by pennyhal2 04 Nov 2022

My husband had been in hospice for the past 4 months. He passed quietly at home last week. Needless to say, I am heart broken. I think there are some things in life that one just has to live through in spite of how horrible it is. Knowing that does not make it less painful and difficult to deal with. Thankfully, I have my friends here and near me, and I appreciate everyone.

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by airyfairy 09 Nov 2022

So terribly sorry to read about the loss of your husband. My sympathies go to you and your family. We are all here for you. Look after yourself.

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by pennyhal2 08 Nov 2022

Thanks for all the support everyone has provided me. Reading your postsmade me grateful for having friends who are there for me and help me through this process. It is comforting.

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by sebsews 07 Nov 2022

I am so sorry to hear of your Husbands passing. I found Cute to be one of the best online support groups. They helped me through the most difficult time of losing my husband. We Cuties will be here for you too. Try to remember the good times, smiles, hugs, times together etc. Take care of yourself and keep us informed. My deepest sympathy to you and your family, Suzanna

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by basketkase 07 Nov 2022

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry to read this news. We are all here to support you in whatever you may need......I pray for you during this most difficult time and send you a comforting cyber hug....God Bless you.....
Much love.....

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by sewtired 06 Nov 2022

So sorry that you have had to experience this profound loss. I pray that your memories and friends will comfort you now and always.

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by mrskiki 06 Nov 2022

So sorry for your loss. I know how sad and lonely you feel. Please lean on your friends as they will help you through. And this cute community will be here for you as well. Sending prayers and hugs your way. Nan

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by toogie 06 Nov 2022

I knew you had been going through a hard time, with your husband and now, will be going through a hard time, without him. Grief seems to be something we all have to experience at one time or another, but to lose one’s spouse really leaves an emptiness, not only in your heart, but everywhere. I know he had to have loved you and you loved him so fill your heart with all the love you shared and memories you made over the years. I hope you turn to God, when you are down, because He can lift you better than any of us, no matter how hard we try. We do care for you and are here for you. Much ❤️Toogie

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by arisann 05 Nov 2022

Dear sweet lady May God touch you and comfort you in the loss of your husband. My sympathy prayers and love to you now. Yes the dying itself is easy because the peace is there,,BUT the getting to that time is so hard and so heart breaking for the loved ones of thae person You still have a hard time to go through as your dear husband has gone to eternity but his love is always there with you because love never goes. i praying for you right now that God holds you in His Hands and will allow peace to come into your heart. You are loved by everyone here... Always say I am not alone.
the Comfortor is there with you all the time. love to you!

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by 02kar Moderator 05 Nov 2022

My heart breaks for you. I'm glad you had Hospice to help you and your husband through a difficult time. Don't hesitate to turn to them again. And we are here for you also. You can always PM anyone if you are feeling alone and need an ear, a shoulder or a hug.

When I was strong enough after surviving covid pneumonia to sit at the table. we started inviting friends who had lost a spouse over every Friday night, so they had at least one meal a week with friends. I wish you were close enough to join us.

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by dlonnahawkins 05 Nov 2022

So sorry for your loss. Condolences to you and your family.

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by dragonflyer 05 Nov 2022

So sad for your loss...condolences to you and your family...remember you always have your "Cute Family" here to support you....

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by sdrise 05 Nov 2022

I am so sorry to hear this My sympathies to you and the family. We are all here if you need us.. Lean on us and your friends ... Hugs Suzanne

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by jrob Moderator 05 Nov 2022

I am truly and deeply sorry for your loss. We can't possibly know what you are going through, but we can listen here if you need or want to share. I care.

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by tinfriend 05 Nov 2022

Deepest sympathy on the loss of your husband - may memories comfort you during this extremely sad and difficult time! HUGS

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by pennifold 05 Nov 2022

Hi Penny, my sincere condolences on the death of your husband. How long were you married? No matter how long one is with their partner, the end of their life is always so heartbreaking.

I love the idea of keeping a journal and writing down things that you remember about your life together, as Betsey has said (graceandham).

I do pray that you keep in touch with all your friends and family. It is so comforting having someone around when you are feeling low. Love and prayers for you

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by peafarm 04 Nov 2022

I am so sorry about this bad news and loss. It never seems, when we lose something or someone so loved we will ever get over our sorrows. I learned long ago to give it all to God, he will see us through. I had the same attitude when a friend of mine lost her husband during Covid but not from Covid. I knew the hospitals were letting anyone in so I felt very bad about not seeing him before he died, as we were long time friends. Then I thought I'd let her sit and grieve as she has plenty of family around. Bad mistake. I think she still holds a grudge about that but she can't remember very well either that I was there for visitation or even at his funeral so she still wasn't o.k. We do need support. I am worrying about my daughter right now---she will have breast cancer surgery on Nov 14. I've had cancer and a survivor but I worked during those yrs and I had no one visiting me and no phone at the time to receive phone calls. We don't need to be left alone with our thoughts. I'm glad you have picked up book to write your memories. I probably would have never thought about that. Trust in the Lord and also reach out to your friends. They might think you don't want anyone around or they are scared of saying something wrong. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

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pennifold by pennifold 05 Nov 2022

Prayers too for you Patti and your daughter. I pray that the surgeons hands are guided by our Great Healer. Love Chris

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by shirley124 04 Nov 2022

Sorry for your loss. Hugs

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by anitapatch 04 Nov 2022

So sorry to hear about your loss. Good to hear you have friends around you.

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by rescuer Moderator 04 Nov 2022

Words cannot express how sorry I am for your pain and heartbreak. You'll be in my prayers 🙏

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by dailylaundry 04 Nov 2022

I am so very sorry for your pain - and I do believe your heart hurts badly. I also believe he is still around you. Don't hold back the tears - they do help to cleanse your pain. You are so very in my prayers. Please let us know how you are doing. We care! Hugs and love, Laura

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by gerryvb 04 Nov 2022

I am sorry to read about the loss of your husband. So good you have friends who can give you love and support.
I'm sure he will always keep that special place in your heart, and will watch over you. Cherish the memories you made together. ...
You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Big hug for you...

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by crafter2243 Moderator 04 Nov 2022

I am so so sorry. I think graceandham verbalized it perfectly. I am not so good with words, but I feel along with you. I will keep you in my prayers. I know how difficult the immediate future is going to be. I pray for strength and piece of mind for you and the family.

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by graceandham edited 04 Nov 2022

Bless your heart. I lost a husband in 1999 and every so often it still sneaks up behind me and I have a quiet, sad day. The pain eventually gets less and less, and the tears, and the deep sadness. Hopefully, the many good memories begin to fill your sadness plus the hope that you will be with him again some day. It helped me to take up my blank book and write some of my memories of him. It is a bit of relief to get the funeral, with proper remembrances, behind you. However, you will grieve long after your friends turn back to their happy lives. According to people who study grief it can be up to five years. At this distance from my loss, the main thing I remember is feeling set aside by the world. Friends didn't call because it was too sad (I was 47). They said they thought I just needed time to myself. No, I needed dragging out of the house by a friend! The firsts will be hard - paying the bills if he did that, hiring someone to mow the yard if he did that. Making decisions alone was hard. First birthday, Thanksgiving, Christmas, anniversary. God bless you. I will keep you in my prayers this next year.

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by asterixsew Moderator 04 Nov 2022

I am very sorry to hear your very sad news. It is good to hear that you have friends near you and I am sure they are a great comfort to you

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