PM with some information I found for you that may help with caring for the kittens. It makes my heart so glad that someone would do what you have done. My Dancer was a stray, full of fleas, worms, just a mess when he came to me, but those green eyes were just irresistable, and he loved me from the moment he saw me. Please look for the PM, and thanks for your big heart! Hugs, Marji

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by marjialexa Moderator 22 Jul 2011

Thank you all so much, it helps to know that you all care. I appreciate it very, very much. Hugs, Marji

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by katulle 21 Jul 2011

Я плачу в месте с тобой!
Екатерина

I cry with you!
Ekaterina

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by gerryvb 21 Jul 2011

Marji, sorry for you losing another dear friend. I had not seen this untill now,I wish I could give you a hug right now and cry with you. Minou and Dancer are together again . And in your heart they will live forever by the memories you have. You did all that was possible and Dancer must he felt your love.My prayers are for you and Dancer.hugs.

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by kalinelson 21 Jul 2011

My heart is breaking for you....may God bring you through this time of sorrow....God loves you so much and knows every tear you shed and hears your cry for help and is right there with you....thank you so much for giving Dancer such a wonderful life....Gods blessings...Janet

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by kttyhwk4 21 Jul 2011

So sorry to hear your bad news Marji. We do love our fur babies as though they were human. They give us so much companionship and love, and get us thorough all sorts of good and bad times. As much as you'll miss Dancer you do know that he is better off now, no more pain or sickness just days of lying in the sun and running thru the meadows chasing mice. Dancer doesn't want you to be sad or lonely either,hopefully you'll find a new fur baby in the near future. Hugs Karen

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by obaachan 20 Jul 2011

So sorry for your loss !!! I will ask the Great Spirit to welcome him with open arms as he crosses over to a a place with out pain where he can chase all the mice he wants.... YOU DID NOT FAIL HIM.... many would of given up a lot sooner than you did.... I respect and admire you for what you have done for Dancer... from one pet lover to another.... oh and I know they are not our pets.. they are a member of our family....
Jo

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by judybell 20 Jul 2011

Marji, I'm so sorry for your lose. Hugs, Judy

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by mary51 18 Jul 2011

Marji, I am so sorry for your loss. I know how it feels to lose a pet my Kayla dies a year ago she was 16 and two months ago my DH. I know we all have to go I know how it feels to be alone, i spend must of my time crying, crying, crying, I ask myself the same question how much can you lose and not get crazy? Loneliness is really bad, I ask God to give you strenght, hope he listen to you too, as for me I think God does not have me in his list. love mary

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airyfairy by airyfairy 18 Jul 2011

Mary, my heart goes out to you each time you write about your DH. I am so sorry that you are still feeling so very sad. Hugs coming your way. Sarah.

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by snowbird42 18 Jul 2011

other have said it all my heart aches for u ....soozie

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by airyfairy 18 Jul 2011

So very sorry to hear this. And this is why when I loose a dog I always say - never again but I always get another one. Life would not be the same without our wonderful animals - they give us such joy. My thought are with you at this very sad time. Hugs Sarah.

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by pennifold 18 Jul 2011

My darling Marji, my heart is aching so much for you. I know how much your fur babies mean and they are part of you forever. I know you did your best and that is all we can do and Dancer knew you loved him beyond life itself. My thought, tears and prayers are with you dear Marji and I know what you are going through will too pass as the pain does ease. What wonderful memories of a beloved cat who loved you so much. He is in God's garden now chasing butterflies and sleeping in a lovely sunny meadow. My love and affection to you always. Love Chris

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by ermaplatt 17 Jul 2011

I am so sorry for your loss. I know the empty spot you feel. I will be praying for you and hope you will find a peace about it soon.

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by crafter2243 Moderator 17 Jul 2011

I am so sorry. Hugs for you my friend.

