by carolpountney 05 Dec 2011

I feel as if I have been put through the wringer lost my darling younger sister on 22 Nov.what a shock,her hubby asked me to help clean out her hobby room, what a traumatic day but have to go back to finish its been awful could not hold back the tears will try to finish all half completed articles will be very busy but not yet in the right frame of mind.

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by jacquipaul 05 Dec 2011

It's a terrible thing to lose a sibling, especially one who is younger. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Hugs,
Jacqueline

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carolpountney by carolpountney 05 Dec 2011

Jacqueline, thank you for your kind thoughts, this is just the best family the Cute one

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by gdsteliga 05 Dec 2011

I am so sorry for your loss. It doesn't seem so now but down the road it will be good for you to have some projects of hers to finish. It may comfort you to be working "with her" on them. When my mom passed away,she lived on the other side of the country. Before I could get there, my brothers cleaned up and got rid of everything. I would love to have an unfinished project to work on.
God comfort you now and always.
God bless

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carolpountney by carolpountney 05 Dec 2011

gdstelga, thank you for your kind words I have not thought of the comfort it will bring to finish one of her projects, thanks for that, rgs Carol

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by bumblebee 05 Dec 2011

How very sad but your right you can keep her memory
alive by finishing her projects. Her spirit is alive
in your heart and it will be very healing for you to work through memories and loving times as you touch her thru projects you both now will share.
Hugs,
Linda aka Bumblebee

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carolpountney by carolpountney 05 Dec 2011

Linda, thank you, being part of the Cute family is very comforting in time,yes I will get down to the projects, rgs Carol

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by mary51 05 Dec 2011

I am so sorry for your lost, I know how you feel I lost my DH may 16th, I had the help of a friend to clean up and give some of his cloths to needed people, my sympathy goes to you and your family, may God give you the strenght you all need in this difficult time.

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annag by annag 05 Dec 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss as well, I have a younger sister and don't know what I'd do without her - and the thought of having to do what you're having to do - well, bless your heart. It's got to be so very difficult to be strong in this instance....just know that she would want YOU doing this and not a stranger. Take good care. Anna

carolpountney by carolpountney 05 Dec 2011

Thank you for the kind words, and thoughts, rgs Carol

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by ssampsel 05 Dec 2011

when we cleaned out my grandmothers house after she died i brought the sewing & quilting things home with me since my sisters don't sew. even now when i feel troubled i get out some of her things & work with them. brings back memories & helps clear my head. i am sorry for your loss but happy your bil shared this with you.

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carolpountney by carolpountney 05 Dec 2011

Thank you for the kind words, rgs Carol

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by crafter2243 Moderator 05 Dec 2011

I am sad with you and I am sending you hugs. Angie

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carolpountney by carolpountney 05 Dec 2011

Angie, thanks for the hugs came at the right time, rgs Carol

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by jjjj 05 Dec 2011

So sorry for your loss. I lost my elder sister just before her 50th birthday. My cousin said the shock was that is OUR generation we are loosing. The hole she left will always be with me, but the memories I have do lessen the pain. Please just hold onto the good and happy times - these will keep her spirit alive in your heart.

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carolpountney by carolpountney 05 Dec 2011

Thank you very much for the kind words, I did not expect the response I got, it seems to lessen the pain somehow, cant explain it, rgs Carol

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by ansalu 05 Dec 2011

Feel so sorry for you. I would not imagine to loose my older sister cause we were very close all our lives.
When my godmother died 18month ago my sister and I had to clean her flat. She has worked in a clothing factory and had cupboards full of fabric, zippers, knobs and thread. I took what I can use and also her 30years old Bernina-sewingmachine. Whenever I use this machine I think on her and how happy she would be to see that I appreciate her machine so much.
Sending big hugs to you...
Bettina

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carolpountney by carolpountney 05 Dec 2011

Bettina, thank you for that I was thinking of donating my sister's machines to the church, as I have four of my own, but don't know now, will leave it for a while, rgs Carol

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by noah 05 Dec 2011

So sad this time of year May God be with you:):)hugs carolyn

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carolpountney by carolpountney 05 Dec 2011

Carolyn, thanks for the thoughts and hugs, its very kind of you, I just love your angels, rgs Carol

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by airyfairy 05 Dec 2011

Being an only child, I cannot imagine what it must be like to loose a sibling. My thought are with you over this very sad time. Hugs Sarah.

