by bokkieborduur 15 Jul 2009

think that the Heartsore will pass, I don't think so because there will be a hole in your heart. I think that if I talk to somebody this will get bettter, I went to saw her in Hospital last night and she talk to every-one, but this morning she past away before we could get to hospital. Was to late to see her for last time. Love Marie

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by meganne 19 Jul 2009

Marie, I am so sad to read this message and pray that your heart will mend in time.

It is so painful when we lose any loved one, but for us women i think it is the worst of all when we lose our Mum.

I still talk to my Darling Mumsie and I know she is my Guardian Angel watching over me. It is coming up to five years on July 28 and it seems like it was only yesterday. But the pain has eased, although the loss never has, and every time something exciting happens I still reach for the phone to call her. She missed seeing (my grandchildren) her two Great Grandchildren and the third one due next February, and she missed seeing her youngest son get married for the first time at age 55, and her youngest daughter (me) finally settle down and marry a GOOD man, Oh and so many other special events.... but I like to believe she can see EVERYTHING and I can feel her smiling, and her warmth and generous heart fills my heart with gladness because I know, as long as I live, She lives within me.

Let your heart rejoice and celebrate your Mum's life and live in the memory of her love and soon the pain will pass and you will be filled with the joy of Her and of being so blessed to be Her daughter.

Hugs and much love, Meganne

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by waterlily 16 Jul 2009

I'm so sorry for your loss! You and your family are in my prayers!

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by kt55 16 Jul 2009

Marie, I too am so sorry for your loss. My prayers and sympathy for you & your family. My family lost father-in-law, 24 year old daughter, then my Mother within 2 years. We also suffered through my husband's broken back,, heart valve replacement, and son-in-law's collapsed lung due to chemical esposure during this time. People kept telling me that you don't ever get over the pain, but you get through it. We made it 8 years, but we still get overcome with grief and have a good cry. I hope that you have family & friends to lean on.

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by dlonnahawkins 16 Jul 2009

Marie - I am so sorry for your loss. Many of us have had to go through this, and it is never easy. You always remember, and yes, there is a hole in your heart. I can not say that it gets much easier, for I do not think that I have had time to heal from the death of both my parents within 9 months of each other. Just remember the love that you felt for her, and her love for you. Too, remember that many of here at Cute listen and understand your feelings at this time. Special hugs, and blessing and prayers for you and your family.

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by usman 16 Jul 2009

Sorry to hear about your great loss. May her soul rest in peace.

if you want i can make you a design for a jacket or shirt back of her picture for your memories. (free).

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by mona 16 Jul 2009

Sorry for your loss - the heartache will always be there but it will lessen and then you will know that she is in a better place. Mona

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by marjialexa Moderator 16 Jul 2009

Oh, Marie, no, the heartache won't go away, but it will get less as time goes on. I lost my mother over 20 years ago, and yet on Mother's Day I can't go past the greeting cards, I am so sad I can't send her a card. You will always have things like that, but it will get better, over a long time. And just remember, you DID talk to your Mother before she passed away, just the night before!! She knew you loved her, and were there with her!! Maybe she decided to slip away before you got there, so you wouldn't have the pain of seeing her go. Maybe it was her last gift to you, to save you from that hurt also. I offer my sympathy, and prayers to get you through this very hard time. Remember that she is not sick now, no more hurt, no more fear, she is young and happy again, with all her relatives and friends who have gone on before her. She will be waiting with her loving arms open for you, too, when it's your time to see her again. Very big hugs, Marie, and much love to you. Marji

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by annita1 16 Jul 2009

my sincere condolences to the death of your mother. Much strength in these sad days.

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by harry33 16 Jul 2009

I am so sorry to hear your sad news but remember, your Mother will always live on through you as you were a big part of her! God Bless.

