by toogie 12 Apr 2018

My dear fellow Cuties, I want to share something with you. First, how caring and loving my grandson Caleb is. Second, the story I am about to tell may upset you. It did us. Life can be cruel, but we can hide from it. Bad things happen. They draw us in, whether we want to participate or not. Such is what happened late yesterday evening.

Yesterday evening after Caleb got off work, he brought his tractor he just bought, over to his dads. Caleb lives in town and his dad has acreage at his place to keep it. So of course he called my dh over, because he wanted his grandpa to see his 'new' old tractor, bush hog and trailer. Caleb has land that he has purchased to build on but can't leave it there, because someone would steal it with no houses around.
About an hour or so, after my dh came home, we got a phone call. I could tell Caleb had been crying.
Caleb said when he turned down a long street he has to drive down on his way home, he could see something in the road. He thought it was a child playing in the road. As he got closer, he saw it was a baby. Actually it was a toddler, about his own child's age, of 18 months.
Caleb said he stopped his truck and looked around. There were houses, but not a soul in sight. He said the child reached up for him to hold him, but he wouldn't pick him up, for fear someone would see and have him arrested, accusing him of trying to kidnap the baby. (Isn't it terrible that we have to protect ourselves instead of giving the toddler the reassurance he needs?)
The baby's feet were covered in ant bites so bad. Caleb said his feet were swollen like they were going to burst. He was clothed in nothing but a diaper and his face was dirty. I'm not sure about his little body or just his face.
So Caleb called 911. He reported just what happened and the dispatcher said she would send an ambulance and an officer out. Caleb was told to stay at the scene.
It took 15 minutes for an ambulance to come. In the meantime, a couple ladies stopped. One was a lady Caleb recognized from First Response. She held the child. Then 2 women came up and started knocking on doors of houses around. They found the dad of the child.
The dad came to get the baby. Caleb said the dad came in pajama pants and no shirt. When Caleb looked at the mans eyes, Caleb said you could tell he was high on something and he had sores.The guy apologized for 'his little escape artist' getting away from home. (How does a toddler get away and you not know it, you know he can't open the door)
So when the ambulance came, they stayed, but their hands were tied so to speak. They said they could not enter the residence, until the officer came.
After Caleb waited an HOUR for an officer to show up, the officer told him and the women that were there, they could leave. Caleb asked the officer did he want a statement from him. The officer asked if he was the one called 911. Caleb said 'Yes sir'. The officer said, 'Well, you can leave, we have your report on tape."
Caleb was emotionally drained, I'm sure, because when he got home, he held his son and cried. Especially after telling his wife all about it and who the guy was.
Caleb said he recognized the 'dad' from when he was in high school. The 'dad' was a year younger than Caleb. Caleb said the 'dad' probably didn't even know him or he was too high to recognize him. Then Caleb's wife told him something she remembered.
She said about 2 years ago these same people had a little girl that drowned. She didn't remember how, if it was in a bathtub or swimming. Caleb said the guy did state they had lost a child two years ago, but to SIDS. Taylor said No, it was a drowning, because she remembered how that bothered her.
Like I said, it is a cruel world. What chance does that poor child have to grow up stable, or even to grow up at all? It seems to me, the death of the first child would be suspicious, by the 'dad' saying it died by anything different than the drowning that was determined.
I told you it would be upsetting. It has upset all my family. I do hope social services steps in, before we hear of something worse happening to this child.
Caleb said he wondered why he was the only one, at the time, that stopped to help. God places us there, I believe. Someone out to do no good could have very well kidnapped the child.
Well, got to go. My little ones just came in for some lovin'-Toogie


by eyeztodiefor10 16 Apr 2018

Perhaps God placed Caleb there instead of anyone else because He knew Caleb would protect her and not hurt her. If it had been someone else who found her it could have been very bad for the little girl. Thank you God for sending Caleb there before the child was taken by someone who would hurt her or worse. Amen.

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by gerryvb 16 Apr 2018

how sad this is, hope and pray for a miracle that this child will get a good home, a better place and loving people to help him grow. It must have had an enormous impact for Caleb, he did what was possible at the time.

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toogie by toogie 16 Apr 2018

He said the baby had to be his son's age. It was very unsettling for him.

by jenne 16 Apr 2018

I will be praying for this child,also the dad, only God can turn a life like this around.

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toogie by toogie 16 Apr 2018

Yes, I asked mt class to pray for the parents so MAYBE the child can be okay.

by gerryb 15 Apr 2018

Oh my! Being very good friends with a lady that has adopted foster children, & knowing their IS a cruel world! My heart breaks for that baby boy. I am sure DCS will not remove him from the home...esp. since the officer had not gotten there after so long a time. Just praying God protects him. Caleb, you are a good man.

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toogie by toogie 16 Apr 2018

We feel the same way is why is so upsetting...

by kustomkuddle 15 Apr 2018

Thank God your Caleb was there to help as much as he could. Now to pray for a miracle to help not only this little one, but also the "dad". Even though I wish someone could " shake" some sence in him.

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toogie by toogie 16 Apr 2018

You said it!

by sebsews 15 Apr 2018

Thank you Calab for doing the right thing. I pray social services follows up on this.

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toogie by toogie 16 Apr 2018

So do I...

by cfidl 13 Apr 2018

Thank God for the miracles! I pray for a miracle in their lives, that they may be lifted up and see the glory on high. I believe I am seeing one in a life that means a lot to the children I nanny.

