by pennifold 27 Jul 2023

Hi gals, it's been over a month since I wrote about Mum sorry I haven't been on here much.

Last Sunday she fell in her room at the nursing home and broke her hip. She wasn't in too much pain, but we didn't know she was actually in pain till Tuesday when we had to get a mobile x-ray person come in to x-ray her and that's when the staff realised she had broken her hip. So off to hospital Wednesday morning. I went in and had to wait nearly 2 hours before I could see her. I stayed there till 5.30 and came home. Thursday I was back there for 7 hours and they said she would be operated on, so she had been fasting and I left again at 5.30. At 6.36 that night I got a call saying that they weren't going to operate till Friday! I was very disappointed, as was Mum, I am sure. She got to have dinner at least.

Anyway, she was operated on Friday about lunchtime and I was waiting when she came back into her room. Sh wasn't too happy as there were 3 men in with her - all with broken hips and with Dementia! It was interesting listening to them! he he he!!!

Mum doesn't remember how she fell and says that she hasn't got a broken hip. I asked her to put her hand alongside her left hip and then she grimaces, but still says she doesn't have a broken hip. She has actually had a Hemiarthroplasty (check it out on the internet).

The staff have lowered her bed, put in an air mattress (automatic which has individual pockets that change tension, there are crash mats either side of her bed and motion sensors. One of the surgeons rang me on Wednesday to ask if I would give permission for her to go onto Aspro for 6 weeks due to her 2nd brain bleed, I of course said yes.

She looked dreadful on Friday and I said I'd wash her hair and put on some makeup for her on Saturday. Ben (our son) and his partner Mia came into see Mum and he took lots of pictures. She still rejects the idea that she has broken her hip and kept telling us so. In the end we just didn't mention it

She is sleeping a lot and the staff at the nursing home have yet to get her walking. She has stood up with the aid of a high walking frame and it's going to be hard for her to rehabilitate as she doesn't understand any directions now. It's just so sad watching her deteriorate. Anyway, I go in 3 times a week now and try to get her to eat something, she has lost a lot of weight, but is on Ensure to give her an appetite. That comes and goes too, some days she will eat really well, then others not so much. I'll continue to go as long as I can. Love Chris

Picture of her once hair and makeup was done. Ben was making us laugh. You can see how much weight she has lost in her arms and shoulders.

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by jrob Moderator 26 Sep 2023

It IS a lovely picture. I know this breaks your heart.

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by dragonflyer 26 Sep 2023

So sad to hear this Chris...what a lovely photo of the two of you...sending love and healing prayers.

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by pennifold 27 Sep 2023

Hi Kim, this was when Mum was in hospital. I've put up a post later than this. Check out my name and you'll see the post from this week. Love Chris

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by basketkase edited 25 Sep 2023

She has such a great smile, I can see where you get yours

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by pennifold 25 Sep 2023

Thanks so much Vicki, it's good to see her smiling these days. Love Chris

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by mad14kt 24 Sep 2023

You look like your mom! Praying her continuous strength and healing!!!

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by pennifold 24 Sep 2023

Thanks so much Monika, love Chris

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by mariagiannina 01 Aug 2023

Hi Chris, I've been thinking about both of you lately, sorry to hear about Mum's broken hip. I hope she's is not in too much pain, take care of yourself too. You are both looking really good.

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by pennifold 03 Aug 2023

Hi Mary, thanks it's been a rough time these past few months. Mum is in a wheelchair and moves up and down the corridors with her feet. She is standing up with help from the nurses, the Physio told me today that she will be up and walking well by the end of next week - we hope. She is a fighter! We put her little stuffed dog "Miss Lily
in her walker and she loves to take her for a walk. Love Chris

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by olly 28 Jul 2023

So sorry to hear Chris. While taking care of your mum, please do remember to take care of yourself too.

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by toogie 28 Jul 2023

So good to hear from you. I’m glad Ben and Mia visit too. I really am sorry your mom broke her hip and so sad she doesn’t understand. I was told a lady went to see her mom this week that has Alzheimer’s. Her mom was so ‘out of it’ that the lady left crying. It’s hard for people to see their loved ones so confused. It’s so good to see you laugh, even though we don’t hear you.-lol- it’s such a good way to release tension. Best wishes to you and your family always. ❤️Toogie

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by pennifold 29 Jul 2023

Hi Toogie, yes, it was good to laugh and being in that room with the 3 old men, there were some funny comments!!! Mum can be a little bit "in your face" if you know what I mean and can speak out her thoughts loudly!!!! he he he, love Chris

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by sebsews 28 Jul 2023

Oh dear Chris, Sorry about what happened to your Mum. Hopefully she is in no pain. As you know I have gone through similar things with my sister. I visit her 2 or 3 times a week. My heart goes out to you and your family as you deal with this awful disease. Mum and you look beautiful! Sending hugs and love, Suzanna

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by pennifold 29 Jul 2023

Hi Suzanna, yes, I think of you often with your situation too. Life can be cruel, but I just know that God is looking after us and keeping us in His grace. Love Chris

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by dailylaundry 28 Jul 2023

I had been wondering how your Mum was. So sorry about the broken hip - it must be so painful. So hard for you too. You are doing all that you can do, please know that. Hugs and prayers, Laura

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by pennifold 29 Jul 2023

Hi Laura, yes, I know that I'm doing as much as I can. Meg has been a tower of strength and my oldest friend Sue has also been a great sounding board. Some days I cry with Mum and others I have to laugh at her responses.

