by jmweller 23 Sep 2013

Not to take anything away from leenova54, but I am feeling a little down today. Six weeks ago I lost my husband and best friend of 24 years from a fast-moving staph infection that started from an infected kidney stone. The house seems so lonely now without him. I know I will get through this eventually, but right now it still seems so difficult.


I do know that family and friends are vitally important, even the ones you have never met face to face.

Thanks so much to all of you; you have given and will continue to give me so much from my relatively short association with all of you.

Maureen

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by jrob Moderator 25 Sep 2013

I wish I could give you a hug in person, but I can share your sorrow and pray that you have peace and strength to get through this dark time. Come here anytime or PM anyone here. I know you will get the response you need at the right time. I'm sending you a cyber hug, and a smile.....you can borrow mine until you find yours. (((((((Maureen))))))))))
(that's you being hugged!) ;)

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by toogie 25 Sep 2013

I am so sorry you have lost your soulmate.Death is something that will come to us all,but to come unexpectedly,is always such a shock.I know I am not the first to say,but it takes time.Time is a healer,but take time to grieve, it is natural. All these feelings you have are natural, just know that people care and support you,when you need that shoulder to cry on.As for as Deb,leenova54, I heard from her today.She would also tell you that she has the same feelings.She misses her husband dearly, she has her parents, but we know, no one can replace your spouse. I don't know if you are a christian,I do hope so,and I don't mean to preach.If you are, then you know, and I will just remind you. Being a christian doesn't exempt you from lifes heartaches and sufferings, but He did say he would get you through, He would never leave you.I will pray that God will lift you up and make your burden lighter.I truly am sorry for your loss.May God bless you.Toogie

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by awesome1 25 Sep 2013

You can come visit us anytime, and know that all of us here have you in our thoughts. You'll always have friends to chat with, right here. You'll never get over your loss, but it will get easier to bear. May blessings and hugs be heaped upon you.

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by crafter2243 Moderator 25 Sep 2013

BIG HUG!!!!!!!!!

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by cfidl 24 Sep 2013

I stopped in to check on you. It does not seem that you have been here. I am wondering if you have a buddy, not that I am that worried about you, however one of my duties as a buddy is to answer the phone! Sometimes a voice in my ear is better than words on a page. I would go crazy if I could not vent orally, even though I can scream in private! Hope you are on an even keel, and come back soon.

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jmweller by jmweller 25 Sep 2013

I am taking it a day at a time, like I'm sure anyone else would. There are good days and bad days, but I am comforted by the knowledge that he loved me and I loved him back, so much. Thanks.
Maureen

jmweller by jmweller 25 Sep 2013

Also, I have two sisters in the same town, and one of the best friends in the world that I can call anytime.
Thanks again.

cfidl by cfidl 25 Sep 2013

excellent! You are blessed!

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by camylow 24 Sep 2013

SENDING SOOOOO MUCH LOVE YOUR WAY...HUGS DEANNA

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by askmcv 24 Sep 2013

So sorry for your loss

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by edithfarminer 24 Sep 2013

I am so sorry Maureen to hear about your loss. Yes it will take time.
Prayers for you. Hugs Edith

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by debswebster 24 Sep 2013

My heartfelt condolences to you Maureen. He will always be close - watching over you from Heaven. Big hugs to give you strength. xxx

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by rachap 24 Sep 2013

So sorry for your loss, thinking of you and hope each day gets better

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by oaro 24 Sep 2013

So sorry for your loss praying you feel better is ok to cry time will help love Maria

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by sdrise 24 Sep 2013

I am sorry for your loss. It is never easy to lose someone you love. Keep in touch... We are here for you also.

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by rmj8939 24 Sep 2013

I am so sorry for your loss Maureen. It has been quite a few years since I went through this and know exactly how you feel right now. It does get better but do not make any major decisions right now. Give yourself time to heal. God bless you. Ruthie

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by eggyannie 24 Sep 2013

I do so wish I could be there to put my arms around you and let you cry the hurt away. and yes seeing the happiness of others makes the pain so much harder to bear.
The pain does ease and eventually you will begin to feel alive again ,
Morning has to take place before the healing can begin,
take care my cyber friend and remember there are many of us out here who care about you and worry even though we never meet our prayers will be there for you.
hugs, tears, prayers and kisses for you
annie

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by justsew 24 Sep 2013

O Maureen I am sorry for your loss, It must be a great comfort to know you can have a chat and find friends at the touch of a button here on Cuties,I send you love and a hug.
Pam.

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by airyfairy 24 Sep 2013

Dear Maureen - I am so terribly sorry you have lost your husband. It must be so hard not having him around anymore. Try and stay strong. We are all here for you. Love and hugs. Sarah.

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by juanitadenney 24 Sep 2013

So sorry for your loss, sending hugs and prayers your way.