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by asterixsew Moderator 16 Jul 2009

Thinking of you at this sad time. While your mother has gone you will have a wonderful lifetime of memories that are with you for ever of your lives together

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by lildoll 16 Jul 2009

SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS, IT WILL GET EASIER,BELIEVE ME,I LOST 3 SONS,AND ALL MY FAMILY IS GONE, GOD WILL SEE YOU THROUGH IT, BLESS YOU. Lildoll

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by debleerl 16 Jul 2009

So sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in 2001, the hole gets smaller but doesn't quite go away. Rest assured you did see her for the "last time." You talked to her the night before she passed. You will remember the talking and not the passing; that's how she wanted it.

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by gerryvb 16 Jul 2009

oh marie, so sorry to hear your mom passed away.i know how difficult it is when you suspect to go and talk to her again, and it is too late.i know because i lost both my parents at once in a traffic-accident.and we never could say goodbye.you feel lost, but in time it heals. you will never forget her,she's always there in that special place in your heart and in your mind.remember all the loving things you did with her, and cherish these memories.prayers and hugs for you in these difficult days.

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by tyco4357 16 Jul 2009

I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your Mom. This is a hard thing to go through but she is at peace now. I know one day I will be doing the same. My mom is 87. Prayers going out to you and your family and hugs.

Jeannette

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by newipswich 16 Jul 2009

Marie, I'm so sorry to hear of your mom's passing! My parent's died within 13 months of each other, both of heart-related issues. We live on opposite coasts, so by the time I arrived at the hospital for Mom, she was in a coma-like state, unresponsive & on life-support. I was the only one of my siblings that didn't get to talk to her at the end. But for both of my parents, God put a rainbow in the sky at some point during the difficult days I was in that state. And shortly after my mom's passing, God gave me a beautiful dream, where my mom assured me that she was ok, and I was able to talk & see her for that last time. It still makes me teary.
I pray that God will comfort you as well. May your memories be sweet! (I love looking back at pictures, but then it has been 4 years now.) Hugs!!!

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pennifold by pennifold 19 Jul 2009

This bought tears to my eyes - God is good and always keeps his promises - there was a rainbow in the sky the day my father-in-law was interred. Thankyou for sharing this memory.

Love and blessings Chris

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by kathyjt 16 Jul 2009

I am so sorry to hear about your Mother. I have lost my Mother too. It will get better as time goes by. Just thank of all the love of your Mother and maybe it will help fill the hole you fill in your heart. May God be with you and your family. Kathy

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by maryclampitt 16 Jul 2009

I am so sorry for your lose. Prayers to you and your family - many HUGS - Mary

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by ginghamgoose 16 Jul 2009

Marie,
You are in my prayers - I have been reading some of the comments sent to you and they are excellent. I can add little to it - Trust each day to the Lord and He will carry you through. He has a plan for each of us and will supply what we need when we need it. I've been where you are and I know how you hurt. The loss will always be there but as time goes by it will hurt less and you will remember with love the great memories that you shared. Life is short but we will have eternity to spend with Our Lord and loved ones. I will be thinking and praying for you these next few days - may you feel the peace and comfort of your friends and the Lord -

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by iris2006 16 Jul 2009

Dear Marie, I'm sorry for the loss og you mother. I will send you and your family my deepest condolences.
Think of all the good memories and the last talk you had with her last evening. You will be in my thoughts.

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by lflanders 16 Jul 2009

Marie, You did not lose your Mom. She will always be with you in your heart and your memories. She has just moved on to be with the Lord. I know you are hurting right now but stop and think about what a wonderful place your Mom is in and she is watching over you still as any Mom would do. Be happy for her, that her pain and illness is over and that she is such a wonderful place. You think the pain will not pass but it will and you will keep the wonderful memories close to your heart. Just remember that your Mom does not have to suffer any longer. Mourn her passing, love her and keep her memories in your heart but let go of the pain you are feeling. She would not want to know that you are hurting! The Lord knows what he is doing and is not to be questioned. We are here if you need to talk but don't forget to talk to the Lord. He will get you through this. Hugs, Linda

