by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

What is wrong with the younger generation??. Talking to my Step Daughter in Law this afternoon. I am going there for lunch on Good Friday. She asked me if I could sew up one of the sock toys I gave Holly. Either it has come apart or Holly has made a hole in it. What is wrong with my DIL, can't she take out a needle and cotton instead waiting for me to arrive???????

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by jnet 27 Mar 2012

I know the feeling, once you made it you are expected to repair it. I wish that they would repair it themselves, oh well you have job security. :)

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

So Sad to not know how to even mend something.

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by vickiannette 27 Mar 2012

a sad thing for humanity, is it not? PS have you got your machine working yet?

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Machine is all sorted but have not used it yet.

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by kitty2011 27 Mar 2012

lol... 'sew' typical. There does 'seam' to be an entire generation that missed out on learning the art. I know I've had much repair work dumped on me over time. Mother & sister both sewed. I didn't have daughters so haven't passed it on.

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

When I stayed at my son's place (No female in his life) he asked me if I could make him some cushions. I suppose that is a little different.

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by asterixsew Moderator 27 Mar 2012

Take it as a compliment, she knows you can sew. Just how would you feel if she said she had thrown your great sock monkey away because it had a hole in it? Maybe she cant sew but I expect she has other skills. It is very sad that today so many of the younger generation cannot sew and are unable to create the great work we do. In the UK there is a generation who did not sew in school and with working mothers skills are not passed on. Hopefully when Holly is older YOU will be able to teach her. Lastly CONGRATULATIONS as I see you are on 16000 flowers

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Thank You re the Flowers. I didn't know and had to go and check. Thanks.

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by devon 27 Mar 2012

I know how you feel. I have some to call me to put a button on????? What will they do????

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Maybe they throw clothes away rather than sew or mend?

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by mjdg 27 Mar 2012

Your post made me laugh. I've sewn for years, taught my self. For a lot of years I made all our three daughter's clothes as well as mine. There is not one kind of needle work that I have not done or at least tried.
One of our daughters does cross stitch. One knits house slippers and that is that. None of them even know how to thread a sewing machine! LOL They do other things but not one cares about sewing.
I'm the one that does all the mending, altering, etc. and once in a while one of them will want something embroidered.
My girls think I am one of a vanishing breed! LOL
MJDG

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Do you think that is what Mothers are made for??

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by shirlener88 27 Mar 2012

So sorry to hear this - perhaps she just wants your special touch on the repair!

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Maybe, but I don't think so.

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by justonlyme 27 Mar 2012

Maybe she is worried that she will mess up your very nice work. Or maybe she doesn't know how to sew. At least she is concerned about it being fixed rather than hiding it somewhere because it has a problem. I hope that you enjoy your trip and maybe you'll have an opportunity to teach her how to sew. :)

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

I think all of the above plus "Why should I do it when I can get someone else to do it?"

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by greysewist Moderator 27 Mar 2012

Being an in-law, I'm thinking she's probably nervous of ruining your work of art and doesn't want to upset you.

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

You know just the right words to say.

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by emily16838 27 Mar 2012

Don't feel bad.... Both my son-in laws do all the sewing. One mended the lace on a 1st Communion vail that had been pass down...Me, my daughters and now GD... I think mom would have chucked it. One SIL made a T-shirt quilt with a little help from me of all their college T-shirts. The other SIL sewed Teddy bears.... Both men all good cooks too. Funny thing I love to sew but my mom did't and both of my grandmother sewied too but not my daughter.... I'm trying to get my GD to sew.... skips a generation

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

My Mother was great at sewing, but she could never ride a bike. I miss my Dear Mum. Think she would be proud when she sees what I do.

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by eyeztodiefor10 27 Mar 2012

Does she know how to sew? Maybe she can't.Maybe she told her daughter that Grandma could fix it. Kids can be rough on things so I'm sure it wasn't you. I have 2 dgs who always need a patch here and there and though she can sew they want Granma to do it. What did you tell her? Are you going to fix it or show her how?
Meri

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

She has a Mother and a MIL. I am the Step MIL.

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by nualaa 27 Mar 2012

My kids do their own now. They joke about if you need a repair done give to mom and you will get it back in 5 years. This reminded me, my youngest daughter gave me a top to sew the band back on 3 months ago and she said she needs it for the summer, guesss I'd better get it done, will only take 5 mins. LOL.

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Think I am expected to take a needle and thread with me. Maybe she doesn't even own a needle.

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by bettytaylor 27 Mar 2012

I must be weird because I find it an honor that they would ask me to do the repair or hem or whatever. I, in turn, ask them(all 3)to do for me when I know they do very good work on a project. We all love one another and respect each other as well. There is NOTHING I would not do for my children or their spouses. BettyTaylor

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

You must be one in a million Betty.

