I am going to stick my neck out and I am all ready to be shot down. I just wish that some fellow Cuties, when asking for help would reply - just to let us know that we have helped. I know for a fact that many Cuties go to a lot of trouble to look up web sites to help others - never to hear another word. There, I have said it and I hope that no one takes offence. Sarah.

Thanks and flowers to all!

I agree with you. Hugs, Lidia

WOW - I never expected the response to be like this. A huge "thank you" to you all. Sorry that I have not replied to each of you but there were so many answers. *** for all and hugs Sarah.

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by shirley124 04 Sep 2012

Thank You

Sarah, you have simply put into words, thoughts many if us have.
hugs Helen

Amen to that!

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I'd like to expand on that and say it would also be nice to get a response (and a photo of the stitch-out) from the recipient of designs, digitised specially for them, by requests made here at Cute.
I could get really annoyed here and start whining about the time spent digitising, without seeing the final result, or even a negative response to the stitch-out, yada, yada, yada.
But I'll just say........
A design digitised by request is not the same as just collecting a freebie, nobody cares if you collect a freebie and never use it.
Thanks I may get, but seeing the design stitched out is FAR more important than the thanks.
OK, off my soap box now.
Hugs n thanks to those who stitch their designs out with pride and who appreciate the work that has gone into creating them.
Meganne (Melide Menschen Designs)

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by stork 04 Sep 2012

Wonderful comment and suggestions!!! I agree. I don't digitize or even have any idea how and appreciate those who do so anyone asking for a said design should stitch it out and share how well it looks. Give kudos to the creator

by bumblebee 04 Sep 2012

I must say that not all have a digital camera to post a pic even in our modern
times.

Thank you Sarah for reminding us, (you see it is not always sewing that we learn here, but now some -repeating- of good manners) i 'm sure we were all learned by our parents to say "thank you", but we do forget is sometimes.

You are right!

Sarah, you are so right. It only takes a second to say Thank you. I do try to answer all posts , but will sometimes just put a general post thanking everyone and then also leave *** 4 all, to show that I have read the reply.
(also put a ttt) and add flowers for later answers afterwards.

Hugs Yvonne

I agree. When I have asked a question, I have always tried to go back even later and thank everyone who answered and give flowers. Hopefully I have never missed anyone.

When I ask a question, I always try to give a flower to everyone who responds, and make a comment on their reply. I don't expect an answer, but sometimes I do wonder if the person who replied every went back and looked at my return thank-you. I guess more people do then I realize.

Is there a better way to say thank you for the help then to reply individually to each answer?

I don't know if this has happened in other countries, but in the US, manners have really taken a dive. Many times, when you buy something from a store, or fast food restaurant, the clerks say, "There you go" or "Have a Good One," and don't even say Thank YOU! No kidding. It's amazing. Sometimes, I just wait and they look at me and I say, "Oh, I'm just waiting for you to say Thank You." Try that sometime! It's really fun to see how they react! I tell them, I can't help it, I'm a teacher! LOL! Am I bad??

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by greysewist 04 Sep 2012

I'm with you, Jan. It's also annoying when 'customer service officers' carry on a conversation between themselves, ignoring their customers :(

by fannyfurkin 04 Sep 2012

It is the same everywhere, here you are lucky to get service let alone a thank you.

Well thanks for saying this i try very hard to answer if i ask for help,but somtimes at camp this internet really sucks and i love and appreciate you all big hugs carolyn

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by hightechgrammy 04 Sep 2012

Carolyn, you are ALWAYS sweet and kind!

G'Day all. I used to like it when the old site was operating that when you were in the community tab you could click on the tick next to the "by '(insert name) here'" in the postings. So when you wanted to go back to a post that you had made all you had to do was to click on the "show: All | my questions | my answers | marked" and then you had only the ones that you may have marked displayed.
If you look at the top of the public tab in community it still shows those headings but when you roll the mouse over it, it won't allow you to click on them. It would be great to have that function working again.

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by ingrid68 03 Sep 2012

*'s to you all.

I think most people have good intentions but sometimes they just don't make it back to the site to say thanks. I try hard to check back quickly so I don't lose the question. I have been helped so much by so many from this site and I really appreciate all the information I have received. Thanks to all "Cuties". You are terrific. I hope you all know how great you all are.

I agree Sarah, but also agree with those who have mentioned the inability to find your posts again, I am so sick of waiting for this site to be restored to how it was that I rarely bother to comment any more. There have been promises of some rules to guide people and moderators and I can't even remember how long it has been since the promises of returning the sites previous functions. Pretty shabby show in my opinion. This site is broken and is well overdue to be fixed. Now I shall prepare to be shot down, but by the time I get back I may not be able to find the post, so it won't matter.