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carolpountney by carolpountney 05 Dec 2011

Sarah, thank you for the hugs, all this means so much to me love your teddy rgs Carol

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by sadp 05 Dec 2011

I'm sure it was difficult, but what an honour to be able to help him out, hugs S*

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carolpountney by carolpountney 05 Dec 2011

Yes thank you S* I also thought it was an honour, and he is such a nice man, even if it hurt me to the core, I could not say no to him, he is also suffering,rgs Carol

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by michemb 05 Dec 2011

That is so hard to do, lost my mom this August and had to empty her apartment. Lots of memories come back and it breaks your heart. Thinking of you in this time of sorrow.
Hugs
Michelle

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by lbrow 05 Dec 2011

Carol my heart goes out to you. Losing a sister is like losing a part of one's self. As Chris advised think on the good times you shared with her, the funny instances when you were children that will bring joy as well as tears to your heart. Then you will realize she is still with you, in your heart and memories she will always be there. God Bless/Lillian

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carolpountney by carolpountney 05 Dec 2011

Lillian, thank you for the thoughts, it is very kind of you to take the trouble I really appreciate it, rgs Carol

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by meganne 05 Dec 2011

This is very sad and I am crying with you remembering the fear I felt, of losing my sister, when she had breast cancer. It fairly tore my heart out and I couldn't breathe.
Sisters are very special friends, who share your memories, hopes and dreams for as long as you have lived, to lose a sister is to lose your life's shared memories. I pray that you will find the strength to finish the task your BIL asked of you. You should make it less painful by making it a special time to talk to your little Sis as if she were still there, because she probably is. Treat all her things with love and reverence and cry your heart out when you need to. You need to do this, it is part of the healing and I could think of no better way to feel close to your Sis than to be amongst all her things. I did this when my Mum passed and after three days I realised that it had been a really good thing to do. To feel her presence in everything I touched, to hold silly little keepsakes and laugh as I remembered the story that went with each item, to cry when I read birthday cards to my Mum from HER older sister, so many great memories.
Do it with love, not with sorrow, she is still with you.
Hugs and blessings, Meganne

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carolpountney by carolpountney 05 Dec 2011

Oh Meganne, thank you sooo very much for your kind words you have no idea just how your words have affected me,I will cherish them for ever, rgs Carol

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by pennifold 05 Dec 2011

First of all Carol I'm sorry to read you have lost your younger sister but don't worry about crying, it's cleansing. What lovely memories you will have by going through the things in that room. I hope you can face up to it again and remember she will always be with you as memories last a long long time. Love and blessings Chris

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carolpountney by carolpountney 06 Dec 2011

Chris thank you for your kind words, regs Carol

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by shirlener88 05 Dec 2011

Carol, I am so sorry for you loss - I had to clean out my Mother's whole place - when I placed her in a nursing center and her hobby room was in every room of her apartment - it was very difficult - but she hadn't passed yet - so it was more of a chore to know what to do with everything she had and to know what should go where - for her. I hope you can finish up some of her projects and have the right frame of mind - when you do - enjoy it all - think of what she might have been thinking and the love that should would have put into making them all - not that she couldn't finish them - that you have the honor to be part of what she wanted for another - I will be praying for you.

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carolpountney by carolpountney 05 Dec 2011

Shirlener88, thank you for your kind words and thoughts, all I can hear at the moment is her crying as I had spoken to her at 10 in the morning and she said she was not feeling well, and I said I would see her at 3 that day but 2 hours later she had passed I did not get to hold her for the last time, so sad, rgs Carol

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