by caydebug 19 Aug 2009

signs of a slow decline, I only pray that when the time comes that she will be able to pass peacefully and in no pain. I have never been around anyone with Alzheimer's and had no idea how it robs a person of being themself. She and Dad always taught us to look for a blessing in everything, no matter how good or bad things were. After having to make the decision to stop the chemo and just make the rest of her life comfortable, I can see the blessing in her Alzheimers. She has no memory of just how sick she is. I wish she could be here forever, but, God has bigger plans for her. Please pray that her days, no matter how long it may be, are filled with love and comfortable and that whenever that time comes that she knows how much I appriciate the time that God has given me with her and how much she has taught me.


by crafter2243 Moderator 23 Aug 2009

Your parents taught you well. I will pray for you, your family and your Mom. It is difficult to watch a loved one slip away. Hugs Angie

by iris2006 23 Aug 2009

You are in my thoughts in these difficult days.

by lflanders 23 Aug 2009

May God bless you and your family. I know it is hard to to have to watch and wonder but you do have a wonderful attitude! She is so lucky to have such a wonderful daughter to be there for her during this time in her life. Your life will be richly blessed because of your wonderful loving and caring attitude during this period of time in Mom's life. There are so many that just have there parents put in a home for a stranger to look after and rarely even visit. I pray that you have the physical strength to handle her until that time comes. You are a very wonderful daughter! Hugs and prayers go out to you, Linda in Ga.

by jrob Moderator 22 Aug 2009

What grace you are walking in. It is a blessing to be able to give back to the one who held your hand and now your heart. It is also very tiring, but I'm happy that you have help and that your sweet mom knows she can depend on that beautiful smile she sees every morning.;)

by designgirl 22 Aug 2009

My heart goes out to you and your family at this sad time in your life. You and your Mother will be in my prayers.God Bless you. Lynn

by nonmusicmom 22 Aug 2009

It is very hard to be the caregiver of a person who doesn't know today from yesterday. I praise you for taking care of your Mom so many just put them away and forget about them. I know you are a blessing in her eyes.May God give you the strenght that you need at this time.

by marietta 22 Aug 2009

Hello Cadybug, I can relate with you, because I had to look after my mother in law who also had Alzheimers. I am so glad that you have somebody to help you. It helps a person to just have a little time to yourself. I also had a nurse to help during the daytime in the last few months, and it was a relief, as I loved her just as much as my own mother. She will be gone 9 years on the 29th of this month, and I can still see her lying in her bed with a mischievous smile, after she had taken of her nappy. That was her way of telling us that she wanted to go to the toilet. You can rest asure that she will be happy and comfortable, because she has all the love and nurturing in having you around. Just love her, and although it will be tough, you will always remember that you had the opportunity to give her that love that so many people do not have in their last days. God bless you, and I will be praying for you and your family.

by marjialexa Moderator 21 Aug 2009

Bless you, Libbie, and God bless your Mom, too. None of us can be here forever, but we can be happy forever on the other side of this valley. Sounds like you and your Mom know that. Enjoy her while you can, when you can, and let hospice do what they do best. I like the idea of praying that her days be filled with love, and I hope yours are, too. Hugs, Marji

by castelyn 21 Aug 2009

It is not easy, Seen your Mom like this.
Just keep telling her, how special and loved she is, and give her lots of hugs and kisses
You and your Mom will be in my prayers - God Bless

by sewmom 20 Aug 2009

You did the best thing by having Hospice come to help. They helped my husband's grandparents and made everything easier for the family. I hope you can be strong in this difficult time.

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caydebug by caydebug 20 Aug 2009

Gosh, I didn't know just how much easier it would be. They have only been coming for a week and the stress level is so much lower.

by jacquipaul 20 Aug 2009

You have a lovely attitude. We just lost an older friend with Alzheimer's, and are supporting his wife through the process of arrangements for the funeral, etc.
Just remember that your Mom loves you and no matter what happens she will always love you.
I'll keep her and your family in my prayers.

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caydebug by caydebug 20 Aug 2009

Thank you Jacqui....Her love has lifted me so many times in life and still today, even tho she may not remember from day to day, she still picks me up.

by lbrow 20 Aug 2009

Caydebug. You have exactly the right attitude. Dealt with this many yrs because Geriatrics was my nursing speciality. On top of it all that's exactly how I lost my own father. You r depending on the one who can get u through it all. Paul told God Your'Grace is sufficient for all my needs & it will carry u through this. Your parents taught u well. God has a reason for everything & somewhere in it all there is a blessing for u even if it is only empathy in you for someone else that will have to deal with this. Blessings for u & you r in my prayers. Lillian *

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caydebug by caydebug 20 Aug 2009

