by pennifold 30 Mar 2011

real life.


Her 5 children all went up to the lectern as the eldest child Matthew read the Eulogy and supported him. Matthew lost it a few times, but they were there for him.

Margaret's eldest grandchild Emily was very upset, but knew Ma Ma was in heaven. She had a rainbow coloured ribbon and placed it on the coffin - as this was their connection.

Time is a healer so they say, and memories live on in the hearts of those who are left behind. I, for one, will certainly miss my beautiful friend. Rest in peace Marg.

Love and blessings Chris

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by crafter2243 Moderator 04 Apr 2011

Chris I haven't been in the Personals lately much. I knew your friend Marg had passed away. Reading your words today brought tears into my eyes. Time will heal, but right now that does not seem possible. Eventual the pain will get less and the memories will make you smile. I missed praying for you, but will keep you in my prayers now.
Hugs to you

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pennifold by pennifold 04 Apr 2011

Thanks so much Angie - I can't believe it's already a week since Marg died. Time will heal my heart and my memories will last with me forever. Love and blessings Chris

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by melita 03 Apr 2011

I am so sorry, I know is hard to lose a friend, but she is in a good place. God will give you the peace you need.

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pennifold by pennifold 04 Apr 2011

Thanks I'm counting on it. Love and blessings Chris

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by rmj8939 02 Apr 2011

My heart goes out to you. It is hard to lose a dear friend.

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pennifold by pennifold 03 Apr 2011

Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. Love and blessings Chris

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by twee 02 Apr 2011

So sorry for your loss. It is good she has such a strong family and friends like you.

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pennifold by pennifold 03 Apr 2011

Thanks Terri - you are right, she has a very strong family behind her. Love and blessings Chris

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by anangel 31 Mar 2011

You have my heartfelt sympathy, Chris. I have lost two close friends this past year, and I have two other dear ones battling cancer. It is difficult, but think on those
wonderful memories you have of Marg. They will sustain you and make you smile!
Angel

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pennifold by pennifold 31 Mar 2011

Dear Angel, you have my sympathy too. I couldn't imagine my other friends being so ill as your friends are. How sad for you. You are right I have wonderful memories to hold onto. Love and blessings Chris

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by sewdeb 31 Mar 2011

Chris, you have my deepest sympathies during this time and I will pray that you and yours will be surrounded by God's love and that you gather strength in the knowledge you will be together once again.

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pennifold by pennifold 31 Mar 2011

Thank you very much - every time I go out for a coffee with my other 2 dear friends we'll talk of her love of everything. Love and blessings Chris

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by sdrise 31 Mar 2011

My sympathies to you and your friends family. It is always diffucult to lose someone you love. Your description of the funeral was so nice I felt like I was there holding your hand. So glad you had such a special friend and have lots of good memories. Now you have her children to give you more memories and their children. You will see her in her children. Something they say or something they do will remind you of her. She will be in your heart forever.Suzanne

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pennifold by pennifold 31 Mar 2011

That is so true Suzanne - her daughter Therese is very much like her and of course now the grand-daughter Emily is the spitting image. Love and blessings Chris

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by kalinelson 30 Mar 2011

I will continue to pray for Margarets family and you also....I'm sure having two loses so close together has been hard for you....I'm so glad you have the beautiful memories in your heart....Gods blessings Janet

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pennifold by pennifold 31 Mar 2011

Thanks Janet - it's getting better day by day with Dad. I know I'll be fine with Marg too once the initial pain subsides. Love and blessings Chris

pennifold by pennifold 31 Mar 2011

Thanks Janet - it's getting better day by day with Dad. I know I'll be fine with Marg too once the initial pain subsides. Love and blessings Chris

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by lbrow 30 Mar 2011

Chris Picture her in heaven, how happy she is to be where she is. No more pain or sorrow. She will always live in the hearts of those whom she loved & who loved her and as you said before you know you will see her again. celebrate the life she lived & cherish it always./Lillian

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pennifold by pennifold 31 Mar 2011

Thanks Lillian, that is so comforting. I know she will always be in my heart. Love and blessings Chris

P.S. and as long as her grand-daughter lives, Marg lives in her - they are so much alike.

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by gerryvb 30 Mar 2011

Chris, she will always be in your heart. And it's a good her funeral was so beautiful. with so much love and harmony of the friends and family. They will support each other. keep the strength, hugs love and prayers for you. and prayers for the family to accept the lost of a dear one.

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pennifold by pennifold 30 Mar 2011

Thanks Gerry - and life goes on. We are back to normal today. Ophelie will be in in half an hour. Dana has asked Trevor and I to go to watch Ryke in his first sports carnival this morning about 9.15 and then I'll have to come back home to put Ophelie to sleep. The family know how I feel about Marg's death and live close by, so I can still see them. Love and blessings Chris

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by shirlener88 30 Mar 2011

Chris, you are strong and I can see that the family of Marg were as well. What a great tribute for her. I will continue to pray for you and the family. It is never easy to let one go.

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pennifold by pennifold 30 Mar 2011

Thanks Shirlene, yes Marg's family are a strong lot. It was a wonderful tribute and the powerpoint display bought a few tears! Thanks for the prayers, I really appreciate them.