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by kraai 16 Jul 2009

My innige simpatie. Ek bid vir jou. Sterkte

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by ezzemml 16 Jul 2009

Hi I am sorry for your pain that you are feeling but i believe that she was taken to relieve the physical pain that she had been suffering, she will always be with you in your heart and in the spirit of all the family around you. The pain does ease try to rember the fun times you had with her and as time goes by celebrate her life have a party on her birthday and such and do it with joy as no mother wants to see her child sad is that not so. love you Marie.we are all here for you any time of day there is always some one around.

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by designgirl 16 Jul 2009

So sorry to hear of the passing of your dear Mother. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

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by read180 16 Jul 2009

Sorry to hear of your loss. My mother died in 1995. I to was not at her bedside before she died. Remember the good times and know that she is with you at all times and in a better place with God.. Peace Cindy

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by manami 16 Jul 2009

Dear Marie, I'm so sorry for your loss. I also believe God's timing is perfect, glad you got to talk to her last night. My thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Be strong. Love, Yoriko

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by pennifold 16 Jul 2009

Dear Marie, I am sorry to hear about your Mother's death. I too agree with Lillian, you did get to see her for the last time - last night. You at least got to talk with her and she with you. God's timing is perfect - He knew exactly when to take her to be with Him. As everyone else has said, time will heal the heartache, but you will never forget her.

My mum always says that we are "making memories" whilst we are here on earth. So I cherish every moment I have with Mum and Dad. Life is so short and beautiful!

Love to you and your family, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Love and blessings Chris

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by mops Moderator 16 Jul 2009

Marie, I am sorry for your loss. It's devastating to loose a parent and it hurts terribly. Try to remember the good things. My mother died of cancer 8 years ago and it did certainly leave a hole in my heart.But she'd had a long and happy life, she trusted in God and although I miss her terribly at times - specially when I became a grandmother and was so sad she'd never see him or the others that followed - I am glad her suffering came to an end. Love and hugs, Martine.

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by stitchship 16 Jul 2009

Dear Marie, My heart goes out to you. I lost my dear mom over 20 years ago, and I still miss her. She was such a wonderful lady. I got my love for sewing and crafts from her as she was very gifted. She was also a very close friend to me.

You know...though I still miss her a lot, I know that she is in a much better place. She is not suffering any more, nor sick, nor worried about anything, and that comforts me.

I remember her often, and sometimes I even wonder what she would think about this or that. I know she would have love a place like Cute and all the "Cuties".

I will be remembering you and your family in my prayers. May the Lord help you all through these painful days and months. Believe me the pain gets better as time goes by, and the memories become even more precious.

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by camylow 16 Jul 2009

Its not the ones that die that experience the pain, its the ones they leave behind that feel the hurt....God tells us not to worry about the dead, but to worry about the living....For you see he has them in his hands and is taking care of them until we all meet again....For now we are here for you and will help you heal in time....Yes the hurt will be there for awhile, but it will slowly deminish to the beautiful times you had together....Lean on Our Lord when it becomes to a point where you are hurting to bad...Talk to us here when you need a friend....Some have gone through what you are experiencing now...others are in the mist of it now, and then there will be others who will also experience it....As time goes by you will start to remember all those things she told you and you chose to ignore at the time...You will remember all the loving things taught you in which you can pass on..but you will never forget her for she will always be with you....Many prayers to you and your families...May God wrap his loving arms around you and may you feel his presence always....deanna

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by giddygoat 16 Jul 2009

I still miss my Mum whom I lost 10 years ago. Sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved mother. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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by evajungermann 16 Jul 2009

no words- just hugs. OOO

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by sissibrode 16 Jul 2009

Oh i'm so sorry for you and your familly !!!All my prayers for you Marie

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by cracker 15 Jul 2009

I am sorry to hear of your mothers passing.
Just remember shes right there in your heart. Talk to her she can hear you. Our prayers are with you.