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by grossfamilie 27 Mar 2012

Oh - I know what you mean - you would like to share talents
and pleasure in doing useful and creative things but it
really is a problem nowadays. My elder sister who is an
expert sewer would so much have liked her daughter in law as well as her granddaughter to do some "crafty" things but so far she wasn't at all successful. It really is a shame what the younger people are missing. Love Maria

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Maybe this is something we do as we get older.

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by gerryb 27 Mar 2012

Kindly & sweetly show her how to do some hand mending. My fingers no longer work for handwork...so my DD has to do most of it for me! She's learned from it! Our kids think we will live forever..I guess I too thought that! As my mom was dying bit by bit I was telling her all the things we would do when she got better! Yeah, I see the glass half full. The next generation will only learn from us as society will not teach them the skills! BUT I do see more young women taking up the needle now!!

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

I wonder if they teach craft skills in schools now?

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by moonwillow 27 Mar 2012

I had my first sewing machine when I was three..It was tiny metal and it really sewed! I would love to find one for my gd..My daughters all got machines for christmas one year.But they were not allowed to use it until they made one project by hand.lol The funny part was that my son was offended because he did not get one..He is the only child of six that actually quilts and sews..To this day my girls are not into sewing...they sew if they have to

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grossfamilie by grossfamilie 27 Mar 2012

My eldest daughter is fond of sewing and all
sorts of handcrafting just like me.
The medium daughter (now 17) started sewing
last year under my supervision and she got a fine sewing machine for Christmas. She has done some projects already. My "youngest" daughter - part of the 17 year old twin - refuses sewing, knitting etc. so far - maybe because she wants to be different from her twin sister :-))
Love Maria

mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

I bought my first machine when I was 17 and it possibly was from my first pay packet. I still have it (Singer) but never use it.

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by blueeyedblonde 27 Mar 2012

I've always done the repairs for my two GS. My daughter can do basics and I had at one point found her an older sewing machine so she could do minor repairs as I had moved about 6/7 hrs away. My younger grandson had something that needed to be repaired and waited until I came and then brought it out and asked me to fix it and my daughter looks at him and says I could have done it for you! He looks at me and then at his mom and hands it to her and she told him no not now, you asked gramma to do it! They've also ever so nicely told me I can fix anything! They had even told friends that.
My son now does some repairs - they have my old machine and apparently one day he took it out and was fixing something of his so his wife figured she'd toss him a couple little things of the kids that she hadn't gotten done yet and he fixed them!
I think that Holly might have brought it to her and asked if you would be able to fix it (as Holly knew you made it).

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Holly is only 4 months old so I think it was Mum who wants it fixed.

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by seamripper40 27 Mar 2012

Have the same problem. Even for a hem or anything else they won't fix it themselves and they know how to sew. Easier to have mom do it. sigh

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Yes I think You are correct.

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by mysew1325 27 Mar 2012

my daughters do the same thing.. and they can all sew, but they have babies and can't seem to find the time.. but since I am retired (not doing much of anything any more) I have more time than they do.. those are their thoughts.. Oh well I do the mending for them if it is easy.. I had to find the time when my 4 kids were little.. Kids, they never change, they are always kids..

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

They have a 4 month old (Holly) When Holly is asleep they just sit and watch TV.

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by wp1012 27 Mar 2012

You are not alone in this world that feels this way. Me too. That is why daughter got a sewing machine for Christmas. She was always looking for me to do things. Now I will tell her to look on YouTube and learn. As of now there are no more projects that show up at my front door. I told her she has to learn. I will not live forever.

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

I will ask why didn't she mend the bunny.

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by noah 27 Mar 2012

Nope shes waiting for you lol i get this also hugs

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Wonder what happens if I forget to take needle and cotton with me on Good Friday.

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by cfidl 27 Mar 2012

I am hoping if she does not know how to then she will take the time with you and learn. You can keep fixing things or you can teach how to fix things... or something like that! My machine is eating my fleece for Uganda puppets, and I glue a new piece in and embroider again over it! It worked the first time. I am gonna add another layer of stabilizer, so hopefully this will stop, and I am gonna start with the felt. There are so many ways, and yes it seems there is only 1 way to fix a hole in a dolly. Maybe she needs to know your way! You are the creative one! christine LLDS!

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Good Luck with your puppets

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by suelyn7 27 Mar 2012

My 17yrs old niece lives over the way from me and she came over this day with her mums jeans in her hand and asked if I could 'fix' them when asked what the problem was she said Mum has washed them and the button has come off so it needs sewing back on when I asked for the button she looked me straight in the eye and said "do you need it had I not got one I could use. Promptly put the jeans down and said she would return in half an hour will they be ready.

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vickiannette by vickiannette 27 Mar 2012

reckon I might be putting them to the bottom of the pile!

mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Yes I would be putting them on the bottom of the pile as well.

