by kustomkuddle 22 Sep 2017

Hi cuties! I was wondering if you could say a prayer for my family over the next several days. My husband and I are off to New York tomorrow to see if we can reconcile with our youngest daughter. She ran off two years ago to this guy she met on line - a parent's worst nightmare- She has since married this guy and they have a little one. He has no job so they are being supported by and living with his mother. It is just a bad situation. Our impression is that his Mom controls him because he doesn't have to work at all. We have tried many times to get her to come home but.....Not sure what we will find when we get there but we have to try. There are a lot of hurt feelings on both sides, but at least she is willing to see us and has talked with us a little. Praying for God's will. Will probably not be on for a few days. Thank you. DebB

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by kustomkuddle 04 Oct 2017

Update. Thank you to all for your prayers. I have to trust in God's plan as the visit did not go as well as we had hoped. We were able to see our daughter and grandson twice. The first was for about an hour the day we arrived and then we did get to spend an afternoon with them at the zoo. All other times, there were excuses of not feeling well, appointments, etc. We did not even get to say goodbye in person. I am sure there is more going on than meets the eye. We never saw her husband and it seemed the days he was not working were the days that we could not see Anna. His parents would not even let us in the house to wait for them. Anna had a "strange" mark on her arm she passed of to her being so fair and ends up with bruises she doesn't know about. I realize that his family is a different culture (Puerto Rico) but still.....She has not responded to any of my texts for the past week. Don't know why. I have let her know that we are here for her if she needs us, but the only other thing I can do is give her over to God's care and trust in his plan. I don't like it but this situation would be unbearable if I did not. Thank you again for you prayers. And thank you for letting me vent.

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toogie by toogie 04 Oct 2017

I am sorry things didn't go as good as you had hoped. It sounds as if they have her brainwashed or scared. At least she knows you will be there for her, if she ever has the courage to break free of them all. He or they are probably reading her text, if they are that controlling. What kind of people won't let the inlaws in their house...so sorry for you with this situation. I had been hoping to hear how it went, but never would ask.

kustomkuddle by kustomkuddle 04 Oct 2017

Thank you Toogie. My heart has been so heavy because of all the did not happen. It has been very difficult to talk about until I turned the situation over to God's grace.

clintonmiss22 by clintonmiss22 04 Oct 2017

Continuing to pray for you and your family. God hears your pleas! I pray His answer is YES.

pennifold by pennifold 04 Oct 2017

I am also sorry that things haven’t gone smoothly Debbie. You have told your daughter you are there for her and that is a wonderful thing for her to know and fall back on if and when needed. I pray that you will have contact soon and I know that you can Trust in God’s will. 💕 Chris

crafter2243 by crafter2243 04 Oct 2017

Debbie I am sorry that it did not turn out as you had hoped. You did everything you could and now leaving it in Gods hands is the best. As long as she knows that you are available for her.

sewtired by sewtired 04 Oct 2017

I'm at a loss for words. Praying that this situation improves in what ever way possible. My heart aches for you.

cfidl by cfidl 05 Oct 2017

I am also at a loss for words. I know you did the best you could with the situation presented to you. I will continue to pray for your daughter and grandson.

lbrow by lbrow 06 Oct 2017

Deb,simply keep her and the G. child in God's hands. He will give you Grace and Peace. Trust Him, one day she will need you and reach out, just be there when she does. The both of you will continue in my prayers. Lillian

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by mary51 25 Sep 2017

Prayers sent.

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by clintonmiss22 24 Sep 2017

Praying for you and your family!

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by rachap 24 Sep 2017

I have heard that often times a baby will bring a family back together again. Although he may not be what you dreamed of for your daughter, he may be what she dreamed of. Remember that all this didn't happen overnight so the healing probably won't either. Do what you must to keep from losing her completely because that pain will be overwhelming. Prayers that all will turn out good for all of you.