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by mmgreyhounds 15 Jul 2009

Oh Maria, my heart goes out to you! I lost my mother when I was 18 (more than 30 years ago) and I still think of her often. You have to remember the good times and know that even though she is not here on earth any more, she will always be with you, watching over you! When you see things that remind you of her, be happy for all the love and memories she gave you. It is hard at first, but it will get easier over time.

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by dailylaundry 15 Jul 2009

Oh Marie, this is so sad....I am sorry. Everyone here gives you wonderful advice - all, I can say is, talk to her - just like she is on the other side of a curtin - tell her everything you feel and hear her words back....in your mind she will talk back to you. I too felt like an orphan after loosing both of my parents - doesn't matter your age -take one day at a time and be patient with yourself! Bless your heart!!* Laura

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by gerryb 15 Jul 2009

Marie, I am so sorry about your mom. I know how you feel. But as time goes on, YES, the memories will grow sweeter and sweeter and the pain will lessen some. Of course you will always have a hole in your heart..this was your MOTHER. Only a mother loves you no matter what. BUT there is one that loves you more and wants you to lean on Him, our Lord. May His peace uphold you during this time & remember you have MANY friends all around the world thinking of you and lifting you up in prayer.

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by jacquipaul 15 Jul 2009

After losing both parents, I felt something like an orphan, and never expected to remember anything but the sorrow and heart-break of losing them. Time helped me to remember them without the tears and to dwell on the good times. My prayers are with you and the family.
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by lv2sew 15 Jul 2009

It may be a cliche but it is true...when a loved one becomes a memory, may the memory become a treasure.. No one can take the pain away that you are feeling but we are here to help you through your grieving. God plants the seeds then picks the flowers for his wonderous garden..As time passes you will tend to focus on all the wonderous things your mother brought into your life..traditions that you will carry on to your next generation too! Your mother got to see all of you and maybe it was her will not to let you be there to see her pass. Please know that my heartfelt sympathy goes out to you and your family and will pray for you and your family in your hour of sorrow...God be with you.

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by memasanders 15 Jul 2009

Marie,
I lived through the same thing with my mom. My daddy died on a Sunday from a heart attack we buried him on a Wendsday and brought my mom home with me to live and she died the following Monday from congestive heart failure. They died 8 days apart.

No you will never get over loosing her and no the hurt in your heart will never go away. But with Gods help and time you will wake up and the sun will be a little brighter because you know she is not in pain and she is in heaven. At least that's how it's been for me. I miss them both terribly and I'm sure I always will, but I know they are together and they don't hurt, they don't want for anything, and they have the peace I know one day I'll find with Gods help.

My dear you have my prayers and My saddness for you, but just know she is in Gods loving hands and you will see her again.

God Bless you and your family

Always Ronny

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by nanniesara 15 Jul 2009

I am so sorry for your loss. It is very painful to loose a parent when you are so close as I assume you were. I lost my mom 22 1/2 yrs ago. She also died of heart problems she had been sick for 26 months. The pain is almost to much to bear right now, it does get easier with time, although you will always miss her. She will always be in your heart, and you have your memories that no-one can ever take away from you. This is a very hard time and this too shall pass. Just say a prayer and the Lord will get you thru. Sara aka nanniesara

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by shuede 15 Jul 2009

My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

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by mysew1325 15 Jul 2009

My prayers will be with you and your family .. Mother's are so very special.. take care of your self also.. God Bless

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by gramsbear 15 Jul 2009

Marie, I am so sorry for your loss, and yes, you have a hole in your heart for a long, long time. My Mom passed away in 1990, and I still get teary eyed when I speak of her. I miss her so much! But it does get to be less pain as time goes on. My prayers are with you, God is there for you. Judy

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by jrob Moderator 15 Jul 2009

Dearest Marie, Your heart is heavy and does feel like there is a hole. It is so difficult to let go of our parents, and especially our mothers who nurtured us so long and so well. As you begin to heal you will again be able to bring up the happy times that you shared. We would love to hear some of them and you know you have a place to go to "talk" to us, your friends.
Love,Jerrilyn

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by momabear 15 Jul 2009

I am so sorry for your loss. I understand the feelings you have now. She will always be in your heart. I guess this will sound a little crazy, but when I get to missing my momma I talk to her. Just remember all the sweet times you had with her. May angels surround you in this time of need.