The nurses are wonderful and she has a favourite called Annette. She actually reminds me of myself as a younger woman and maybe that brings a memory back for Mum. Love Chris

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by gerryvb 28 Jul 2023

it's a lovely picture, it will not be easy for her and for you. a big hug is coming your way, hope your mum's hip will recover. take good for yourself so can be there for her. hugs/love Gerry

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by pennifold 29 Jul 2023

Hello my friend, Ben took about 20 pictures just kept his finger on the phone clicking away. The face on Mum didn't change much, although I was laughing at Ben's jokes. Love Chris

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by mops Moderator 28 Jul 2023

Chris, I am so sorry to hear this. I hate this horrible disease.

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by pennifold 29 Jul 2023

Hi Martine, thanks and yes, me too! Love Chris

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by shirley124 27 Jul 2023

Chris my prayers are with you all. Hope your mum recovers well from her hip op. My sister in the nursing home with dementia is not well at all. It is just a matter of time. Take care of yourself as well as your mum. Hugs

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by pennifold 29 Jul 2023

Thanks Shirley, it's a time thing unfortunately and she has to do physio daily. I've seen her stand up on the high walker and she grimaced a little, but did it. She just has to keep it up. Love Chris

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by irenewayne 27 Jul 2023

Chris how awful for you. I hope Mum rallies round soon. A lovely pic of you both. Take care. Irene

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by pennifold 29 Jul 2023

Hi Irene, thanks for the kind words, and I hope Mum gets up and going soon too. Love Chris

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by basketkase 27 Jul 2023

Oh my goodness Chris.....hate to hear of your Mum's continuing health issues, as if she hasn't had enough to contend with and you have had your own issues to continue dealing with as well. Amazing to see smiles on both your faces despite the challenges!! Much love!

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by pennifold 29 Jul 2023

Thanks Vicki, Ben was cracking jokes and trying to get Mum to laugh and look at the phone. She doesn't realise that we take pictures on it, the expression doesn't change much. I'm doing well thanks, love Chris

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by jrob Moderator 27 Jul 2023

Ah, Chris, I hate this dreadful disease!

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by pennifold 29 Jul 2023

Hi Jerrilyn, you and me both! Having lost my Dad and Nanna to it, I dread it. Love Chris

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by dlonnahawkins 27 Jul 2023

So sorry, Chris, about all that you are having to go through. It is so hard to see our loved ones deteriorate. But you both look very good.

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by pennifold 29 Jul 2023

Thanks so much Dlonna, I try and do Mum's hair every time I go in. The nurses try, but they never do it like Mum likes. Love Chris

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by airyfairy 27 Jul 2023

So very sorry to read about your dear mum. Love after yourself Chris.
Love to you Sarah

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by pennifold 29 Jul 2023

Thanks dear Sarah, me too! I'm trying to relax a bit more these days. Only going in to see Mum 3 times a week greatly reduces my stress level! Love Chris

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by dragonflyer 27 Jul 2023

So sad to hear this, Chris...I must say this is a very nice picture of you and your Mum...falling is one of the greatest risks for seniors...

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by pennifold 29 Jul 2023

Thanks so much Kim, yes, falling is very dangerous at any age and everyone says that we take a good picture. I tell Mum she looks great (when I do her hair and makeup) and so do all the nurses and she says "No, I'm not". She gets embarrassed when getting a compliment! I'm lucky in that my hair is great and easy to do. Love Chris

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by 02kar Moderator 27 Jul 2023

Chris, I am so very sorry to hear your mum has fallen and now has broken her hip. She has been through so much the past year and now this. Keep loving her and know you both are held in God's arms. And we are all giving you cyber hugs wishing they were real hugs and sending up prayer after prayer.

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by pennifold 29 Jul 2023

Thanks so much my friend, I feel them and I know God is watching over us both. Our family are trying to get into see her too, one at a time. They are all so busy and especially over the weekend with sport!!!!!!! Love4 Chris

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by cfidl 27 Jul 2023

Bless you both. Your relationship is the best. I will pray for her and her time left here with you.

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by pennifold 29 Jul 2023

Thanks so much Chris, I hope that she can eventually walk and we can take her out again. Love Chris

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by sdrise 27 Jul 2023

Prayers are coming your way for both of you. So sorry mum fell and broke her hip. I is sad when they deteriorate and all you can do is watch them go down hill. Thank you for updating us. We all care for all of you. You are part of our Cure family. You look wonderful too . HUGS

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by pennifold 29 Jul 2023

Thanks Suzanne, I appreciate your lovely comments. I'm doing really well.
I'll go see Mum tomorrow (Sunday). Amy, Ophelie, Delphi and their dog Maisie went into see her today and she loved seeing them. Love Chris

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by asterixsew Moderator 27 Jul 2023

Chris thanks for your update. I have been thinking about you and wondering how all is with you. So sad to hear about your mum, life has not been easy for her or you recently but she is in a safe place. Take care and I hope all is progressing well for you too.

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by pennifold 29 Jul 2023

Hi Caroline, thanks, yes I'm doing well. I was meant to go see my Radiation Oncologist on Friday but she had to cancel due to a conference she was attending. With us going away next Friday for about 10 days and then her going on holidays we've rescheduled for the 18th August.
Mum is being well cared for and is in bed a lot resting and they get her up on the high walker to move her and then into a wheelchair. She isn't happy, but at least she's getting 24 hour care. Love Chris

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