by dididwiar 04 Jun 2015

I haven't been around much lately. I've been taking care of my Dad.

He died on Saturday morning (30th May at 3am) in the hospital.
He had been battling Multiple Myeloma for a year and a half. On the wednesday before he died he had suffered a small heart attack and his tired body could not cope.
He suffered terribly those last 3 days. I stayed by his side til he passed. The first and only Quilt I've made draped around him. I'm so glad I made it. It's not perfect but he loved it and now I will treasure it.
I miss him already.

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by sebsews 05 Jun 2015

I am still very sorry for the loss of your dear father. He is now in a place of peace, where there is no pain or suffering. please take time to remember the good times. I have learn everything happens for a reason and you making that first and only quilt had a reason. I know you will cherish that quilt forever. Sending my sincere sympathy to you and your family. Suzanna

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dididwiar by dididwiar 06 Jun 2015

Thank you Suzanna. I will cherish it.

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by RockyB 05 Jun 2015

Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. My brother also has Multiple Myeloma.

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you. I really wish your brother well. Treatments are very promising for MM now. Unfortunately my Dad was too old and frail so he opted for pain management only. In the end his kidneys failed amongst other things.

RockyB by RockyB 06 Jun 2015

Thank you, I am praying that these new treatments work. My brother is awesome and I hate that he is having to go through this. Prayers for you and your family.

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by momac 05 Jun 2015

Sorry for you loss. Take care, my thoughts are with you. Hugs from Maureen

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you so much

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by sdrise 05 Jun 2015

I am so sorry your lost your dad... You were with him and he loved your quilt as he loved you. prayers are with you! Suzanne

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you Suzanne.

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by marianb 05 Jun 2015

So sorry for your loss, remember we are good listeners if you need to talk about anything.. Marian

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you Marian.
I am absolutely blown away by the support from my cute friends. It helps a lot. I had no idea it would but it does.
Again I Thank you and my other friends here. xx

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by pennifold 05 Jun 2015

So sorry to read about your darling Dad Didi. My prayers are with you all. Love Chris

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you Chris. xx

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by aussiequilter 05 Jun 2015

Im sorry for your loss .take care of yourself

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you

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by lidiad 05 Jun 2015

Very sorry for the loss of your father. Sincere condolences and hugs.
Lidia

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you Lidia.
Hugs to you to.

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by Leaha edited 04 Jun 2015

May God bless your heart and send His Angels to comfort you, in this your time of sorrow. Father's are special in a woman's life. I know mine was, I lost him 15 years ago. Wrap yourself inside the blanket and cuddle with him whenever you have a need. His love will always surround you, he's never far. Please accept my sincere sympathy.

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

That's very sweet of you, Thank you so much.

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by vickiannette 04 Jun 2015

my dad also died on May 30th.....but 19 years ago. It is very sad to loose our parents and it does take a while to realize that you [the ones left] are now the 'older' generation. Remember him, but allow yourself to grieve.

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you. Sad that we will be reminded of each other now every May 30th but grateful we will not feel alone. Hugs

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by KCowden 04 Jun 2015

I am so sorry for your loss. It is never easy when you loose a loved one no matter how prepared you think you may be. May God wrap His loving arms around and comfort you!

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you. Yes I agree with you.

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by mommajo 04 Jun 2015

So sorry for your loss. I know how you feel , lost my dad to that same terrible disease. My thoughts a prayers are with you.

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you and I sympathise with you too. It's a terrible disease. Hugs

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by graceandham 04 Jun 2015

So sorry for your huge loss. I'm so glad you had such quality time with him in the weeks before he left you. May you be blessed by the good memories of him and for the sacrifices you made to be with him during his struggle. Hard to witness, but a blessing being by his side. I will be praying for you as you continue to mourn his loss.

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Yes You are right very hard to witness. But I would have never left his side. Thank you so much.

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by haleymax 04 Jun 2015

I am so sorry for your loss.

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you

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by susiesembroidery 04 Jun 2015

My sincere condolences on the loss of you father. May your heartache soon change to remember the good times and the treasured moments. May God bless and comfort you in your time of bereavement.

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you so much

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by 02kar Moderator 04 Jun 2015

I'm very familiar with the battle you and your war waged with Multible Myeloma. My heart goes out to you. I know your quilt which has so much love stitched into gave your dad much comfort. You have the best testimony of love knowing he spent many hours wrapped in your love. It's OK to miss him, but while you are missing him remember the many times of love and laughter you experienced over the years.

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

I know you understand. It's very cruel.
I have many fond and Happy memories that I will treasure.
Thank you so much.

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by dakota 04 Jun 2015

My condolences. My thoughts are with you and your family

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you so much!

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by cfidl 04 Jun 2015

my condolences. I wish I could the missing goes away. Big hugs!

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you. Hugs to you too.

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by asterixsew Moderator 04 Jun 2015

Thinking of you

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you x

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by hagridsmom 04 Jun 2015

I'm so sorry. Thank heavens you have the quilt to wrap yourself in when you need a hug. It's very hard to watch someone go thru all this. Give yourself lots of time with the quilt.

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

I will and Thank you.

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by laffma1 04 Jun 2015

My sincere condolences to you and your family. Your quilt must have been a great comfort to him - being able to wrap himself up in your loving hands. I hope you can find comfort in knowing that your dad is now finally at rest, and no longer feels the pain he had endured in his last years. Multiple Myeloma can be a brutal disease. My cousin's B-I-L was recently diagnosed with this and has just now started his treatment regime.