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by noah 23 Sep 2013

Will pray hugs

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by haleymax 23 Sep 2013

Maureen, I'm so sorry for the loss of your other half. Yes, it seems as if part of you is missing. Try to remember the things that made him laugh and now laugh with him. It helps to remember their laughter, bright smiles and funny things they did, it makes the heart lighter and helps to overcome the gloomies. Nothing can replace your loss, but time will help to make the loss easier to bear. Hugs, Maxine

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by 1ladyb 23 Sep 2013

So sorry for your loss Maureen. I hope the days and weeks ahead get easier for you and the happy memories you had with your husband are the ones that come to mind and make you will smile. Stay busy, keep close to your friends and lean on the Savior to see you through.

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by vickiannette 23 Sep 2013

My most sincere Sympathy to you Maureen.

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by nannynorfolk 23 Sep 2013

Big Hug for you :)))

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by lenamae 23 Sep 2013

Maureen
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I wish I could think of something that would take away your hurt .just trust in God he knows best and will console and comfort you.
Love and hugs
Lenamae

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by pennifold 23 Sep 2013

Great words of advice and wisdom listed here below me. You seem to have the right attitude Maureen and you know that time is a great healer. It's only natural for you to grieve and you are still in the early stages. I like "graceandhams" words of looking after your health and sleep patterns etc. as you need to look after yourself too. Memories are something we can all recall from time to time too and I know it makes me smile when I remember something my Dad did or my best friend. We are all here for you to listen to, have a cry with, enjoy the good times too. Love and blessings Chris, Newcastle, Australia.

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by graceandham 23 Sep 2013

Lots of good advice here. Writing was very therapeutic for me, writing out my happy memories of him and little moments we shared. Also, whatever you do creatively, stitching, gardening, helps move you forward to healing. He will always be with you. It has been 13 years for me. I beat out my feelings on the piano and hauled 100's of wheelbarrows of soil amendments around the yard till I was surrounded by daylilies! God didn't do this to you, it's a part of nature, but God grieves with you and brings people into your life to help you overcome your sorrow. Be especially careful of your nutrition and sleep schedule, as your health is in danger when you have been through sorrow and trauma.

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by gerryvb 23 Sep 2013

Maureen, sorry for your loss, when you feel down I hope there will be someone you can turn to. And if there's no one available, know you can always come here for some comfort or a hug or for you to vent. here's my hug for you now,

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by zoefzoef 23 Sep 2013

Maureen, I'm sorry about your loss. I can only imagine the difficult moments you are having. Know that we are there for you, always someone is online and will listen to you. Hugs sent

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by cfidl 23 Sep 2013

My sympathies, bless your heart. We are your people, here anytime. I admire your positive attitude and wish you the best. Christine

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by 02kar Moderator 23 Sep 2013

It is ok to cry. Your entire life has been changed. But you are not alone. You have family, friends and Cuties too. Be patient with yourself. Try to do something each day even if it is t embroider something or to go shopping or visit someone. Talk to people and let your doctor know how you are doing emotionally. It is not a weakness to need a little help medically to get over the rough spots.

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by mary51 23 Sep 2013

Maureen, I so sorry for your loss, I know how you must feel, I lost my Dh of 30 years, 2 1\2 years ago and still grieving, I miss him so much, he was my friend, lover, confident, my right hand now I feel like a member of my body is missing, I know I am much better now than what I was a year ago, but still have my crisis, and I cry, sobbing, asking God why? his sudden death left me in shock. Al we have hope is one day we will be with our beloved husbands, they are waiting for us. I read somewhere writing a journal, and it has help me, my writing are like letter for him, I am in my second journal soon I will have to buy another one. We know they are in a better place. I finish reading a fantastic book , is was written my a DR. Proof of Heaven by Eben Alexander. You may want to try it, or Mathew Tell me how is Heaven another excellent book.

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by rescuer Moderator 23 Sep 2013

I am so sorry for your loss. It is so very hard when a loved one passes unexpectedly. I can only offer virtual hugs and my condolences.

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by anangel 23 Sep 2013

Maureen, it is natural for you to still be grieving so soon after a loss, and feeling alone intensely, too. You will always miss him, but will smile when you focus on the good times you had together. Try to feel his presence, as your angel looking down, watching over you and wanting you to smile, be happy! Each day things will get less difficult, as you ease into activities you enjoy, and try to stay busy. Stressful times have gotten better for me, when I made myself plan outings to socialize, shop, get my hair done, or just take a long walk in the sunshine, breathing in fresh air, enjoying the sounds of nature.
Wishing you better days ahead! Hang in there!
Hugs, Angel

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by chenille 23 Sep 2013

Hugs and prayers for you! I feel very deeply for your loss.
Hugs, Nadyne

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by sewemb 23 Sep 2013

Been there, and it does get easier but at times there are difficult days.

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