P.S. Mum was teary, it was a bit close to home. And to top it off Bab's who is one of the ladies who also comes to my Ladies Luncheon has Cancer too and doesn't have long to live. Mum said she won't go to her funeral as she says its just too draining for her. We'll have to wait and see. Love Chris

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by judybell 30 Mar 2011

Chris, I'm sorry for your loss of a dear friend. I will remember you in prayer during this time. Hugs, Judy

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pennifold by pennifold 30 Mar 2011

Thanks Judy - I'll be o.k. I have lots of memories. Love and blessings Chris

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by 02kar Moderator 30 Mar 2011

A beautiful testimony for your beautiful friend. Thank you for sharing. I know it was hard for you to go through the day.

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pennifold by pennifold 30 Mar 2011

Thanks Karen - it was hard but as everyone has said, memories live on in the heart of those who knew her. Love Chris

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by airyfairy 30 Mar 2011

Hi Chris. I forget your Wednesday comes before ours. When I woke up this morning I was thinking about you and the funeral - and now it is all over. Thinking of you at this very sad time. Love Sarah.

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pennifold by pennifold 30 Mar 2011

Thanks Sarah - it was a very special day. Everyone who knew Margaret was there. Love and blessings Chris

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by hightechgrammy 30 Mar 2011

Chris, OUr dear Lord will be with you and give your strength throughout the days to come, I know you know that, as you are a woman of deep faith. Her family will become stronger because of her witness and they will remember her each and every day for the loving mother and grandmother she was.
My dear sister, Joyce, passed away at age 33 from melanoma skin cancer, leaving three little girls and their daddy. Losing her has been the hardest challenge of my life, even more than raising a child with special needs. Yet, when I look back, she may have lost the battle of cancer, but she won the battle of life. She went out with dignity, grace and made such an incredible difference to many, many people. It sounds like Margaret was that kind of person as well.
IF you can sometime, listen to "My Father's Eyes" by Amy Grant and see if that doesn't also describe Margaret. She and my sister, really did know a special secret about life, one that God gave them, a special understanding we don't have just yet. People like Margaret and Joyce lead the way to Heaven for so many of us down here. They don't just teach us how to live, they teach us how to die. I think you know what I'm trying to say. There is nothing like a dear friend, unless it is a sister. May God grant you the Peace that passes all understanding. Love to you, my friend in Christ, Jan

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pennifold by pennifold 30 Mar 2011

Dear Jan, I'm so sorry about your sister. And I know you are a special women in raising your son Ben. I don't know that song and have just listened to it - it's lovely. I love Amy Grant's voice. I also love "In my daughter's eyes" by Martina McBride.

In my daughter's eyes I am a hero
I am strong and wise and I know no fear
But the truth is plain to see
She was sent to rescue me
I see who I wanna be
In my daughter's eyes

In my daughter's eyes everyone is equal
Darkness turns to light and the
world is at peace
This miracle God gave to me
gives me strength when I am weak
I find reason to believe
In my daughter's eyes

And when she wraps her hand
around my finger
It puts a smile in my heart
Everything becomes a little clearer
I realize what life is all about

It's hangin' on when your heart
has had enough
It's giving more when you feel like giving up
I've seen the light
It's in my daughter's eyes

In my daughter's eyes I can see the future
A reflection of who I am and what will be
Though she'll grow and someday leave
Maybe raise a family
When I'm gone I hope you see how happy
she made me
For I'll be there
In my daughter's eyes

I was looking at all the girls as they stood behind Matthew and just remembering them as little girls and now they are fully grown women all pregnant. I feel so sorry for Leticia as she is the youngest (26) and won't have her Mum around now to help her. Thankfully Therese and Marg went shopping only 4 weeks ago and Marg bought all this stuff for the new baby. Therese said it was so special to do that. Oh! every time I think of that I cry. Margaret just loved and lived for her family.

Thanks so much for your lovely words of comfort they so reassuring. You are so right in what you say about living and dying. Marg showed us how to love, live and die with grace and dignity.

Love and blessings Chris

hightechgrammy by hightechgrammy 30 Mar 2011

Chris, since you and their mother are such good friends, maybe you can make things for her girls' babies from their mother. Just listen to your heart and you will know what she would want for you to make for them. It will be extra special for them and they can feel her love through you. I know that sounds a bit corny, but I do believe you can do that. When Ben was born my brother in law gave us a little grocery bag that was labeled "baby Wharton" It had some baby toys my sister had put in there for us. She never knew Ben, but I really treasured those toys. You will find lots of ways you can do these things for Marg, I know. And when you do them, you will feel a really close connection with her. You will always have her with you. Remember the body passes away, but love lives on forever. I wish I could hug you and cry with you, and pray with you and give you some of my strength. God will do that. Love, Jan

pennifold by pennifold 30 Mar 2011

Don't worry about that Jan. I've already bought clothes, but will try and add some rainbows which was Marg's thing. Love Chris

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by pennifold 30 Mar 2011

2 hearts = love

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