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toogie by toogie 14 Apr 2018

Then that's great Christine. This family sure needs one.

by 02kar Moderator 13 Apr 2018

My heart grieves for that poor baby and for Caleb. But what a hero Caleb is to save that child. And he did. I'm glad the women came along to help comfort the child. I wish the officer had arrived before the ambulance and it was the officer who found the dad. But no matter what Caleb and the women did the right thing. Please give Caleb a huge Cutie hug and a huge thank you for being a moral, caring man.

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toogie by toogie 14 Apr 2018

I'm always glad to give Caleb a hug, and he,me. As soon as he comes in or leaves, I get one...I can see why the world is like it is, with parents like that, the child will be too unless there is intervention....

by parkermom 13 Apr 2018

What a horrible situation that child has to live in. But what a testament to the wonderful way Caleb has been raised. Speaks volumes about your family's values. I will pray for that baby and his parents, and also a prayer of thankfulness for Caleb and his actions

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toogie by toogie 14 Apr 2018

Caleb is strong minded but very tender hearted. Picture Hoss Cartwright of Bonanza, although Caleb is not that big. Just a big guy with an equally big heart.

by maleah 13 Apr 2018

God blessed you with such a wonderful and caring child. I wish more were like that. People do not realize that God has let us "borrow" his children for such a short time and it is up to us to protect that child.

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toogie by toogie 13 Apr 2018

Isn't this the truth.
Caleb is my son's son and my first grand child.

by katydid 12 Apr 2018

Toogie, this is so sad and we live in a time where this happens .I just cry I pray for that child!

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toogie by toogie 13 Apr 2018

Thank you Kay and hard as it is we have to pray for these parents, so they will 'man up' and be good parents.

by dailylaundry 12 Apr 2018

So very heartbreaking!!! So happy Caleb stopped!!

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toogie by toogie 13 Apr 2018

Yes, he had to Laura. He would have never been able to live with himself. He had a hard enough time watching the so called 'dad' walk away with the child.

by crafter2243 Moderator 12 Apr 2018

Very upsetting indeed. This poor little soul. It leaves me speechless and in tears.

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toogie by toogie 13 Apr 2018

I'm with you there Angie. I thought, if these people stay in the area this child will probably go to school with my great-grandson. I wonder if that child will ever know, that it was Rylan's dad Caleb that saved him that day.

by lbrow 12 Apr 2018

Toogie I cry so easily these days and this broke my 💓. I believe we have guardian angels and evidently there was one watching over this one till the Good Samaritan (your son) came along. This world is so sad . Thank you for raising your children to have soft caring hearts. Hugs. Lillian

pennifold by pennifold 12 Apr 2018

Me too! Love Chris

toogie by toogie 13 Apr 2018

Lillian I'll bet your children are like mine. My sister once said, she wished her children were close and loved each other like mine do. I just raised them the best I could, always putting their and their dad before myself, just like we are supposed to do. Too many these days are selfish only want their 'fun' no responsibility. I know there are a lot of Cuties like me and you, too. Always, caring for each other by praying, calling, emailing, helping with projects...anything someone needs. That is when we can say we've had a great day. We helped someone.

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by lucy12345 12 Apr 2018

I hope the poor child gets the care he needs. My prayers with you all

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toogie by toogie 13 Apr 2018

So many times that's not the case. I hope this is the exception.....The child and even his 'dad', parents, need prayers...

by rescuer Moderator 12 Apr 2018

This story and many like it are all too common now. I'm afraid it may take multiple reports to Children's services before the child has a chance. Even if they remove him, their job is to reunify the family. That means many drug "slip-ups" and court required gifts of toys to prove the birth parents love the child...

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toogie by toogie 13 Apr 2018

As much as I know foster parents are needed, I could never be one. I couldn't stand letting the child go back until the next 'slip-up'. I would go crazy worrying.
My husband had actually suggested us becoming foster parents when I 'thought' we were going to be empty nesters. We are really, but you know I always have them in and out. I told him, I wouldn't make a good FP because I wouldn't want to let the children go.

by pennifold 12 Apr 2018

Oh! Toogie, God bless Caleb for stopping. There seems to be so much suspicion in the world today. Where has our compassion gone to? I pray that this child will receive the help he/she needs. Thank Caleb for me, love Chris

toogie by toogie 13 Apr 2018

Chris, Caleb had to stop. He couldn't have gone on by, knowing he put himself in danger of arrest, if someone saw and wanted to accuse or if the child would get run over. It was right before dark.
He sure used his head by calling 911 right away and not picking the child up, no matter how much he wanted to. I on the other hand would have done the natural thing first, consoling the child, then calling 911. By then I'd have been accused or arrested, because I forget in times like this, how different the world is today. Either no one trust any one, or if they do trust, they're betrayed. Sad, sad world.

craphael by craphael 16 Apr 2018

You have a wonderful family! It's so unfortunate that just anyone can have babies. Do you know if Child Protective Services was called? If so, they'd have to go and investigate the situation for the child's well-being. To have already lost one baby from negligence and now another innocent child is roaming around, without proper clothes, dirty and desperate for affection. What if Caleb didn't see this child? I wonder if there is a mother involved??? I'm so sorry for this baby and pray that someone is able to step in and be a heroe, like your grandson Caleb and take the necessary steps to insure safety for this child. Thank you for sharing this heart breaking story. We can all open up our hearts and pray for them.