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by letvia 15 Jul 2009

Oh dear Marie. I'm sorry for your lost.

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by ingrid68 15 Jul 2009

Dear Marie, My sincere condolences to you and your family. It may seem very hard to believe it now but even though you don't think you will get over the loss of a loved one as time goes by your pain will ease. My dad passed away 9 years ago aged 59 so he was still young, and eventhough I would cry a lot the pain has eased for me. Believe me you never forget them, they are always on your mind, but as the saying goes "Time heals all wounds".

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by marymoore 15 Jul 2009

Marie i am so sorry for your loss she willalways be in your heart i am sure and always looking and watching u

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by ksgram1 15 Jul 2009

Marie, I am so sorry for your loss. Time will ease your pain. Remember all the good times you shared with your Mother. Perhaps it was easier for her not to have to say goodbye. I believe that each day brings us closer to being with our loved ones again.
We will be here to listen whenever you want to talk. Love, Marjorie

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by louise2333 15 Jul 2009

Marie, I am so sorry to hear about your Mother. You will always miss her. Here is an idea to remind you that she will always be watching over you. Take a clear glass christmas ornament, insert a beautiful white feather. add this verse: A feather from an Angel is one we rarely see. But this one is different and as special as can be. This feather is a reminder of a special person's love...who is now your Guardian Angel, Watching and Protecting from above. Bless you and your family Louise

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marymoore by marymoore 15 Jul 2009

oh my Louise this is a beutiful idea one i will do also for my granny she is who i miss so much thank u so much

louise2333 by louise2333 15 Jul 2009

My pleasure, I usually give one to friends as they lose a loved one.

shirlener88 by shirlener88 15 Jul 2009

This is wonderful - thank you for sharing it.

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by darenluan 15 Jul 2009

I'm, so sorry to know about your mother. My deepest condolences to you and your whole family.

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by emily16838 15 Jul 2009

I miss my mom everyday....wish she could see all the grands and greatgrands doing this and that....wish she had a chance to watch all the cooking shows on TV, nowdays ( she would have loved them) too. She died early at age 69 and my dad 4 days later(without her he didn't want to hang around. I thought would never get over it, but I have a great husband and feel so thankful to have been blessed with such wonderful parents. Remember all the great times and each day it wil get a little better...but it will probably take a few years. My deepest sympathy.

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by lbrow 15 Jul 2009

Marie God gave u your last time last night when she could still talk to u. I am so sorry, since I have lost both my mom & my dad & a husband. I know the hole n your heart u r talking about. It makes u feel icy cold all over& the heartache is so bad u think it will never go away. the empty place she left will not go away but when u start missin her think of fond memories u have stored away of your mom, things she said that made u laugh or gave u comfort. See her in your minds eye, remembering happy moments. Only God can give u the peace & consolation u see right this min. It does help to talk so talk to us, we r all good listeners. Your heart ache will get better n time. U do not say how old your mom was but that she has been sick for some time now. Only God knew what was best for her, I myself would not like living for a long time with no quality of life, because of the sadness it would bring to my fmly. I will pray for u & your fmly & God Bless You. Lillian

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by edithfarminer 15 Jul 2009

My mother died just like that so know the shock.
It will take a long time to get over, but in time you realise that she did not suffer or ended up totally dependent on someone what she would have hated and you come to terms with it.
My deepest sympathy and condolences.
Have a goode cry when you want to, I think it helps.
Alle sterkte