Thanks Lil... If I never recieve another blessing, I have my "Blessing Basket" filled just being with her. When she holds my hand, as I have hers so many times over the years, when I wipe the tears from her runny eyes, just as she has me. Even when I bathe her, feed her or any of the not so nice things one has to do, these things she has already done for me. I consider it a pleasure to give back to her all that she has given to me. I just hope that mine is with as much love as her's was. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers. You Cuteies are the Tops.

by manami 20 Aug 2009

Dear Libbie, I'm so sorry about your mother! You and your mother will be in my thoughts and prayers. Love, Yoriko

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caydebug by caydebug 20 Aug 2009

Thank you so very much... The prayers really keep me going through the days...

by camylow 20 Aug 2009

I do know exactly what you are going through except my MIL does not have alzheimers...The decline is progressin at a much faster rate for us...Knowing she has Jesus in her life makes it so much easier to deal with...I think people should weep for those who do not know the LORD instead of those who do...A celebration is what is done when our love one take a rest till Jesus comes....The bible tells us not to worry about the dead but the ones that need saving...Do not think just because she has alzheimers she does not know Love of family...They still have memories but not always up front...What we are doing is doing things with her that she loves and wants to do...if you do things for your mother (if possible) that she enjoyed before she got sick, then the experience may jog some memory in the back of her mind...if not, then it will comfort you to know that was something she enjoyed...I will pray for your family to enjoy each other and for a peaceful life to fill your mother...deanna

caydebug by caydebug 20 Aug 2009

Deanna, I pray for the best for your MIL..Knowing that our precious Lord is holding her hand makes the journey I'm taking with her so much easier. They day we got the final test results which told us that the chemo wasn't working anymore, was slowing it some, but not working enough and her health will not let her take a stronger chemo, we decided to not put her through any more agony. By this time she had become bed fast and to get her up was horrible for her. She is so scared of falling that she would cry each time we tried to get her up to sit in a chair.
As I said before, they always taught us to look for blessings. It was then that I saw the blessing with her illnesses. Although I wish that this had not been the ending for her life, I have to thank God that the Alzheimers will not let her know that she is dieing and that the cancer will not let her live through the ravages of the Alzheimers. I so hope that does not sound cold and cruel. It is not my choice for her. But I do have to see the blessing that she is not worried about death. God has his way of making our lives better if we take the time to see it. It may not have been the thing that we would have chosen, but we hopefully have the mind to see it. I know that with my daughter and grandkids moving back here was one of those blessings. When God closes one door, he opens another. I've taken care of Mom for 8 years and Dad for 5 before he passed. I am so used to filling my days with what ever they needed, even when I worked. I know their coming home to me is to fulfill those empty hours when her time to go to the Lord comes.
He is such an awesome God. So loving and so kind. I am so thankful that he is looking over us and guiding us in these times. And for all of the Cuties that are here for strength, for a shoulder to cry on, the encouragement, but most of all, for the prayers.

lflanders by lflanders 23 Aug 2009

Deanna, I will also be praying for you and your family. You will have your hands full. May the Lord give all of you the strength to see this through to the end and keep your MIL as comfortable and happy as possible. It is a very wonderful thing that you are doing. May the Lord bless all of you. Hugs and prayers go out to your family, Linda in Ga

by shirlener88 20 Aug 2009

Libbie, I do understand somewhat of what you are going through dear - when my Mother was on Hospice - it did relieve my fears some - to have them working with her - when she got so worse that I feared for her life - I really thought she was going - but we ended up putting her in a Skilled Nursing Center - now - I know that my Mother's health isn't as severe as yours - but I feared for her life - it was her Alzheimer's that allowed her to to into the Skilled Nursing Center on the Hospice Wing - she was there for a couple months and her health improved and they transferred her off the Hospice Wing - she is doing better - she can't remember much - she has some really bad days, but I now know that I could have her in this state for a few more years - had I not acted when I did - I may have lost her in January. I know none of this helps in your situation - but I do understand - I will be praying for acceptance of God's Will for you and your Mother - that she isn't in pain and suffering - I know that the power of prayer works. *4U

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caydebug by caydebug 20 Aug 2009

Thanks Shirlene.. Sometimes just being able to talk to others that are going through or have been through what a person is going through really helps. I guess when we go through something, we sometimes feel as tho no one else has ever been there, but then you come to your senses and realize that your just one of many. Thanks you for the kind words and prayers. I have totally accepted what is to come. Not that I want her to leave this world, but I know that in all truths, she really isn't in this world any more and would never want to stay here this way. One thing that she always told us was that when her quality of life and quantity of life didn't even out, to let her go.

by ksgram1 19 Aug 2009

Your Mom and you shall continue to be in my prayers. Please know how much I care. Hugs. ***

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caydebug by caydebug 19 Aug 2009

Thanks...It's so hard to see some one who was always the strength in the family be so feeble..But I know that when that time comes, she will be going to a better place.