understand how it happend, He died of a heart failure, due to smoking, please if you are a smoker try to quick, when i get my head back I am planning to check up my lungs, i was a sencond hand smoker. He was a good man, I know he is with God now, but I miss him sooooo much, I am lost, do not know what is going to be my future without him.

Catching up on postings and are very sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers for you during this difficult time.

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by mary51 08 Jun 2011

Thank You

Oh my dear Mary I only just saw this post and my heart grieves for you at this terrible time.
The passing of anyone we love is such a kick in the gut, but when we lose someone we have chosen to give our heart and love to, then it is downright devastating.

You will go on, life will go on and it would be a lie to say you won't suffer for many months to come, as there is nothing or no-one who can take the place of your loving husband.

You need to grieve, get angry, rant, rave, scream, cry and let the grief thoroughly take over until you are spent. It is normal, it is grieving and in time your grieving episodes will come less and less often and somehow, through all the grieving you will suddenly start remembering his funny little ways and you will start to smile, then you will remember something he did that made you laugh and you will find yourself laughing, maybe even out loud.

Then you will realise that he really hasn't gone forever, he is with you with every memory and he is just gone ahead to prepare the place where the two of you will spend your eternity together.

My prayer for you is that the time it takes to get to this realisation is sooner, rather than later, that the overwhelming pain you are feeling will soon subside and you will feel again the warm glow that your husband's love wrapped you in during your life together.
You have my sincere and deepest sympathy, Meg

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by mary51 07 Jun 2011

Thank you very much for these words, God bless you!!!

Yesterday, June 5th, we had a mass on his honor, it was beautiful! but very sad. If I only could have a time machine!!! I would have done something different! He was fine in the morning, late in the afternoon I saw him a little weak, going to the hospital crossed my mind, but since he had a Dr. appointment early in the morning I did not think about it anymore. He died around nine pm.I still do not understand WHY?????

so sorry for your loss, prayers and hugs. CE will be good for you, everyone here is soo caring.

I am not sure how to phrase what I feel, but your grief is natural. It does sound like you are relying on God to show you His plan for your future and He will, just continue to trust Him. He will comfort us in trouble times and sometimes He is our only consulation. I want to lift you up, in my prayers. May God give you a peace that comes with acceptance of His will. When we were losing our grand-daughter, I could not pray,'God's will be done, on earth as it is in heaven', b/c his will was not what I wanted. We were all under so much stress and I'm sure she was too, even tho the staff said she was not in pain,She past away, peacefully,After I accepted His will. I had peace knowing that as much as we loved her ,He loves her more, and I know that I have a grandchild with our Father in heaven.We will always miss them, that is natural b/c we no longer have them with us here. I pray that God will bless you in your uncertainty about the future , that He will comfort you in your time of sorrow and He will give you a peace.In Christian Love, Toogie

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by mary51 05 Jun 2011

Thank you for these wonderful thought, I really needed it. God bless you all.

I will include both of you in my prayers tonight.

My heart goes out to you, every time they do a heart catheter on my husband I think it will be bypass surgery time, he has 5 stents now and is on many pills. I quit smoking 17 years ago, it was very hard but it can be done. I hope you have someone near by to lean on when you need a shoulder, try not to close yourself off from the people who love you. Bless you. (((HUG)))
Debra

Thank you all God bless you!

Mary , I am so sorry to hear your sad news,make sure you take care of yourself, (((((Hugs))))) Monika

So, soo sad to read this! It sure is a reminder to all of us, to treasure our beloved ones. May each day find you a little better and stronger. Thinking of you Mary!

Dear Mary,
You are in my prayers. I can only imagine the hole in your heart.
God bless you.
Hugs,
Jacqueline

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I am praying for you !!carolyn

Sorry for your loss, hugs Lisa

I am so sorry for you loss. My heart goes out to you and your family.

I am very sorry for your sad loss - I hope the people around you can help you to get your head back soon.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband and friend. We sometimes forget how fragile life is. I'll keep you in my prayers and take care of youself. One day at a time or one hour at a time, whatever it takes. May God and His angels be with you and your family.
Meri

I am very sorry for your sad loss.
May God hold you close in your time of great sorrow.
Hugs Bev

My dear one - I am just finding this now - so sorry for your loss - I do hope you have friends and family close to - help you through this horrible time - rest assured you will be in our prayers and will will be here for you - when you need our support and love. Unconditional Love, Shirlene

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Mary, I am so sorry about your loss. I hope that you can find strength in prayer and get through the hardest times.