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by hightechgrammy 04 Sep 2012

he he he he LOL

by airyfairy 04 Sep 2012

So very good to see you Alice. Hugs Sarah.

by ansalu 04 Sep 2012

Alice I'm at your side ;o)
I was nasty enough to push Megs announcement from June back to top and get the same prayer-wheel: Be patient-be patient-be patient... The "update" (or better downgrade) has his 1st anniverary soon!

by jofrog2000 04 Sep 2012

As this is a "free" forum provided for those who choose to be here, I don't understand the demanding tones. Yahoo groups are easy enough to start if you want "your house" to run your way. I might want things to change also, but I go do other things.

by ansalu 04 Sep 2012

It is more the lack of information that I don't like. Making promises and the nothing happens. I was a paying member here since Dec. 2008 but now my last membership I bought in the month with the "update". Alright maybe I should better quit than saying my opinion?

by ansalu 04 Sep 2012

saying my opinion. I'm surely not the only longtime-member that isn't happy with the development during the last year.
Greetings, Bettina

by meganne 04 Sep 2012

Bettina I understand your frustration, but while things don't appear to have been happening, they actually have, if only in the area of reducing the number of disruptive or argumentative posts, most have these have been removed before they even got a chance to cause any trouble.
I would also like to ask you to do something for me, so that you can understand some of the difficulty Miss V is having with upgrading such a monstrous web site.
I'd like you to right click on any blank area of this page, then select VIEW PAGE SOURCE from the drop down menu. when the page opens, scroll down and see how huge it is.
What you are looking at is the HTML code instructions required JUST to achieve this one page of the website.
I certainly wouldn't want to be the one trying to upgrade this website!

by meganne 04 Sep 2012

chance to cause any trouble.
I would also like to ask you to do something for me, so that you can understand some of the difficulty Miss V is having with upgrading such a monstrous web site.
I'd like you to right click on any blank area of this page, then select VIEW PAGE SOURCE from the drop down menu. when the page opens, scroll down and see how huge it is.
What you are looking at is the HTML code instructions required JUST to achieve this one page of the website.
I certainly wouldn't want to be the one trying to upgrade this website!

by meganne 04 Sep 2012

page, then select VIEW PAGE SOURCE from the drop down menu. when the page opens, scroll down and see how huge it is.
What you are looking at is the HTML code instructions required JUST to achieve this one page of the website.
I certainly wouldn't want to be the one trying to upgrade this website!

by meganne 04 Sep 2012

want to be the one trying to upgrade this website!

by terriweistra 04 Sep 2012

Good grief, I just did as you asked and I am gobsmacked!!!!! Miss V needs a LOT of support & admiration. I don't envy her working through all that computer lingo :)

by fannyfurkin 04 Sep 2012

Really Meg? if you do that to any website you get all that html code. I would seriously doubt that miss V writes all that code but rather uses software to produce it.

by fannyfurkin 04 Sep 2012

It may be a free community but it brings masses of very valuable traffic to the site, everyone here is creating unique content for the site which is very helpful for the search engines.

is there an information/how to file for this group? I find it difficult to get around at times eg; when/why we use flowers etc. You should not be shot down for this :o) how to go about it may be tricky.

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by yvonne123 03 Sep 2012

if you leave a flower does the post stay where it is but if you leave a comment it goes to the top?

by hightechgrammy 04 Sep 2012

You got it right :-)

Part of the problem could be not being able to find their post. I have collected 24 flowers over the past 2 weeks. I have been away with family sickness and I searched back 14 pages and never found where they came from.

Not an excuse but maybe an explaination for some of the problem...

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by pennyhal 03 Sep 2012

I'm sure you are right about not being able to find a post. I have that problem all the time. Post appear, disappear, or get repeated on several pages all with different responses all the time for me. I just sort of go with the flow as there is nothing I can do about it.

by hightechgrammy 04 Sep 2012

That is so true. Our questions do get buried. We used to have a nice little link that we could click that said "my questions." Maybe we will get it back someday :-)

by momhome 04 Sep 2012

I try to click on flowers that are a 0 whenever I see them - old or new posts. People doing that may be part of why tracy collected flowers while she was gone and could not find them.

You have got a great response (Good) for this question. I give a flower and a thank you when asking for something and also when posting a project. If at any time I have missed someone I do apologise. It is sad when people find they just cannot find 1 or 2 minutes to answer. I am having the same problems with family at the moment with a few emails and other things. It just makes you wonder some times just why you bother to help a friend or family member. Hugs Shirley

Manners cost nothing but mean a fortune :-)

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by hightechgrammy 04 Sep 2012

That should be a design! Some people don't think manners are important any more - that they are too old fashioned - LOL

I cannot tell you how many times I have been asked for help and get no reply. I will help anyone asks me but can I at least get a Thank you? This is one of my peeves also. Thank you Sarah for bringing it up
Bev

I agree-just to let us know that you found what you needed or appreciated the effort someone made to help you.