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by asterixsew Moderator 17 Jul 2011

Thinking of you at this time. As I write this Asterix my cat is by my side. Our furbabies are special to us and it hurts so much when we loose them. (I have lost Asterix'x mum of 16 and his brother of 13 in the last 6 months) You have been a brilliant mum to your babies and they will be with you in your heart forever. And please dont be so hard on yourself, Dancer has had a great life

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by lbrow 17 Jul 2011

Marji I am so sorry. I know it hurts but at least you have others to love & they love you. We can not all live forever & 14 yrs is a good time for a kitten. You would not have liked seeing him grow so old he was blind & crippled up with arthritis, hurting all the time with no way to get total relief. My daughter had to put her scottie down who was 17 yrs. old, cancer, blind, deaf no longer able to get around. It was hard for them. They have no children & their dogs are their children. They still had 2 & now have a third puppy but Sassy will always be missed even by her grandma, me. In the meantime, after 5 hrs & 3 Drs. Fri. one of my hubby's drs. said" we are going to have to put him down. He must have hip replacement in the one good leg he has & if he lives through this he may never walk again. He is in excruciating pain the femur head is totally deteriated & will not stay in the socket any longer. He's been averaging about 3 falls a week. He has a blood disorder & they told hime 2 yrs ago they did not think he would make it trough another surgery, but now here we are we no other choice before us & he understands he may not make it this time. sometimes life is so hard but I know that we are in God's hands & He has a reason for all things so I am trusting Him when he tells me in his word "My grace is sufficient for you." You are in my prayers so please put us in yours. Much love/Lillian

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asterixsew by asterixsew 17 Jul 2011

Thinking of you too Lillian

pennifold by pennifold 18 Jul 2011

My prayers are with you dear Lillian as well. Love Chris

kttyhwk4 by kttyhwk4 21 Jul 2011

Thoughts and prayers are with you both.
Hugs Karen

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by capoodle 17 Jul 2011

There must be some comfort in knowing Dancer is no longer suffering. You have a lot of memories to treasure. Sending you thoughts of sympathy.

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by shirlener88 17 Jul 2011

Marji, so sorry for your loss.

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by 02kar Moderator 17 Jul 2011

I am so sorry. You have lost a child and each tear you cry shows how much you love Dancer. God has His arms wrapped around you even now. Sad to say it was satan's list you were on. So go ahead and rant and rave at satan and feel those loving arms of God tenderly holding you. BTW I don't capitalize the s in satan's name because he doesn't deserve that much respect fom me.

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noah by noah 23 Jul 2011

Well said and 100|% try!!

noah by noah 23 Jul 2011

true!!not try(sorry)

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by anangel 17 Jul 2011

Marji,
My sympathy to you in losing Dancer. Yes, we do get so close to our animals, they seem like our children in a lot of ways. You will see Sam, my gray tabby tomcat, in my avatar. He was abandoned and abused, when he found his way to my home a few years back. Sam would not let us near him for several months out of fear, would only eat and run away. Now, he is the most loving and docile tom you will ever meet. He follows me and lies nearby when I am working in the yard. I know I will miss him terribly, when he passes, as you with Dancer, but I have to remember that he is getting on up in age, don't want him to suffer painful conditions to remain with me, and just thank the Lord for time well spent with a loyal companion, 'til it's time to let Sam go. Dancer was lucky to be yours, and he knew it. He knew you did your best to help him, but it was his time to go. You would not want him lying around in pain, because you loved him too much for that.
No matter your feelings, God has never left your side through all of your losses. Inspite of them all, I am certain you still have so much to be thankful for. Yet, it is difficult to see that "view" when overwhelmed with constant disappointments. That is life, but life is still good!! Ask me how I know; I have been through some traumatic challenges and know that only by the grace of God, I made it through!
Sorry for your heartache, but it will get better. While, you can never replace Dancer, there are many little kitties that need the loving care you have to give. Dancer would smile down from "kitty heaven" to see you smiling again!
Best wishes for you to soon feel better!
Angel

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by devon 17 Jul 2011

sending you hugs!!!

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