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by nini 15 Jul 2009

Dear Maria, 4 years ago I lost my father, after several days of suffering. The heartsore does'nt disappear but the hole in our heart becomes filled, little by little, with the tender memories we gathered and the sweet moments we lived. So, my dear, cry all your tears but remember all yor happy moments together. Love. Nini

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by castelyn 15 Jul 2009

Maria, so sorry to hear of your moms passing, my deepest sympathy to you and your family.
She has gone to a better place, and no more pain and suffering.
Remember all the good times you had with her,She will always be in your thoughts and your heart.
God Bless and you and your family will be in my prayers -

Hugs and love Yvonne

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by caydebug 15 Jul 2009

Marie,
No one can say how long the hole will be there. My Dad has been gone for almost 3 years and there is still a hole in my heart. I didn't get to say goodby either. I went to work (living with them) and returned home the next morning and found him. He had passed sometime during the night. I beat myself to death for months for not knowing that he was gone, maybe gone before I left for work, we don't know for sure. I had to finally realize that it was better for me to find him, than my Mom, who was sleeping in the next room. But no matter how much the hurt was or still is, nor how much I would love to just get to hug him, never, never would I want him to return to this earth to be in the pain and have the sickness that he had. It would be so unfair to him even if it would be happiness to me. No the hole never leaves, but the love you have for her will in time realize that you would not want her come back just to be sick again. I hope this helps, but nothing will truely help but time. And in time your mind will overrule your heart and you will come to an understanding, I guess that is what you call it, just an understanding.
My heart aches for you and your family. Please know that you are in my prayers. Just give it time, there is no more that anyone else can say or do to take the hurt away. Only time.
Prayers and Many of God's blessings,
Libbie

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by shirlener88 15 Jul 2009

Oh Marie, I am so sorry - it is never easy to have a loved one pass and especially our parents - the love that you feel for her - shows how much she meant to you - this pain is never easy to get over and the love that you have for her - will not go away - I am so sorry that you were not with her when she passed - but there are times - that God knows more than we do - He will take another when they are alone - if the those left behind would have trouble with that passing - I will be praying for you dear one. Please share with us - whenever and whatever you need to - to ease the pain and suffering. *4U

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by blhamblen 15 Jul 2009

I am so sorry for your loss..She is in your heart, even though it feels EMPTY...Time does make things a little better, the hurt starts to fade, but NEVER really goes away.
XX's and OO's for you and your family:) YOU are IN our hearts here at your time of need..TALK to US:)

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by babsie 15 Jul 2009

I feel for you, the heartacke will pass, but u will always remember. My husband passed away in 2003 after 3 months in hospital but the cancer already spread thru his whole body and he was very sick. I still miss him terribly. I will pray for you that is all that help. The Lord will heal all wounds in His own time. Love and hugs

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by minicow 15 Jul 2009

my deepest sympathy to you - you and your precious family are in my prayers. I 'm also sending a heartfelt hug- just for you
from minicow

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by paulineblais 15 Jul 2009

Dear Marie, I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. The heartache will pass in time and so will the emptiness of her not being there. I lost my mother 11 years ago and my sister 5 years ago both to cancer. I remember of all the good times we had together and that gets me through the heartache. My prayers go out to you and your family.

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by vixentlc 15 Jul 2009

Marie, you and your family are in my prayers.

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by daisy530 15 Jul 2009

Dear Marie,
I'm so so sorry that you lost your mother. I think there will always be an emptiness in your heart. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. Love, Daisy

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grandmamek by grandmamek 15 Jul 2009

Marie, I want to extend my condolences to you and your family. It is alway hard to lose a loved one. I will pray that God will give you strength to face the upcoming days and that he will provide healing for your broken heart. Hopefully your heart will fill with beautiful memories. Hugs for you. Mary

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