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by bevgrift 27 Mar 2012

Studies and careers keep getting in the way.
All DIL and DD can sew but their time is limited.
I like to be needed so I do some small favours for them. My DD will make us a nice meal in Lieu of anything.
I also think that they have more spending money than my generation.
Another thing ready made is easily replaced and no attachment as when it is lovingly home made, so sometimes repairs are not worth it.
Hugs and happiness.

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Guess if it was a bought toy it would have been in the bin by now.

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by sqdancer 27 Mar 2012

Remember when one of our High School classes was Home EC, which included sewing and cooking - Does it still exist ? I doubt it ....still think our world was a better one ... but who knows !!! Hugs and try to think that maybe Holly was the one that suggested Nan could fix it for her....enjoy your visit with the family on Good Friday, not everyone has someone to spend it with...Hugs again x0x0x0

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bevgrift by bevgrift 27 Mar 2012

our local schools still give our kids a taste of these crafts in junior classes.
But as a subject for high grade class it would be such a waste of school time, girls have much more academic sciences to study

clintonmiss22 by clintonmiss22 27 Mar 2012

Yes, maybe it was granddaughter who requested it. My grandson says "Take it to Nana; she can fix anything!" And yes, high school home ec class was where I developed my love of sewing - even majored in it in college.

bevgrift by bevgrift 27 Mar 2012

I chose history, german and maths instead of home ec

mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Maybe I should give her the thread and needle and sit along side her.

lisachester by lisachester 28 Mar 2012

That sounds like a fabulous idea!!

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by edithfarminer 27 Mar 2012

Yes I know that story lol. Wonder if there will be a young genration making things like us. I enjoy it and hope some youngsters might as well in time.
Good luck well at least you are needed lol

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

My other Step Grand Daughter (almost 26) is a fabulous cook. Make fabulous cakes and the decorations are out of this world.

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by mops Moderator 27 Mar 2012

Even the Romans complained about the youger generation so that's nothing new. But not being able to mend the simplest things is something they'll no doubt learn if the economy gets even worse than it already is.

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Maybe when Holly is a teenager she will do Mum's mending for her.

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by leenova54 27 Mar 2012

My son is here 2 mights a week and so is his laundry so I sew on buttons and what not. A few weeks ago he showed up with a knit top belonging to his live in girlfriend, she was going to throw it away cause it had a tear on the shoulder seam but he told her not to cause "my Mom can probably fix it" and I did. It could have easily been done by hand but I used the machine. She is 31.

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bowlds by bowlds 27 Mar 2012

I hope he's not dragging his laundry over while you are sick!!!

mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Wonder what is wrong with her - same as my StepDIL.

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by jofrog2000 27 Mar 2012

Perhaps she just thought that since you made it, you would best know how to fix it? You don't yet know what the problem is. And it's not too many days til you will be there.

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Maybe. Are you on her side??

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by mad14kt 27 Mar 2012

This GENERATION has been spoiled to believe everything is either drive-thru, computerized, or instantly!!! LOL ;D *2U

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airyfairy by airyfairy 27 Mar 2012

ABSOLUTELY.

mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

I agree with you. These kids never have any money. Cards maxed to the hilt but have all the latest gadgets.

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by lbrow 27 Mar 2012

It's simply easier for them to ask someone else to do it. I know many of the now 20-35 yr. olds that have never had a needle in their hand. They work, and never have even wanted to know how to do things like sewing, knitting, crocheting, embroiery. Thank heavens now the trend seems to be coming back./Lillian

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Think they will be sorry later in life. Where I go for Bobbin Lace classes, the teacher has a small shop with everything and possibly the kitchen sink as well. I am amazed how many people come in and so not know how to sew.

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by pldc 27 Mar 2012

Maybe she is just trying to flatter you? Hugs & *****4 all, Loralye

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

OR -- Can't she sew - OR Is my work so bad that it has to come apart?

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by parkermom 27 Mar 2012

Many women that I work with actually brag that they don't know how to sew on a button. Even my husband does that, and more!

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

It really makes me wonder.

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by spendlove Moderator 27 Mar 2012

When our generation is all gone - they will find the error of their ways!

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

I have a friend who always used to mend white garments with black cotton -- but she makes the most fabulous Cream Puffs--- Yum!!!

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by michemb 27 Mar 2012

U fortunately our younger generation is not going to carry on what our mothers taught us. They are used to getting everything done (pay for) and even though I have taught my daughter the basics, I am surprised at how many young girls cannot even sew on a button. I must say though that apparently sewing in coming into fashion again. Thanks goodness,
hugs
Michelle

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mi30kaja by mi30kaja 27 Mar 2012

Thinking back My Mother used to do all of my mending as well. Think she would be proud of me now if she could only see what I do.

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