Haven't been on much lately. Ultra busy with family stuff going on. My Mom was finally able to have the biopsy of the mass they found in her abdomen yesterday. They tried two weeks ago but found that she was so constipated, they could not get a clear shot of the mass with the needle so opted to postpone it due to all the blood vessels surrounding it. So we finally got her colon cleared out and they were able to do it. We should hear sometime next week what exactly it is. Her primary doctor is pretty sure it is cancer but we will see. Praying for God's guidance. My husband's Mom's Alzheimer disease is getting worse. It is taking a toll on his Dad and he is starting to show signs of forgetfulness and poor judgment as well and denies that anything is wrong. He insists that he is capable of taking care of John's Mom and they are still living at home. He is still driving but will not give it up. It is only a matter of time before he has an accident. John is trying to do everything he can to help, but gets no support from his sisters. Enough of the problems. Thank you for letting me vent. Thank you for your continued prayers.

Praying for the best for you and yours.

I empathise with you Debbie as we went through Alzheimer's with my Dad - actually it would have been his 86th birthday today (23rd July).
If you can, try and get home help through the Alzheimer's Association. I'm not sure if you have that sort of assistance where you live, but it's a form of respite for lots of things. I see Jennifer (parkermom) has suggested something similar with Aged Care, they can help so much. I hope that John is getting some "me" time, it's a big strain on your health too. Love Chris

I don't know if you have an Area Agency on Aging in your area, but that has been a lifesaver for us. My dad, who is declining mentally and physically, has an aide for 40 hours per week, and it is paid through that agency. The aide also can buy groceries and do light housekeeping. It is up to us "children" to take my mom or dad to the doctor and other errands. It certainly takes a village. I don't' know how we would handle my parents without the help of that aide.

That's a lot of weight on anyone's shoulders. Will be saying prayers for you. We went thru this with my inlaws over the course of about 5-10 years. Not easy especially with lack of support with sublings. Take some time to breath and seek out someone to talk to so it doesn't become too much for you and your husband. Prayers

Oh my gosh, Debbie, so sorry to hear of all these issues you are experiencing......it is so hard to try to help our aging parents as they are so used to being the caretakers and then the rolls reverse. My mom fought to keep her independence and she did til the end....it is so hard on all family members......will pray for you all!

That is a whole lot to worry about. Taking care of a Alzheime patient can put a lot of stress on the caregiver. I hope your father in law will recognize it when it gets too bad. Praying for your mom and the whole family. Vent any time.

So sorry to hear you all have had to cope with so many issues...try to stay strong and positive...thoughts and prayers to all of you...