I am so sorry to read this. I pray that God will give you strength, courage and be with you during this difficult time in your life. My sincere condolences to you and your family. Hugs and love, Mary

Oh, Mary, my heart goes out to you at this sad time. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. HUGS and prayers. Deb

I am very heartbroken to hear of your loss...May you feel the LORD's Hands upon you to give you strength and courage ...I hope you come to us and let us continue to encourage you with love and friendship as you go through the days...You will never be alone for GOD is always near you...Reach out and feel HIS arms wrapping you in them...Our thoughts and Prayers are with you...May the comfort of knowing we are here also help you in the good times and bad...Love is a strong comfort and you have so much here within the Cute Family....deanna

My deepest sympathy, you are in my thoughts Hugs Sally

Mary I am so sorry for your loss. It's been 8 years since the unexpected sudden death of my DH, and I understand how you feel. Reach out to your family and friends , that helps a lot.
Jo

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by mary51 22 May 2011

Thank you! How did you cope with this??

Sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers. Hugs DeVon

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Mary thinking of you at this difficult time

This is so heart breaking....I can't imagine your pain....I pray over time (with Gods help) you will be able to focus on the many memories you two had....I quit smoking about 91/2 years ago it was one of the hardest things I have ever done, I prayed thoughout each day for Gods help....you will remain in my prayers...May Gods love, mercy and grace help you through this very difficult time......Janet

My dearest Mary, No one can say "I know how you feel" unless they have had this happen to them. I have, so I know the gamut of feelings going through you at this moment. The worst I think is the feeling of helplessness & lonliness, after a while you get mad at them for leaving you like this. Actually there are 7 stages to get through. You will get through it all in time. Only with God's help was I able to cope, He alone can give you the comfort & reassurance you need at this time. Just remember He says,"I'll never leave you nor forsake you". My prayers are with you/Much love Lillian

Deepest Sympathy Mary. My heartfelt thoughts are with you at this sad time. Love Marg

Dear Mary,

I was so saddened to read this post. As you say there are no words to convey how you are feeling. I, for one, am thankful though that he did not suffer long. That would have been worse, or even to be left with a stroke.

May our awesome God give you peace and embrace you with His love. May you find strength in the days to come and I pray that you will be surrounded by all your family and friends at this time.

Be assured of my thoughts and prayers across the miles from Australia to America. Time is a healer, so they say and I hope in time you will face the future with gusto.

Love and blessings Chris

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I am so sorry to read this. Try to be strong and just take one hour at a time. My sympathy in your sad loss.

My heart goes out to you at this very difficult time for you Mary. I shall keep you in my prayers and A great big hug to you. I am sure you must miss him deeply. Love to you Cindy B.

Thank you!!!!!

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by sewensue 19 May 2011

deepest condolences sweet heart, keep you in my thoughts.

by missqueenbee47 20 May 2011

my sympahty too

by shirlener88 22 May 2011

loving you

my deepest sympathy and condoleances, you must miss him and it's such a suddenly loss. Wish you strength. My prayers are for you.

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I am so sorry to hear, I pray that God will be with you and feel your heart with his love, and comfort you at this time.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss! You must miss him very much. God bless and give you strength,

In friendship
Marion in KY

My deepest sympathy to you. It is never easy to lose a loved one. Thought and prayers to you.

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My deepest sympathy to you and your. Take care and GOD BELLES YOU.Maria

My deepest sympathy to you. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

My deepest sympathy to you. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Take care. Hugs Lynn

Oh Mary I am so sorry for your loss. You are in our prayers and thoughts.

Mary, you have my heartfelt sympathy, and wish I could put my arms around you! Just think on the wonderful memories you have, and smile each day, as he looks down upon you wanting you to be happy! You have your own special guardian angel now! He would not want less than for you to greet each new day with confidence, an uplifted heart, and zest for your future! May the Lord bless you with strength, as you accept His will, and the knowledge that you are never alone, as you make this transition. The sweet memories will sustain you in the days ahead!
Hugs and prayers for you!
Angel

I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my thoughts.
Jo

I am deeply sorry to hear this. I am sure that you must miss him terribly. My thoughts are with you at this time. Love and hugs Sarah.

Mary, I do not know what to say, I don't think I would have even been capable of writing anything at this point. I am a smoker, and have been contemplating giving up for many years, this will make me think harder. but it won't bring back your husband. I am sure he is with God, but even more sure that God is with you. MY prayers are with you.
Alice.

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by mary51 19 May 2011

please Alice, stop smoking!!!!!!

I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. We will be praying for you and your family.

Condolences on your loss. It is so terrible. Will pray for you.