by gramsbear 14 Mar 2021

3/14/2021... Hi everyone! Today, 8 yrs ago my Darling Honey went to be with Jesus. I know he is where he wanted to be, but that doesn't keep me from missing him. I thought by now it would not be so hard on me, Wrong!... But it must be getting better, because I didn't go into depression this year as I have in the past! So God is helping me deal. Many of you who have had this happen, understand how I feel. Just had to write to my Cute Family about this. Love all youns! It would be great if we never had to feel this kind of thing, but if you love someone, you can't avoid it, I guess!. Thanx for reading this!...Love, Judy...

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by hightechgrammy 20 Mar 2021

We'd love to see a picture of you and him! I find it helps to show people his picture. Then I can look at it too, and enjoy seeing him as I think others might!

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gramsbear by gramsbear 20 Mar 2021

Thanx! I will try to do that!...

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by hightechgrammy 20 Mar 2021

Judy, God bless you, I know how it can hurt losing someone so dear, your companion. It has almost been 7 years since we lost our son Ben. In my Grief Share class I learned it takes from 4-8 years to work through grief of someone who is a very important part of your life. I have begun to have more sweet memories now than nightmares. Hang in there, do some new things you never did with him, maybe write about him. One year was especially bad and I wanted to write, but couldn't get started. So I made a list of the things he loved. It was 7 yellow legal pad pages long! It felt wonderful! Hugs and prayers for you! jan

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gramsbear by gramsbear 20 Mar 2021

Thanx so very much Jan! That makes sense and I will try that! It's amazing how we can help each other just by being us!...Love my Cute Family!...Judy...

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by dragonflyer 18 Mar 2021

It is always so difficult to lose a loved one, and so hard when those anniversaries come...I know you embrace the time you had and the memories you shared...I am not sure time heals all wounds....so glad you are here with all of us so we can wrap our love around you...

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gramsbear by gramsbear 20 Mar 2021

Thanx for your words, sometimes others have no idea what a few kind & thoughtful words mean to others! Thanx again!...Judy...

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by tonilee 18 Mar 2021

Judy, my husband of 50 years died 5 years ago in June.i compare it to losing a arm, no disrespect to those who have lost a limb, a lose is as such you can learn to go on, doing jobs you never dream of, facing holiday as i did last sunday was my birthday, you can learn to go on but you would always miss that limb, that part of you that isn't there. i do understated and god bless you. part of us is missing

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gramsbear by gramsbear 20 Mar 2021

Amen and I agree! From the moment he and I met, and the electric spark zoomed up my arm to my heart, I knew he was the one! He & I fit together like a hand in a glove! Thanx for your welcome words of encouragement! Keep on Keepin On!...Hugs, Judy...

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by gerryvb 17 Mar 2021

Judy, we will always miss the ones that are in out heart, and on some special days even harder. But they are always there in that special place in our heart and mind..... A special hug and prayer for you, are coming your way. Love Gerry

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gramsbear by gramsbear 20 Mar 2021

Thanx Gerry, I appreciate all the Prayers I can get! haha! Hugs and you are so right!...Judy

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by toogie edited 17 Mar 2021

I have empathy for you Judy. My 'traveling' niece reminded me today that next week will be the anniversary of her daughter's death. She really struggles through the anniversaries of her daughter and then her grandson's deaths. She has one more daughter and only one other grandson. Her family is small, but no matter how many you have you don't want to bury any. I really don't know how to help her but listen and be there for her...I'm glad this year is better for you. It is 8 years for her too, losing her daughter. I will be glad for her when she is where she can say, 'it must be getting better'. Squeeze yourself hard from me and smack, smack- a hug and kisses from me to you-Toogie

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gramsbear by gramsbear 20 Mar 2021

Hugs & Kisses to you also in your loss! I guess we all have loss, no matter how close or far away! We each handle it in our own way! I know I would not have been okay without God being by my side! Thanx for the words of encouragement! Judy...

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by pennifold 15 Mar 2021

Hi Judy, I'm glad to read that haven't been so depressed this year. I know how hard it is to lose someone you love so much, but life goes on and you are a very strong woman. God bless you. Love Chris

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gramsbear by gramsbear 15 Mar 2021

Thanx for the encouragement!...

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by crafter2243 Moderator 14 Mar 2021

I think it makes it even harder during these lock downs. How much I would have loved to have conversations with him. Hugs to you. Please Judy stay safe and enjoy life even if he is not with you. He would want you to.

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gramsbear by gramsbear 15 Mar 2021

Thanx and I'm sure you are right!....

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by vkggal 14 Mar 2021

Dear Judy, I sure do know how you feel. It will soon be three years for me and no it doesn't get easier, but, with God's help we can go on and learn to function again. Just in a different way. Praise God you didn't go into depression as that never changes anything except maybe to make it worse. I have lived most of my life by the serenity prayer...…….accepting things I can't change. Praying for God's continued blessings. Love, Millie

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gramsbear by gramsbear 15 Mar 2021

Thanx for all you've said to me!...Hugs, Judy...

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by graceandham 14 Mar 2021

I've had this experience - it's been 21 years. Think how different you are, the good things, for having known him and for having lost him. More compassion? More patience? More getting all the goody out of the experience? God bless you. You'll see him again.

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gramsbear by gramsbear 15 Mar 2021

Thanx and Hugs!...

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by dailylaundry 14 Mar 2021

My heart goes out to you - I am sending a prayer your way! Loads of hugs, Laura

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gramsbear by gramsbear 15 Mar 2021

Thanx and Prayers back to you also for what is happening in your world!...

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by stork 14 Mar 2021

Here's a big HUG for you Judy!!! My prayers and God's blessing be with you. I am sure you have so many wonderful memories of your loved one. Cherish those always! Tonya

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gramsbear by gramsbear 15 Mar 2021

Thanx and I will cherish them, I Thank God everyday for bringing him and I together. We had 9 years as a married couple and they were the best years of my life!...Hugs,...

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