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you for your condolences. I hope that all goes well for your B-I-L. The treatments these days are very much improved. Unfortunately Dad was too old and frail for anything much to help him so it was all about pain management.

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by airyfairy 04 Jun 2015

I am so very sorry. My condolences to you and your family

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you so much.

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by grandmamek 04 Jun 2015

My sincere condolences on the loss of your Dad. May the Lord be with you and provide you with the comfort you need at this very trying time in your life. I am glad to hear your Dad loved your quilt. When you wrap up in it you will find that it will hold precious memories of him. Hugs, Mary

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Yes Mary your right. I am comforted by having it around me. Thank you. Hugs to you too.

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by noah 04 Jun 2015

you are a GOOD daughter may God bless you with his presents in the comming days Hugs Carolyn

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Thank you. I have no regrets. I did the best I could and he always told me he felt blessed for having me. It was not hard he was a beautiful man.

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by gerryb 04 Jun 2015

My heart & prayers are with you. You will always miss him, but the memories grow sweeter & sweeter. So glad he could enjoy the quilt!

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

Me to, Thank you Gerry.

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by crazystitcher 04 Jun 2015

Sincere sympathy for your very sad loss; you have been on a challenging journey and it is time, now for you to have as much space as you need to grieve; eventually, I do hope that your many fond memories together with the knowledge that you were able to assure him of your love and make that very special quilt for him, and be there for him will bring you much comfort and help you to grow strong again. Nowadays it is a very sad fact that many frail people are left to die alone; you did not do that to your Dad - you found the courage and made the time and effort to share his most difficult days, so I must say to you - well done and God bless.

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dididwiar by dididwiar 05 Jun 2015

How very nice of you to say. Thank you so much!
You are right to many dear old souls are left alone.

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by lbrow 04 Jun 2015

My prayers are with you and may the Lord be your comfort in the loss of your dad. I am so glad you made the quilt and now have it to be a lasting memory for you. God Bless in this trying g time/Lillian

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dididwiar by dididwiar 04 Jun 2015

Thank you Lillian

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by anangel 04 Jun 2015

I am so sorry for your loss! Glad he loved your quilt, and I am sure it will be treasured as a remembrance of him. It's been many, many years, since I lost my parents, and I miss them still. Your being by his side those last few days had to have been so special to him and meant so much! Loving hugs to YOU!
Angel

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dididwiar by dididwiar 04 Jun 2015

Thank you so much

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by toogie 04 Jun 2015

I'm so sorry to hear your of your loss of your dad and the heartache you feel. Wrap yourself with the precious quilt when you are lonesome for him....... I have a large blanket, thread bare, and over 50 years old. I used to wrap my body in it when I was young, and jump in the bed, it was so cold in the winter. When my grandpa, whom I dearly loved, fell dead in our yard with a sudden heart attack, someone went in our house and got my blanket to cover him with, until the body was picked up. I have kept it all these years and think of him fondly, whenever I come across it. ...I'm glad you made the quilt, too.-Toogie

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dididwiar by dididwiar 04 Jun 2015

Thank you Toogie.
So sad for you. I can well understand your love for your blanket.

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by gramsbear 04 Jun 2015

I am so sorry for your loss, even when we know it is coming, we are not prepared for a loved one passing. I Pray for you to have Peace about this, and it will come over time. I am sure you feel Blessed to have spent his last days with him. Love & Prayers for you and family, Judy...

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dididwiar by dididwiar 04 Jun 2015

Thank you Judy.

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by sewemb 04 Jun 2015

Please accept my sympathy

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dididwiar by dididwiar 04 Jun 2015

I do and Thank you

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by pldc 04 Jun 2015

I am so sorry to hear of your dad's passing. I'm sure the quilt you so lovingly made for him was perfect & he loved it. When you wrap yourself up in it he will be right there in your heart holding you close always until you meet again. ~hugs~

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dididwiar by dididwiar 04 Jun 2015

He did love it. Thank you

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by gerryvb 04 Jun 2015

so sorry for your loss, the quilt you made him will always be a special treasure, filled with lovely memories to your Dad. He will always have that special place in your heart and watch over you, knowing how you loved him and stayed with him till the final goodbye. I wish you strength and send you hugs. Gerry

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dididwiar by dididwiar 04 Jun 2015

I hug you back. Thanks Gerry

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by dragonflyer 04 Jun 2015

So very sad for your loss...but the quilt you made for your Dad, you will treasure even more for a lifetime...

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dididwiar by dididwiar 04 Jun 2015

Yes you are right. Thank you

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by basketkase 04 Jun 2015

Oh my goodness..........anyone who has lost a parent feels your pain........
what a beautiful memory you will have of your dad being wrapped in love as he passed.......bless you and your family as you miss this important person you love so dearly......

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dididwiar by dididwiar 04 Jun 2015

Thanks Vicki. You are right I will treasure this lap quilt with all it's flaws you put it so beautifully "wrapped in love".
Thankyou

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by rescuer Moderator 04 Jun 2015

I am so very sorry for your loss. I know that feeling...it is heartbreaking.

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dididwiar by dididwiar 04 Jun 2015

Thankyou. Yes it is heartbreaking. I don't think I will ever be the same.

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by jrob Moderator 04 Jun 2015

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I hope you will use that quilt because it was perfect. Perfectly made with love and he knew that. It was good that you got to be with him and say your goodbyes for now. You need to rest and grieve for as long as it takes and you will be in my prayers.

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dididwiar by dididwiar 04 Jun 2015

I will use the quilt. I couldn't part with it. Definately made with love. Thankyou for your prayers.

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