Well Sarah it seems as if we all agree with you. I do remember last year spending ages giving a reply to someone who never gave any indication of having read what I had put... Generally the majority here are so helpful and give feedback too (plus the flowers)

Totally agree with you. I am also fascinated by spammers getting flowers while others that comment are left with Zeros.

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by shirley124 03 Sep 2012

Hear! Hear!

by pennyhal 03 Sep 2012

That always befuddles me too.

by hightechgrammy 04 Sep 2012

Look before you click on flowers!

Well said Sarah - it's just common courtesy to say thanks. I know sometimes I'm on here for ages finding a design for someone who has requested something. Our lives are all busy, I know, but good manners should be at the fore. Love and blessings Chri

It's only common courtesy. I do think more on this site say thank you than don't though. When my children were teens, and got gifts, $ ,or a check for a gift, they knew that they were not allowed to use the gift or spend the money until a thank you note was written and shown to mom. ;)

I agree so often with comments, as yours, but rather than add to the list of replies, I give a flower. If I have requested a design I usually sent the person a private message with a personal thank you. But at least a thank you under the info!! I still send snail mail notes...now THAT tells you what an old woman I am!! (69)

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by airyfairy 04 Sep 2012

Hey - watch the old!!! I am only 2 years younger. :) LOL

I so agree with you. In all things of life it is nice to get a thank you and it mostly takes no time at all.

Oh, how many times I have thought the very same thing, Sarah!! I wondered if the person even came back to see the replies??? Same with DBC, you wonder if they come back to collect the designs they requested????? Some let you know, some don't..
As another cutie said, it is just common coutesy...

Do you find this in every day life. People just don't bother to say thank you anymore. I made a wedding album and gave some money as a gift for a co-workers daughter over a year ago and am still waiting for a thank you. She told her Mom to thank me, so I guess that was it. I find it so much these days and I am at the point of not giving a second time to those that can't be bothered to say Thank you the first time. What is this world coming to...

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by terriweistra 03 Sep 2012

... sad isn't it?? I cannot believe that anyone can say/think there is no time to say Thank You. Two little words and they can make such a difference.

You are right, Sarah, common courtesy should just be automatic :-) It's not too much to ask.

Being rather new to this forum, seeing the word "thanks" next to the flowers, made me think that they were meant as a quick "thanks." But along the way, I find that responses that involve some level of time/effort have elicited a written comment from me. But that is just me.

I can see how and why others may think that giving a flower is sufficient when it really is not. It's sort of like how people put "TIA" at the end of a post. While I think it is nice if everyone would acknowledge whether or not your efforts were of help, and I am always curious if my response solved a problem, I have come to accept that hearing back just isn't going to happen 100% of the time. I'm ok with that. It isn't going to stop me from sending my voice out there in hopes of helping another. And I'd also like to know if my advice ended up being bad advice too!

You shouldn't get shot down love, you are only reminding people that a simple 'thank you' is nothing more than common decency :) With flowers, I usually give and then forget NOT to use the back arrow and I am sure that happens often with other Cuties as well :)

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by pennyhal 03 Sep 2012

What happens if you use the back arrow?

by terriweistra 03 Sep 2012

The flower which you have just given is cancelled.

by jerrib 03 Sep 2012

I have noticed that also, but when I go back into the post, the flowers are orange, so it does work, at least I hope it does. I leave flowers and would hate to think they aren't being given.

by leenova54 03 Sep 2012

The flower isn't cancelled, you are just seeing the page as it was before you did the flower, when the page is refreshed the flower is there.

I believe if you can take the time to ask you can take the time to say thanks, hugs S*

You know that I agree 100% with you Sarah.
Same with the zero flowers, I'm not making a competition but like Jerri I think it is a sign to say "Thank you"
Greetings, Bettina

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by jerrib 03 Sep 2012

I usually leave a flower to all when I read a post as well. We all love flowers don't we and it only takes a minute. I don't think of it as a competition to see who has the most, just shows that I read the post..

by babie 03 Sep 2012

Agree with you. I love the project tab but often feel embarrassed for not commenting on all projects. I leave a flower when looking but due to time can not comment on all.

I always think we should take the time it, is only a second, to say Thanks! NO OFFENCE taken here

I agree also. I have been helped so many times and have always left a flower and a comment.
Hugs
Jerri

No offence here, Sarah. I've often thought the same thing. Sometimes I've even asked "did you find what you needed?" and nothing, like they never even come back to check. Sometimes I think it's people who don't really know how to use the site, but often it's not. Nobody's asking for gushing thanks all over the place, but it would be nice to at least know they got the information. Hugs, Marji

You are so right it only takes a quick note to say thanks or that really was helpful.

Surely, no offense taken and I for one thank you for reminding all of us to be grateful and to at least say Thank You.