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by lidiad 24 Sep 2017

Prayers and hugs for you and your family!
Lidia

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by pennifold 24 Sep 2017

Dear Deb, prayers are being said for you and your whole family. ❤️ Chris

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by haleymax 23 Sep 2017

Deb, my prayers are with all of you. Remember that you are two different people and don't look at things the same way. Try to take a deep breath and love her the way she is and was and will be. I know it will be hard and hard to see her in the circumstances she may be in, but the Lord will give you the courage and words to say. Just ask him and he will be with you every step of the way. Love and hugs, Maxine

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by grossfamilie 23 Sep 2017

As a mother of six I feel with you and keep hoping with you. I am so confident your daughter still loves and misses you a lot - especially since she is a mom too. Now she knows how much love and also small and big sorrows and thoughts accompany each new life. She will come to understand you more and more and will appreciate a lot that you reach your hand and heart out to her and her new family. Hope love will fix you together (It is sometimes difficult with daughters when they struggle for independance and attach to the wrong new people). Take care! Hugs-Maria

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by ansienaude 23 Sep 2017

may the Lord give you the wisdom and the strenght to handle what ever happens luv

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by toogie 23 Sep 2017

As a loving mother, you must have cried many tears. I feel you have been trusting God to lead you, so I hope this is the 'right time'. May broken hearts be mended or at the very least, start to mend. If she is willing to meet, that's a start. Maybe she is beginning to see the light but doesn't know where to go from here. May God bless you both with the right things to say.-Toogie

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by cfidl 23 Sep 2017

I pray for healing in your relationship. I just know you will bring the smiles and joy of a new family member and look forward to seeing the pics you take with you. Blessings to all.

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by dragonflyer 23 Sep 2017

Such a difficult situation...hope all works out well and you all can work things out...

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by gdsteliga 23 Sep 2017

You have my prayers. I understand your situation. God does hear our pleas for help. Sometimes it takes a little longer than we want. Always let her know you love her and will be there for her.

God bless
HUGS

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by airyfairy 23 Sep 2017

This must be heartbreaking for you. Not seeing your daughter or your grandchild. The only advice I can give is listen to her. I will be thinking of you all. Cyber hugs.

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by gramt 23 Sep 2017

My heart goes out to you. I pray things will work out and you can build a relationship with your daughter and her family. Grandchildren need their grandma's love.

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by crafter2243 Moderator 22 Sep 2017

Deb I will pray that healing will happen. It has to be heartbreaking.

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by jrob Moderator 22 Sep 2017

Prayers for you little mama to know just the right things to say and to know when to stay and when to leave. Love on that baby you haven't met and be what that sweet child needs.

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by parkermom 22 Sep 2017

Praying for you and your daughter and her husband during this difficult time.

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by lbrow 22 Sep 2017

Deb if it were me I would only reinforce my love for her and let her know I would be there when ever she needed me because that day will come. It has been my experience that sooner or later every girl will need her Mother. My prayers go with you/Lillian

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airyfairy by airyfairy 23 Sep 2017

You are so right Lillian

grossfamilie by grossfamilie 23 Sep 2017

I fully agree - my own experience too

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by joansatx 22 Sep 2017

praying

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by stork 22 Sep 2017

Prayers!!

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by babash 22 Sep 2017

Hope all goes well for you. Do not try to judge and be mindful of your facial expressions while visiting. It may be very hard to not say what you think should be said but take little steps.
Just be sure to let her know that the door to your heart is always open. She may not be ready to come home and he may feel if she does with the child she won't go back.
I know it will be hard but remember there are so many parents in the same situation as you so help is available for you to talk to groups.

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by barba 22 Sep 2017

Blessings to you for not giving up hope and prayers for a positive visit. Hugs, Barba

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by noah 22 Sep 2017

Oh dear May God be with you!!

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by mrskiki 22 Sep 2017

Many prayers going up for the best possible outcome. Hugs. Nan W

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kustomkuddle by kustomkuddle 22 Sep 2017

Thank you.

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by graceandham 22 Sep 2017

Will be praying with you. I too am a parent whose children are not doing what I would have them do and I know it can be so hard to know when to help and when to leave alone. All you can do is hope for the best result for all. Bless you.

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kustomkuddle by kustomkuddle 22 Sep 2017

All we can do is love them and help pick up the pieces.

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by asterixsew Moderator 22 Sep 2017

Will think positive thoughts for you in this difficult situation. Good Luck for a positive outcome

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kustomkuddle by kustomkuddle 22 Sep 2017

Thank you. We need all we can get

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by 02kar Moderator 22 Sep 2017

My prayers are added to yours and I grieve for you, your daughter and grandchild. I know it is a difficult situation. Please know you go with many prayers and hugs. Please let us know how things work out.

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kustomkuddle by kustomkuddle 22 Sep 2017

Thank you so much. I'm praying for the best. It is hard not to get my hopes up. We were all set to fly out to get her and her son in March, then two days before we were set to leave she called and said Leon thought it best they stayed with his Mom. Broke my heart

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