by kezza2sew 20 May 2009

It was in a 110k zone. Trudy and girls survived but unfortunately Jason who was driving lost his life seven hours later. He had been trapped for 3 hours in the car and lost an arm and was given 18 units of blood. Trudy and girls moved back home to us. We actually moved out of our house into the cottage down the back so she and girls have more room.

Lotus had serious head wounds. This is healing well; more surgery is needed later this year. We always have to be very careful she does not get the wound bumped as it is still sensitive after a skin graft.
Lotus herself knows what happened. And she is such a fantastic little trouper. She did regress in age due to the trauma. She is 3 and a half and we started her in Kindergarten recently to help take her mind off things, goes 2 days a week.
Because their daddy worked away from home, he rang every night at 6 and boy did they miss that, Indianna would say ‘daddy’ when the phone rang.
Trudy has had many appointments with drs, chiropractors and Psychologists and she will not drive anymore, therefore her dad or I take her. Usually a 2-3 hrs trip due to living in the country. Our time has not been our own anymore. Life has changed for all of us. Trudy had only made the police accident report about 1 month ago and it was really hard to do and bring it all back to her mind. The driver of the other car had a micro sleep as they call it. Trudy has taken up smoking recently. Not good. She had to stop breast feeding both girls about 2 mths ago as she needed antidepressants that was the hardest thing she has had to do. But the girls coped well. I sent Trudy away for a week to her brothers in Melbourne as this process took place, I slept with the girls and we had a lovely time. You see they have lived with us all but 5 months of their life, Trudy too of course….
They would assume GD and GM would always live with you I guess aren’t we lucky.
Trudy had a lot of anguish with her partner’s family. I won’t go there but they have been a nightmare. They have not rang once to see how the girls are going. It is disgusting. Anyway we don’t worry about them.
Our main focus is the girls. We give them so much love and are there for them at their every whim. Probably making a rod for our back, is that the saying….
The girls will be taken care of financially because the accident occurred as Jason was driving back to work. Trudy and Jason had just spent the last two months closer together as she moved closer to his work and he came home every 2nd weekend. It was such a tragedy we still are trying to cope with it. But life does go on and we are so glad we have the girls as they give us the strength to do so.
Still a long way to go for Trudy. She wants to live with us all the time now.
Trudy’s dad is not too well, and it has been a bit hard looking after everyone but somehow you keep going. I was laid up in bed for 2 days last week with the flu. But ok now. We are all hanging in here and doing the best we can, I have some UFO’s so I look forward to the weekend challenge just to get back into a bit of sewing. I only just got my computer down to the cottage this week, yeah. I had missed it. It was still up the main house. Because I am on broadband satellite I need to get a new lead to make it go faster, we have it on a router at the moment. Anyway that is just a little update.
Sorry in being a bit late in letting you all know how we are going, but I have found it hard to write this actually. But now it’s done.
Love you all, Kerry in Queensland Australia

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by tolgamum 21 May 2009

Hi Kerry, There's truth in the saying that women are like tea-bags..they get stronger when they're in hot water. You certainly have strength to cope as well as you have done, and I'm sure you will continue to remain the rock on which all your family rely. But try to look after yourself too; this healing process can be long, but in writing as you've done you have already taken the first steps. When it all gets a bit overwhelming, just remember that most of the cuties have broad-shoulders and you can 'dump' some of your worries on us - we're here for you. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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kezza2sew by kezza2sew 23 May 2009

thank you, you know your right, Cuties are always there for us, even if I have checked in here just for a short while it has been helpfull. Cute is a wonderful place to visit.

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by jrob Moderator 21 May 2009

Oh, Kerry, my heart bleeds for you. It must be next to impossible for you to watch thoses babies suffer. My God give you strength and wisdom and rest. Blessings, Jerrilyn

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kezza2sew by kezza2sew 23 May 2009

Jerrilyn, it does break my heart lots when the littlies do something new and you know their Daddy did not get to witness that. We all cannot help but think of all those occassions Daddy will miss but more the fact that they will never get to grow up with the love of their Daddy. thanks for being there for me.

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by pennifold 21 May 2009

Dear Kerry,

I am so sorry to hear what you have been through. I had no idea. I am so thankful that you have written about it though. It eases some of the pain when shared with others. I hope in time Trudy will heal physically, emotionally and spiritually.

You just make sure you look after yourself too - who looks after the mother, when the mother gets sick?

Love to you and I just wanted to let you know I am thinking of you.

Love and blessings Chris

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kezza2sew by kezza2sew 23 May 2009

Yes Chris, life is a hard isn't it. My daughter is 34, she waited till she met her Mr perfect which was about 5 years ago now. She does not see herself ever meeting or wanting to meet someone else. Only time will heal her I know. We will get through this, we have to for the girls. love Kerry

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by meganne 21 May 2009

Oh my dear friend, I know how hard this has been on all of you and you have my deespest heartfelt wishes that it will get easier in time.
My prayers are always with you all, I'm so glad you were finally able to write about it as it is part of the healing and moving on process that each of us must face when tragedy strikes at the core of our world.

I pray that in time, Trudy too, will be able to find peace and perhaps, even love, to help fulfil her life.

hugs n much love to you all, Meg

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kezza2sew by kezza2sew 23 May 2009

Actually Meg, you gave me the courage to want to start writing about it, as you never seem to give up in all you go through. You are one amazing Lady and you sure do give us all courage... Love you lots.

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by shirlener88 21 May 2009

Kerry, I have been meaning to ask - but knew that it would be hard for you to update us - so I waited patiently for you to share with us - I am glad that I did - we will continue to pray for you and all the girls - life is not always easy - but it is worth it. Do what you can - when you can and things will work out. Glad to hear that you will be working on your UFO's. *4U

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kezza2sew by kezza2sew 23 May 2009

shirlene, it makes me feel wonderful knowing you have been thinking of us. Things have been full on with all the appointments and everything, I have been soooo tired. I keep God close to me at all times as I could not get through this without him. Lots of prayers often.
Also knowing my Cute friends are here for me as well, is faith strengthing.
This will not let us grow too old too soon I guess as the little girls keep us going whether we want to stop or not.... Hugs Kerry

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by castelyn 21 May 2009

Kerry, they are so lucky to have you there for them all. My thoughts and prayers are with you all - God bless - Hugs Yvonne

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kezza2sew by kezza2sew 21 May 2009

thanks Yvonne, tomorrow we are taking the girls to the GO GABBA BABBA concert. Time out for a change...

kezza2sew by kezza2sew 21 May 2009

go gabba gabba that is.....

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by blhamblen 20 May 2009

Oh Kerry, you are in my thoughts and prayers...All I can say right now is God Bless You:)

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kezza2sew by kezza2sew 21 May 2009

thanks. Little Indianna will be 2 in Aug. thought I'd mention that.

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